I was going to send the ex (very recent breakup) a package to Iraq to lift his mood since he's been feeling down lately. Well, i guess not anymore. :no

Even though i accepted the fact that he wanted to break up, and wanted to remain friends...i guess he and I never could agree on the whole breakup situtation and the way things are right now. It's so complicated, there's still so many feelings involved, but it's almost like he's hiding them because he either doesn't want to get back together, or he feels like an idiot now because he was the one who ended it. :mumble Who knows???

We got into a big bust up one day on IM, and he told me not to send him the package!!! He said he never asked for anything, and he doesn't want it. He said, he doesn't need anything either. I was like "OMG!! I got all this stuff for you and i'm going to send it, i don't care what you say!! What am i going to do with it all?!! It's all for you and it's waiting to be sent out, i have to just go take it to the PO!!". He was like "NO, give it to someone else, i don't want it, and i definately don't want the thoughts i'll have when i get your package either". I was like wtf?? Is he seriousss???? :eek He was like, "We have a huge fight like this and you're telling me you're sending me stuff? Don't send it, i don't want it". And me being the B that i am told him "Well when i sent you your other packages while we were broke up TOO, you never complained, and you never asked for that shit either but i sent it to you, and you loved it all". And all he could say was "Yeah well i never asked you to send anything, and you shouldn't have".

WHAT AN UNGRATEFUL SHIT...:vent I swear i would have beat his ass black and blue if he was infront of me. :grumpy Wellll, our convo was soooo crappy, i kinda told him to go stuff it :handup and he needs to learn to appreciate more, and realize that i am his EX now, not his gf anymore, and i'm STILL sending him stuff....:duh and now i don't know if i'll hear from him again. ARGHHHHHHHHHH....:arg It was a pretty nasty convo and kinda put our friendship in jeopardy...which i'm concerned about now, because i was hoping we might reconcile when he comes home next month! :dunno

Should i still send him the package without telling him??? Bare in mind we are exs now..and have been for a few months...What do y'all think?! :confused

Do it, it will show you are the bigger person!

well, i definitely wouldnt send it! He was being a jerk, jerks dont deserve nice packages sent to them. Thats like rewarding bad behavior almost in my opinion.. like "oh well you can be mean to me, but ill still send you stuff"

hm dont send it what a jerk off...ive got a soldiers angel soldier you can send it to if you dont want it to go to waste:)

Do you have anyone else you could send it to? Because you don't need the memories and thoughts of having it sitting there either. I think I'd be inclined to mail it to him and say "you don't want the thoughts, well, I don't either, so share it" I don't know I can be a B***h like that though.

Do you have anyone else you could send it to? Because you don't need the memories and thoughts of having it sitting there either. I think I'd be inclined to mail it to him and say "you don't want the thoughts, well, I don't either, so share it" I don't know I can be a B***h like that though.

id def mail it and write something so fing nasty to him.

what a douche.

just send it, he is being a huge tool but getting rid of the package will make you feel better. How ungrateful though, you take time out of your day to put that package together and he won't even say thank you for the effort?

I wouldn't send it if he is being that much of a tool, screw him.. or you can send it to his friend. :lol

well, i definitely wouldnt send it! He was being a jerk, jerks dont deserve nice packages sent to them. Thats like rewarding bad behavior almost in my opinion.. like "oh well you can be mean to me, but ill still send you stuff"

I agree. He's being an ass.

Do you have anyone else you could send it to? Because you don't need the memories and thoughts of having it sitting there either. I think I'd be inclined to mail it to him and say "you don't want the thoughts, well, I don't either, so share it" I don't know I can be a B***h like that though.

:yes I like that idea. :)

First of all, :hang !!

If I was you, I would not send it to him. I agree with ladyinwaiting, adopt a soldier, then you can send it to someone who would appreciate it.

If you do send it, send it because it's a nice thing to help a soldier (not an ex), and don't expect anything from him (i.e. emotions, response....) KWIM?

First of all, :hang !!

If I was you, I would not send it to him. I agree with ladyinwaiting, adopt a soldier, then you can send it to someone who would appreciate it.

If you do send it, send it because it's a nice thing to help a soldier (not an ex), and don't expect anything from him (i.e. emotions, response....) KWIM?

I agree. Maybe he wants to break up for some reason, but it's still hard for him and he is trying to move on. I don't think that sending it will do anything good for him or you. He is a big boy and a package isn't going to change his mind, especially if he is saying that about the old packages. Those guys have a lot of stress over there and you guys bickering about whether or not to send a package after you have broken up should be the least of his worries. My unneeded advice? I would just let things lie for a while and take some time for yourself... if it's meant to be it will happen. If you keep forcing things on him, it will drive him away even further. Trust me on this one, I know from MUCH experience! Good luck and we are all here for you!

Well, it's hard to say what to do because I dont know the situation, but if you want to send, then send it.. what's the worse thing he can do, give it away?

I wouldn't send it either...I would find someone else to send it to who is over there who would like and appreciate it more.

There are others out there who would be very grateful to get anything in the mail.

Don't waste it on an ingrate :no

I would send it because you are the bigger person and HEY you never know what he might think after he gets it. The package just might change his mind about what he has said.

~*~Charity~*~

ehh. listen to him. He doesnt want the package so don't send it to him. It sounds like you are sending him stuff in the hopes of reconciling, and i bet he can see through it. Probably why he's saying he doesnt want the package because he doesnt want the obligation...

ex's don't make good friends btw. You're better off putting your energy into someone who is going to reciprocate

Do you have anyone else you could send it to? Because you don't need the memories and thoughts of having it sitting there either. I think I'd be inclined to mail it to him and say "you don't want the thoughts, well, I don't either, so share it" I don't know I can be a B***h like that though.

:agree

if I've said it once, I've said it a thousand times..

Men.:no

LOL, oh my gosh! So many mixed responses i don't even know what to do now, haha! A lot of you are so right though...why should i send it to him, he's an ungrateful shit head...:mumble

MissJasmin25: You're so right..he probably will assume that i'm sending him the package in hopes to reconcile....freakin douche bag...GAWD i could seriously kick his stupid assssssssssss.:vent

I would send it to one of his friends, but i don't know their full names to send the package. Although i'd LOVE to do that so that it nips him in the ass GOOD! :twisted :lol

hm dont send it what a jerk off...ive got a soldiers angel soldier you can send it to if you dont want it to go to waste:)


yeah, i say send it to someone deserving

I agree. Maybe he wants to break up for some reason, but it's still hard for him and he is trying to move on. I don't think that sending it will do anything good for him or you. He is a big boy and a package isn't going to change his mind, especially if he is saying that about the old packages. Those guys have a lot of stress over there and you guys bickering about whether or not to send a package after you have broken up should be the least of his worries. My unneeded advice? I would just let things lie for a while and take some time for yourself... if it's meant to be it will happen. If you keep forcing things on him, it will drive him away even further. Trust me on this one, I know from MUCH experience! Good luck and we are all here for you!

Yeah, i've just decided to take a back seat. That's why we got into the huge bust up the other day..because i told him i'm backing off and that he doesn't appreciate me or reciprocate in anyway..and i guess he didn't like what i had to say, because it probably hurt his ego to know that i was shaming him and everything i was saying was the truth!! Oh well, the truth hurts!! The ball is in his court now, and if he decides to contact me...he can grovel until i think it's enough. Pft!!

Why put your self on his same level? I'm sure you have better things to do than sending a package to someone who obviously doesn't apreciate it.

Why put your self on his same level? I'm sure you have better things to do than sending a package to someone who obviously doesn't apreciate it.

I know right! Jeez, i need to stop!

I definately wouldn't send it to him. I agree with the other girls, it's probably interpreted as a reconciliation attempt or your way of hanging on to him. Best to just let it go, so many lonely soldiers out there with the adopt-a-soldier program that would absolutely love it! Sorry it's like that with you guys...jus leave it alone for awhile with him...you deserve someone who appreciates you!

i would send it anyway...let him feel the feelings that comes with it!