Hello all,
I am a Newbie Army girlfriend of 10 months, and my baby deploys Dec 1st for 15 months, and I am feeling very overwhelmed at this point. He leaves this weekend for a 3 week training, and then he will be home for a month and a half and then gone for 15. Before he got his official orders we were talking engagement early next year, but in light of the current situation we have opted to wait until his return so that we have something to look forward to when he comes back. He has deployed to Iraq 2x already, one previous time he was actually married, and his ex dear Johned him while he was over there. So now we are going through him dealing with trusting me to actually be there when I say I will, as well as the normal pre-deployment issues. To boot, his mother does not feel that I will be able to stay strong the whole time while he is over there, and has tried to convince me in every way to leave now so that I do not hurt him while he is over there. Just feeling a little...no extremely overwhelmed with all of the emotions and not sure what to do. My friends, God Bless them, are trying to listen and be supportive, but none of them are militarySOSs so they truly don't know what I am going through. Just breifly reading through some of your blogs already has comforted me, and I am looking forward to the support and comfort I am hoping to get from all of you on this site. God Bless - Beth

First off welcome to SOS, everyone here is wonderful and very supportive :), if you ever just want to chat, pm me. Just stay strong for him and keep yourself busy and before you know it you guys will be together again AND getting married :D Good luck and I hope you love it here!!!

Welcome. Just show that you are going to stay with him and be as supportive as you can. Keep yourself busy and the time will go by fast. If you need anything or want to talk, feel free to PM me. I am currently going through our first deployment and it helps when you have support esp. with people who are in the same situation.

Welcome to SOS. There are so many different girls on here I am sure you will find at least one person who you can connect with. There is at least one person who has BTDT with just about every imaginable situation as far as the military goes!!

As for his mom, just prove her wrong! I think it's understandable that she wants to protect her son, so all you can do is prove her wrong. ;)

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:welcome Beth! You will enjoy it here, the ladies are quite supportive...it's kinda like a 2nd home for me. :hi

:hi Welcome! There are tons of wonderful and supportive ladies here to help you through this :hugs

welcome to SOS!

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Welcome Beth! :hi I think you both are having normal feelings and emotions about this deployment. Hopefully you understand where he and his mother is coming from and that they are not trying to hurt you. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you're right, most civilians do not uderstand but that is why you have us!! Your friends may not be military wives/gfs but they are still your friends so lean on them as much as you can.

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Welcome Beth! :hi I think you both are having normal feelings and emotions about this deployment. Hopefully you understand where he and his mother is coming from and that they are not trying to hurt you. It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and you're right, most civilians do not uderstand but that is why you have us!! Your friends may not be military wives/gfs but they are still your friends so lean on them as much as you can.

Agree!

Hang on, sweetie! You have a lot of friends in this website that understand what you are going through. ;)

:weldust I am an Army gf also & I went through a similar thing after dating my DB for 9 months (he left on our anny :( ) he has been gone just over 8 now. Being here has been so helpful- these ladies are more then happy to listen when you are falling apart and give you silly fun things to think about all the time! PM me any time you need an ear!! :hugs

:welcome You will love it here! Feel free to pm anytime!! :hugs

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It will be ok! Being overwellmed...well, yea - its really normal. Sounds like he is scared to be hurt, and on the flip worried you would be too. Be supportive, and just keep coming back here to stay connected & get advise!!

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Welcome Beth! You've found the right spot.

:hi Beth. Welcome to sos. Hopefully you find this site helpful. :hugs

try to stay strong. it would be good to get married before he left. that way if something did happen, you would be taken care of. anyway, you can pull through this. god doesnt give you anything that we cant handle. just try to stay busy. i know how you are feeling. my husband got to see our daughter being born, and left 6 days later. he left in jan and gets to come home for christmas. 15 months is a long time. just think positive and maybe even start planning a wedding!!

Welcome. I am sorry you are dealing with so much. Good luck to you and stay strong.

Welcome to SOS! This board is really helpful when you feel like there's no one around you that understands exactly what you're going through. Prove his mother wrong and stay strong! Taking up crafts, new jobs, and just keeping busy in general helps to pass the time during deployments. Also, while he's away it's a really good time to grow closer through letters and emails. You gain a whole new level of appreciation for the time that he's home.

Hello all,
I am a Newbie Army girlfriend of 10 months, and my baby deploys Dec 1st for 15 months, and I am feeling very overwhelmed at this point. He leaves this weekend for a 3 week training, and then he will be home for a month and a half and then gone for 15. Before he got his official orders we were talking engagement early next year, but in light of the current situation we have opted to wait until his return so that we have something to look forward to when he comes back. He has deployed to Iraq 2x already, one previous time he was actually married, and his ex dear Johned him while he was over there. So now we are going through him dealing with trusting me to actually be there when I say I will, as well as the normal pre-deployment issues. To boot, his mother does not feel that I will be able to stay strong the whole time while he is over there, and has tried to convince me in every way to leave now so that I do not hurt him while he is over there. Just feeling a little...no extremely overwhelmed with all of the emotions and not sure what to do. My friends, God Bless them, are trying to listen and be supportive, but none of them are militarySOSs so they truly don't know what I am going through. Just breifly reading through some of your blogs already has comforted me, and I am looking forward to the support and comfort I am hoping to get from all of you on this site. God Bless - Beth

:hugehug and hang in there ... my dear husband is deploying in a couple of days too and I already found support and words of encouragement from all the lovely ladies in here ... just stand by him and pray for his safety ... love him unconditionally :)

Welcome to the group! I am Tiffany 24 married to Paul 26 we have been married for 6 1/2 years. We have 2 children together. We live in Newport News, VA. Paul is stationed on the USS Carl Vinson but he will leave next month to go to the PCU GEORGE H.W. BUSH

Hi & Welcome to SOS! You've come to the right place...these ladies are WONDERFUL :)

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