I just looked at DB's myspace page... and it says single??? WTF??? He recently deployed, but he gave me no indication of that........I'm so upset right now.:tears:tears

DONT believe MYSPACE...Ask him I'm sure there is a very reasonable explanation to this...Hope it all works out hun

DONT believe MYSPACE...Ask him I'm sure there is a very reasonable explanation to this...Hope it all works out hun

:yes, I'm sure it's nothing :hugehug:hang

gah one of the reasons i HATE myspace...ignore it theres prolly a valid reason DONT freak out about it until you talk to him

Did it say "in a relationship" or something before? If he's never changed the default settings then it will say "single".
If it was different before & NOW says single, i absolutely think you need to talk to him!

Did it say "in a relationship" or something before? If he's never changed the default settings then it will say "single".
If it was different before & NOW says single, i absolutely think you need to talk to him!

I was thinking the same exact thing. If he just got on there, it will say single automatically. He might not know how to change it, or he might not know it is there, since he wouldn't see that on his homepage. I wouldn't freak out unless it wasn't single before...and now it is.

has it always said single?

Did it say "in a relationship" or something before? If he's never changed the default settings then it will say "single".
If it was different before & NOW says single, i absolutely think you need to talk to him!

you read my mind. :yes

We've had myspace for a while, his has said in a relationship for a while. He also has his profile set to approve comments, but he hasn't approved any from me, though he hasn't approved any from anyone lately. His top friends all got messed around from 6 on, he had a ton and then they went away, the place I was got someone else, the one next to me (his stupid ex) still is her, next to her is someone else, when I asked him what happened, he acted like he had no clue. I'm really hoping like he hasn't done anything and it was an accident.

He hasn't changed his pictures since he left, though he doesn't have any of us, I've only got one of us. The night before he left he told me he would miss me and he loved me, too. I really seriously pray that it's just myspace being myspace.

I sent him an email on there asking him what was going on with it, told him he was scaring me. Asked him to please talk to me and not to push me away, then told him I love him.

I really hate this, not only is he gone and I can't just call him up and question it, but there's still a bunch of time left. Before I flew out and left Cali, right after he left me at security he sent me a text saying he'll miss me and he loves me. I really hope he hasn't done a 180. He means so much to me.

I'm so scared right now and I just wish I could talk to him somehow.:tears:depressed

Oh, and what makes it even harder is that he's in Iraq... so I can't exactly just talk to him whenever and get that reason from him.

:hugs good luck...hope you get it all straight soon

DONT believe MYSPACE...Ask him I'm sure there is a very reasonable explanation to this...Hope it all works out hun

:agree

i've had my myspace hacked a couple times maybe a friend hacked his and is screwing with you or something similar

:agree

i've had my myspace hacked a couple times maybe a friend hacked his and is screwing with you or something similar

I'm failing to see the humor :reallymad

I'm hoping (praying) it's just a huge mistake. I really wish I'd hear from him.

I'm failing to see the humor :reallymad

I'm hoping (praying) it's just a huge mistake. I really wish I'd hear from him.

i never said it was funny. guys are stupid though

i never said it was funny. guys are stupid though
AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i never said it was funny. guys are stupid though

I know, but I'm still failing to see any humor :(

I'm sort of having a hard time believing that he would just change it and be done with it after everything we've been through, including our friendship. Or I don't want to believe it. It would be so much easier if I could just call him right now!! And I can't even get a hold of my best friend because she never has her phone with her. It's all so frustrating:banghead.

Awwwwww,pumpkin:hugs I :pray its just myspace being myspace.I know it'll drive you crazy.I had the same problem when I dated a guy who never called me and I would go ballistic :censored every week that went by that he never called.But he never ever told me he loved me or missed me and he worked all over the state and was civilian...so he wasnt a cop,fire fighter or military.He had no excuse! Yours actually does as far as contacting you.

Hang in there...keep it cool.Do not let your mind jump to conclusions But I would mention it to him but do not get all nasty and jump his case about it.It could always be myspace acting up.

I know, but I'm still failing to see any humor :(

I'm sort of having a hard time believing that he would just change it and be done with it after everything we've been through, including our friendship. Or I don't want to believe it. It would be so much easier if I could just call him right now!! And I can't even get a hold of my best friend because she never has her phone with her. It's all so frustrating:banghead.

don't jump to conclusions when you do talk to him though. don't yell at him just be like i was on myspace the other day (leaving a message or something) and noticed that your profile said you were single i just wanted to let you know in case your profile got hacked. say it like that that way you don't sound accusing

Awwwwww,pumpkin:hugs I :pray its just myspace being myspace.I know it'll drive you crazy.I had the same problem when I dated a guy who never called me and I would go ballistic :censored every week that went by that he never called.But he never ever told me he loved me or missed me and he worked all over the state and was civilian...so he wasnt a cop,fire fighter or military.He had no excuse! Yours actually does as far as contacting you.

Hang in there...keep it cool.Do not let your mind jump to conclusions But I would mention it to him but do not get all nasty and jump his case about it.It could always be myspace acting up.

Oh, I'm not going to get all nasty with him or anything mean. I just want some answers, because as of 5 days ago, I was hearing I love you and I'll miss you. As far as I'm concerned, you don't just suddenly stop loving someone out of the blue. So no, this can't be over.

My mom thinks that maybe he's worried somethings going to happen to him and he wants me to be ok, or something like that. But really, I'd be much more ok if we stayed like we have been and got through this deployment like originally planned.

And I think that's part of my problem, I had an ex that I didn't hear from for 2 weeks, which was fine, I figured he was busy, but then suddenly he deleted me on myspace and changed it to single, we had been together for maybe 9 months. I mean, yes, DB is far better than him, but old scars don't exactly go away just like that, and with something like this, they can come back to the surface.

don't jump to conclusions when you do talk to him though. don't yell at him just be like i was on myspace the other day (leaving a message or something) and noticed that your profile said you were single i just wanted to let you know in case your profile got hacked. say it like that that way you don't sound accusing

Except I already sent him an email on there, because honestly, I have no clue when I'll get to talk to him next. It wasn't mean though. I put this...

Babe, what's with your profile saying single....? You're scaring me here..... Please talk to me. I love you. Don't ignore me, and please don't push me away.

-Bri


He can sometimes shut people out and put up a wall, but he needs to remember that we're in this together. I love him, I don't stop loving him and being there for him just because he deployed and I wont get to talk to him often.

good luck hun. i think the key in situations like this is to not blame the other person unless you have hardcore evidence.

And I think that's part of my problem, I had an ex that I didn't hear from for 2 weeks, which was fine, I figured he was busy, but then suddenly he deleted me on myspace and changed it to single, we had been together for maybe 9 months. I mean, yes, DB is far better than him, but old scars don't exactly go away just like that, and with something like this, they can come back to the surface.

Ive had the same thing happen to me three times.Twice with the above mentioned dude (we dated when I was 17,and again recently at 23...thought he had enough time to learn I was the best thing he ever dated ...thought he did,obviously he didnt like me much...stopped talking to me for 3 weeks and up and decided since we fought so much it was better to end it...no discussing why he didnt call,no talking it over...nothing:mumble) Dated another guy for 8 months and he decided one day he didnt like me much either,and just dropped off the face of the earth.Until he finally buckled down on the phone and agreed it was over :sigh

So Im with you on it,totally.Beeeeelieve me.DB is pretty amazing but Ive dated like something like 10 guys and hes pretty much never had a serious relationship,so hes the one getting all worried and paranoid with me.Its nice for a change ;)

Hang in there!

Ive had the same thing happen to me three times.Twice with the above mentioned dude (we dated when I was 17,and again recently at 23...thought he had enough time to learn I was the best thing he ever dated ...thought he did,obviously he didnt like me much...stopped talking to me for 3 weeks and up and decided since we fought so much it was better to end it...no discussing why he didnt call,no talking it over...nothing:mumble) Dated another guy for 8 months and he decided one day he didnt like me much either,and just dropped off the face of the earth.Until he finally buckled down on the phone and agreed it was over :sigh

So Im with you on it,totally.Beeeeelieve me.DB is pretty amazing but Ive dated like something like 10 guys and hes pretty much never had a serious relationship,so hes the one getting all worried and paranoid with me.Its nice for a change ;)

Hang in there!

Yeah, the last guy was a total dumb ass, I did so much for him. I really have no clue why he did what he did, we never talked again after he changed his stuff. I have no problem with that.

But with DB, I can't imagine that happening to us, I can't imagine not being able to talk to him again, not being with him. We were good friends for a year and a half before anything even started to change in our friendship. This is the first real relationship that he's been in since his HS girlfriend, who really screwed him over and hurt him. I waited for him the entire previous deployment, I have no problem doing it a second time, because I know he's worth it. He means everything to me. He's already a part of my family, they all love him. I just really cant imagine us being over. We've talked about spending the rest of our lives together, about me moving to Cali when he gets home, everything. And we talked about it within a month of him leaving, so... :puzz This isn't exactly normal.

Hopefully there is a simple explanation for why this is happening. Till then I am so sorry that you have to be going through the thoughts. :hugs

I bet if your just patient, everything is going to be fine....they go through alot and just give him time to explain himself.

don't jump to conclusions when you do talk to him though. don't yell at him just be like i was on myspace the other day (leaving a message or something) and noticed that your profile said you were single i just wanted to let you know in case your profile got hacked. say it like that that way you don't sound accusing

:shrug I wouldn't say "in case you got hacked" just so IF he did something he could have a quick excuse and blow it off. I would just ask him why it says that and then decide if I believe his reason or not. :hugs

gah one of the reasons i HATE myspace...

ME TOO! it causes SO many problems in relationships

ME TOO! it causes SO many problems in relationships

That depends on the couple. DH and I had no problems with it. I think when immature people use it, problems occur.

ahhh I hate myspace!!!! I hope it turns out to be a fluke!

:shrug I wouldn't say "in case you got hacked" just so IF he did something he could have a quick excuse and blow it off. I would just ask him why it says that and then decide if I believe his reason or not. :hugs

true. i was just trying to demonstrate of a way not to sound accusatory kwim?

That depends on the couple. DH and I had no problems with it. I think when immature people use it, problems occur.

exactly!!!!!!!! it's the person or people using myspace not myspace or adultfriendfinder.com or any other website's fault that someone can't control themselves

ihope it just turns out to be myspace messing up..

exactly!!!!!!!! it's the person or people using myspace not myspace or adultfriendfinder.com or any other website's fault that someone can't control themselves

Oh, I don't think he's cheated on me or anything like that. I think if anything, it's the stress of being deployed. My cousins husband had problems when he was deployed, too. He would have a hard time because he didn't like worrying about her at home, if she was ok, how she was doing and handling everything, etc, while he was over there, especially when he had to go out on missions. So I'm hoping this is just something like that and we can just talk about it and we'll get over it. My mom seems to think that it's something similar to that, especially since right before he left, he was a mess, his mind was just racing with everything he had to do. I doubt I made it any easier when I would cry, but I couldn't help it :dunno. But I'm doing better now, but he of course doesn't know that, since he's gone

I wrote him a 2 page letter, I didn't mention anything about it, I'm just going to act like everything is ok, until he actually talks to me. I am going to put at the end that no matter what, I'm not going anywhere, no matter how long he's gone. But I always put that at the end of my letters and emails last time he was gone, too. I'm not exactly going to just give up on a guy after 1 yr 8-9months and over 3 years of friendship:refuse. I really am so grateful for him and for us. (L)(L) I'm just going to try to stay positive that we'll make it through this. And maybe hope a little that it was myspace messing up, since it seems to do that randomly....but I think I'll stick with the "we'll make it through this" more. Otherwise, I think I'd drive myself insane.

i wasn't trying to imply he cheated on you i was responding to those who were saying it's myspace's fault for relationship problems.

i wasn't trying to imply he cheated on you i was responding to those who were saying it's myspace's fault for relationship problems.

Oh I know, I was just using your thing to reply to. Though I do think myspace makes it easier, I don't think you can completely blame myspace for cheating and stuff like that. I mean, someone has to go and do the search and send the emails and such. It's not like someone who cheated on their SO due to myspace wouldn't cheat on them without myspace existing. If they're gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat, sites like that just make it easier sometimes.

Oh I know, I was just using your thing to reply to. Though I do think myspace makes it easier, I don't think you can completely blame myspace for cheating and stuff like that. I mean, someone has to go and do the search and send the emails and such. It's not like someone who cheated on their SO due to myspace wouldn't cheat on them without myspace existing. If they're gonna cheat, they're gonna cheat, sites like that just make it easier sometimes.

just wanted to make sure we were clear

Had this same issue with my db and it still isn't resolved with us. But as far as you and your guy, if it said In a Relationship before, he needs to do some explaining. I would give him jus a bit if he jus left for Iraq, I'm sure he'll be busy getting settled in. But a week is definately a reasonable time frame to fix that. And I've never heard of myspace jus messing up your profile, you actually have to login and change stuff yourself in order for any changes to show. Don't take any excuses...let him know he needs to fix it or explain where he's at with you two. Hope it works out and I'm sorry...try not to worry yet. :(

myspace lies!

DONT believe MYSPACE...Ask him I'm sure there is a very reasonable explanation to this...Hope it all works out hun

I agree! Myspace is psycho! Mine changes to single sometimes when I never update it. It has changed before when I hadn't been online in weeks.

Well, he had problems with his top friends right before he left, and he's had problems before. Last deployment, when he was out on a mission, his comments suddenly all got deleted, out of no where. It was so weird.

At this point, I'm just hoping things with us are ok, or that they will be ok :worried

I've had that happen as well...comments being deleted, friends being deleted when I know I didn't remove them nor did they remove themselves & the list goes on & on!

I hope everything is ok between y'all! :hugs

Well, from the little that I got back from him (rather early in the morning there when I got it), a) he doesn't know what happened, and b) ... it seems like I was right about the whole worrying thing, he mentioned something about worrying about me while he's there.

I really hope we can get through this. I'd like for him to call me, even though I know it'll be for a limited amount of time, so we can talk about it all. Why do they feel like they need to worry about us while they're there? :sigh

I'm just going to have to have faith:pray that we'll get through this, together, and come out even stronger and even better.(L)

I'm glad to got to clarify your concern :)

:hugs