I'm having a minor meltdown with him getting out.

We only have two months until we leave Japan and four months until he's out of the Navy. :ohno Our entire life together has been funded by the Navy and I'm kind of scared to do it on our own!

I haven't had a real job in five years.

DJ has been working since he was fifteen and wants to take about 4 months off. I'm terrified that my income won't be able to support us. He was talking about filing for unemployment for a few months to help until his GI Bill or the Voc Rehab Program kicks in to supplement our pay. He's also going to be considered partially disabled (who knows what percentage the VA will give him - hopefully it's at least 30% because then they give extra $ for me).

I'm terrified that we won't have any insurance. You can COBRA the TriCare insurance but it costs $1989/90 days. :wowsers Our insurance pretty much runs out ON March 5, 2008. :worried Yeah and I'm on SEVEN different medications right now. :tired

Let's not get into the fact that we have no house, no car, no job, very little savings. :tears

DJ could literally see the stress on my face and slid a posty note over to me, it said: We'll be OK! I love you. (So I teared up. :lol)

And he wonders why I can't fall asleep at night. :whatever

I don't know what to say other than if you need a venting post I am here! :hug

It just seems all the more daunting because we're seperating from Japan. Well, no. We're relocating from Japan. He's seperating in Bangor.

:hugs

Then where will you guys go?

Southern Oregon.

:hugs I know what you mean, the civilian world totally terrifies me. :hugehug

I've made it before on my own, but it seems really scary right now! :lol

I've made it before on my own, but it seems really scary right now! :lol
:yes it is really different when you are used to a certain lifestyle and all.

:hugs I did the same thing when I got out in 98, I stressed and stressed. Then things worked out.

wow, you are scared of the civillian world, and im terrified of the army world.. i think change is a little scary to everyone!

Why are you getting out though?

Why are you getting out though?

Because my husband no longer wishes for the Navy to be his career.

I'm so sorry. I don't really have any advice, since we haven't BTDT before. I hope everything works out for you. I know I get anxious when DH just talks about getting out of the military.

HUGS we are getting out as well and i am scared to death. BIG HUGS i am sure it will work out try to be positive thinking

Same to you!!! :)

I understand completely and Im sorry I have no advice because I am in that same panic! He goes on terminal leave Dec. 21! I am so scared!!

I can offer hugs and understanding!!:hugs :yes Hang in there and I wish you all nothing but the best!! :goodvibes :goodvibes :hugs

I feel exactly like you do. We only have 24 more days and he is STILL not on terminal leave. Its one hell of a scary situation. Its so stressful. I wish I could tell you it gets easier as the end gets closer. On the bright side you guys don't have any children yet and you have a plan. Things always have a way of working out in the end.

:hugehug

Does he have a job lined up and everything? Maybe once he has a job landed, you'll feel less stressed.

:hugs Everything will work out for you sweetie. :goodvibes

:hugehug

It truly will be ok Britt. DJ should definitely go on unemployment until he starts working and/or the GI Bill payment starts up. Has he looked into Vocational Rehab too? Hopefully he will get the 30% disability rating. That is what James got and its definitely a plus to get that extra money every month.

I'm not going to lie - the transition will probably be one of the hardest things you have to go through. I know it was for us. All you can do is take it day by day, try to remain strong and keep a positive attitude. Just think, no more deployments, that in itself makes it all worth while.

As far as your insurance goes, do you have a pre-existing condition? As you know, I have a pre-exisisting condition, and I take alot of meds so it was a true PITA to get insurance. We have James & Conner on one insurance policy, and I have to have a completely seperate insurance policy because of my medical problems. I will help you as much as possible to find health insurance if you would like. DJ should be covered under the VA for any pre-existing conditions he has.

Hang in there sweetie, and please PM me ANYTIME!! :hugs

I"m so sorry you're stressing out... rightfully so! If it's making you this nervous, tell your DH that it would make you feel better if he took a job right away, even if it's a temporary job until he finds a better one. When he finds a better one, he can plan on starting it a month later giving him some time off. Just an idea... good luck hun!