WAIT FOR POLL!
If you and your husband realized years after you gave birth that there was a mixed up at the hospital and the child you now have is not your natural child. What would you do? would you do everything you could to find your baby and give up the one you have raised for years? This is VERY sad to even think about it but what would you do?

This was part of the episode of "Private Practice" last night.

I understand that legally it must be done....however, as a mother (biological or not) you still develop a bond with your "child".

I seriously could not even answer my own poll cause I would want to keep both :(

I would rather keep the child I raised and loved as my own. All the legalities out of it, I wouldn't switch them back. That would be SOOOOOOOO traumatic. :no

After YEARS no. That is my child. Just like an adopted child, it is your child because you have put your heart into raising that child. Blood has nothing to do with anything to me. I would, however, sue the shit out of the hospital. They can at least help me with college since they were negligent.

I seriously could not even answer my own poll cause I would want to keep both :(

Same for me I don't think I can answer. :sadeyes I mean a couple weeks is one thing but years is totally different. :no

I would not want to switch them back, but I would defintaly want to know "my" child.

Well I would like to have the child that my husband and I conceived. That baby is apart of us! I am sure the mother knew that child was not hers, or always felt like something was wrong.

I would want to know my child was ok, but I don't know that I'd actually want to tell them that their parents weren't really their parents, kwim? I think it would be too painful for them.

I would try and work something out with the other parents so that maybe both children could still be as involved as possible with the parents that raised then and each couple could be involved with their biological children as well. I couldn't imagine having to make any other kind of choice that involved not having either one of the children in my life.

I would rather keep the child I raised and loved as my own. All the legalities out of it, I wouldn't switch them back. That would be SOOOOOOOO traumatic. :no

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I wouldn't do a thing...

If the family was good and could take care of my child then no..I would just want joint custody and to have frequent visits..I think it would cause more harm than good for him after that long to have to start over.

I think I would definitely want to keep the child I had been raising. It is one thing if it is a few weeks even months. But once you have been that involved in someone life it is no longer a question of genetics but instead emotions and nurture.

Being the case that you got the wrong baby, the parents who have your baby are in the same situation.
When I give birth my husband better don't take his eyes away from our baby!

I would not want to switch them back, but I would defintaly want to know "my" child.



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Man, this is a hard one though LOL

I would not want to switch them back, but I would defintaly want to know "my" child.

ITA!!! Plus think how tramatic it would be for a child to think that the parents that raised them, no longer want them b/c they aren't "thiers" KWIM

After YEARS no. That is my child. Just like an adopted child, it is your child because you have put your heart into raising that child. Blood has nothing to do with anything to me. I would, however, sue the shit out of the hospital. They can at least help me with college since they were negligent.

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I would, however, sue the shit out of the hospital. They can at least help me with college since they were negligent.

Hell yeah! I could use the money!

Seriously though, if I found out my daughter wasn't mine by blood who cares I love her and I've raised her and that means more to me than someone who has no connection to me other than biology. Not to mention, how screwed up would the kids be after being switched back?

I WANT to say: Finding out YEARS later, no I wouldn't trade them. But I'd do everything in my power to find my bio child and make sure I was allowed to have a relationship with him/her. I'd want to fight for custody but probably wouldn't due to the trama it could cause my child. But I'd damn well make sure we had a relationship, and that my child had one with his/her bio parents. Basically, I'd hope both sides could treat it as an open adoption with both families meshing.

But really thinking about it (like thinking if I found out my 8 year old brother was actually my kid), I sure would fight for custody if we were still military cuz of moving so often, it'd be hard to maintain as much of a relationship I'd want with them moving all the time/probably being far from them. It's MY child and I would be able to know for sure how the other family was raising/treating my child. I wouldn't want to give up the child I'd been raising, though....I think if we weren't military any more, and it was a good family, I'd move as close as possible and make sure I got time with my child.

Not sure, but I would also have to ask myself from the other side which would be harder...Would I want to take my biological child away from the other parents who had raised her all those years...