I'm almost 9 months into this "thing" (deployment lol), and this week it has come to a screeching halt it seems like. Time isn't flying anymore. DB is coming home on leave in less than a month, and I just need to be in his arms again. I know that once I see him, all these feelings of edginess, and feeling like I'm having to fight for him will go away. The past week he was able to call me a lot, several days in a row actually for long conversations, but I got spoiled, so now I haven't heard from him for a few days...which is fine, but it just had to happen when I'm having a hard week you know:tears

We've been dating 16 months, so he's been gone longer now than we were together in person...which doesn't matter because it doesn't change our feelings, it's just a sad thought. And it scares me that he's going to get bored with me over there, and blah blah all these other insecurities have come up this week because I'm stressed lol:rolleyes

Every little thing is setting me off, and I hate it because I'm not normally like that at ALL:puzz :tears Maybe I just need a hug and a kiss from you know who. Actually just hearing his voice would help:tears
It's like once he finally started counting down the days to R&R, the stress and tension sky rocketed:banghead

Anyone else felt like this??

i've thought about my DF leaving me too. I thought he would get used to not having me around. But the truth is that we both just want each other more. i think its true for everyone.
You will be okay. have a cry fest and talk to a friend. maybe tell him the next time you talk that you just need to be reassured sometimes, because you are only human. You aren't invincable! He will understand. Don't dwell on being sad though. He doesn't want to think you are broken!

you need a hug :hugehug
this feeling will pass. tomorrow is a new day, and one day closer to your DB.

I hope things start to speed up for your again. I am sorry you are having a hard day. Try not to count the days... that always made things go by slower for me. :hugehug
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Thanks girls:) :hugs

I hope times flies by fast for you:hugehug

I know EXACTLY what you feel like....about 10 days ago DF told me that his R & R got moved up by 5 months and we would be seeing each other in a couple of weeks. It seems as though time is crawling since he told me that and I have another 15 days to go... I hope the time speeds up for us both and we have our men back.

Look at the bright side though.....by the time your guy gets there and goes back he'll have a few months left. Because of the early R & R DF and I will have a YEAR to go before we see each other again. :(

I know EXACTLY what you feel like....about 10 days ago DF told me that his R & R got moved up by 5 months and we would be seeing each other in a couple of weeks. It seems as though time is crawling since he told me that and I have another 15 days to go... I hope the time speeds up for us both and we have our men back.

Look at the bright side though.....by the time your guy gets there and goes back he'll have a few months left. Because of the early R & R DF and I will have a YEAR to go before we see each other again. :(


Yeah, I'm glad DB waited to take his R&R, because you're right it will make the time after leave not seem so bad. I'm just at that point now where its been so long that I'm starting to lose my patience, sick of the waiting you know:sigh

Hope time goes fast for you too, I'm sure you're really excited to see your DF:D

I just got tightness in my chest just reading your post. Yes, I've felt the same way - that he might get bored with me. I can TOTALLY relate!!!!

My DB is coming home in a few months and I am scared that he will not want to live with me. We only dated 4 months before he left. Much of our time together was traveling or staying with friends. We never "lived" together before.

Now, I am living in his house with his furniture and my three cats. He's always been a dog person, so I'm so scared that he won't like them :( But they're such a big part of me!!!!

I got so freaked out that I started to talk to all of my friends. I realized that he will be happy to be out of the sandbox, so I am just over exaggerating things. What your DB wants more than ever is to feel loved, touched and wanted - everything that you can offer!!!! Just be upfront and honest about your feelings. The minute you see him, you will realize that you freaked out for nothing.

Now... if only I could take my own advice! LOL

Right around 9 months was the worst for both of us. It was for a lot of my friends, too. Something about 9 months...it's the way too long point of the deployment.

Right around 9 months was the worst for both of us. It was for a lot of my friends, too. Something about 9 months...it's the way too long point of the deployment.

that makes me feel a lot better, and you are so right, it really is the "too long point of the deployment". I can't quite put a finger on what I mean to say, but yeah it's definitely hard right now, and I know it's because both DB and I feel like time is creeping
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I'm only at 3 months...but I'm sorry it's so hard! I get R&R at 7 months, so that will make it seem shorter at least. Hang in there girl, you WILL get through it!