DB and i got into a fight today over IM/webcam. Its was over stupid crap too. Stuff that means absolutly nothing in the big scheme of things. I told him that we only get on the webcam for an hour a week and it would be nice if we could have quality time instead of him browsing the internet( he gets to go online all the time at his job) Then i also said that i wish he would tell me nice/sweet things more often because it makes me happy and said that he hasnt said i was pretty in all 4 times we have now cam'd even though i tell him how great he is looking. I know its dumb but it was just an example.
In his defense I didnt state those feelings as they are listed above,I got into a stupid immature hissy fit and kinda blurted them at him. :arg

I feel like SHIT!!

He layed the guilt trip on me and said..."SORRY I ALWAYS SEEM TO DISSAPOINT YOU"
gahhhh!!!

He even signed off on me. Not like boom .....but while i was typing he said Im going to go. I love you bye. Then signs off. I know he could see i was typing.
Thats so rude.

I wrote him an e-mail apologizing for being childish in the way i handeled telling him what i did but that this is how i fell about......(so and so). That Im not dissapointed in him I love him more than anything. etc... but also that it was pretty rude of him to sign off on me like that. It was a kinda long letter but very nice.

Except now I have to wait. I cant even frickin do anything.I keep thinking that he is mad at me. Im checking my e-mail like a crazy person. :screwy
And it says he hasnt even read it yet and i sent it 4 hours ago. He usually checks his mail way before now. He prob knows i have a letter in their for him. I was told that maybe he knows that and just wants to cool down a bit before he reads it but I dont know about that.

GAH!! I feel so shitty.I hate feeling like this. I hope he writes soon.:tears

I would give the guy a break.I know sometimes it's hard not to go into "normal girlfriend" mode, but remember this isn't a normal relationship so you have to be even more giving. It sucks because all you want is some time but in reality, their situation doesn't allow huge amounts of quality time. I'm sorry you are going through this but it sounds like he isn't too mad and just wants to allow you some time to calm down

Don't read too much into him not checking his email or signing off in the middle of a convo. There were many many times when my DH was deployed that he would have to leave at a moment's notice and hastily say "bye i love you" and sign off - even if we were in the middle of a conversation or if I was typing something. I wouldn't think of it as him being rude, he could have had a time limit, or something could have come up, anything. Also, even if they have a "routine" while they are deployed (you said he normally checks his email by now) that doesn't mean the routine will ALWAYS be there. Like I said, something could very possibly have come up to refrain him from checking - so don't automatically think that he just doesn't want to check because he thinks you wrote him and doesn't want to read it.

I know that being deployed and having issues to argue about is not fun, at all...but it does take a different level of patience and some getting used to to make the relationship work.

Im sure everything will work out...he is probably just cooling off ya know? I hope everything works out and he will probably read your email and think how lucky he is to have someone like you...dont worry!

Girl- my husband has spent 32 months in Iraq since the war has began.

I know exactly how you feel.

It's HARD to communicate when you are doing it long distance. Things that would never normally piss you off- DO! Things you would never normally have to hear yourself say- you hear yourself saying. Stupid shit, and I mean stupid shit- gets blown way out of proportion and fights are inevitable. Also- you will get online to talk to him and automatically become irritable, although you have no reason to be- and you were fine 2 minutes before.

It's normal. Totally normal. That's the lovely effects of speaking when they are in a war zone. LOL omg it's annoying isn't it?!

Dh and I have been argueing alot lately. Not even argueing- just getting pissy at each other.

Like he will call- I'll call him back and we will try to talk. With everything I say- I have to repeat 3 times. I finally give up because i know the reception is so bad. Then he tries to talk- and the same thing. So I'll start yelling what I was trying to say- in frustration- and he will do the same and BOOM! Arguement!

Arguement! WHY? Because we can't hear each other properly! Lol it's the exact opposite reason to why people usually argue. And yet- it's our most common arguement.

I don't think you need to give him a break. He understands. He does. I think you guys are just going through normal deployed bullshit. He will come back online when he's finished cooling down, you 2 will get over the arguement and everything will be fine. I'm quite sure.

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I would not take it to heart. I think you should go get out of the house! Stop thinking and worring about this, it won't help the sistuation. Go do something fun or go for a run. I know that always helps me clear my head when I become too much of a crazy girl!

He'll write back to you soon. You guys are only fighting because you love and miss each other. I can understand why you are upset about him not making comments though. I've cammed with DF once since he's been gone and as soon as it came on he couldn't stop gushing about how pretty I am and how much he loves me. It made me feel really good. Sometimes a girl needs to hear that stuff. :yes

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I'm sorry he signed off on you. At least he told you he loved you before he signed off. Hope he responds sweetly to your e-mail soon!

I'm so deeply sorry-I know fighting is never fun & I hope you 2 resolve it soon sweety:wink:hugs

Girl- my husband has spent 32 months in Iraq since the war has began.

I know exactly how you feel.

It's HARD to communicate when you are doing it long distance. Things that would never normally piss you off- DO! Things you would never normally have to hear yourself say- you hear yourself saying. Stupid shit, and I mean stupid shit- gets blown way out of proportion and fights are inevitable. Also- you will get online to talk to him and automatically become irritable, although you have no reason to be- and you were fine 2 minutes before.

It's normal. Totally normal. That's the lovely effects of speaking when they are in a war zone. LOL omg it's annoying isn't it?!

Dh and I have been argueing alot lately. Not even argueing- just getting pissy at each other.

Like he will call- I'll call him back and we will try to talk. With everything I say- I have to repeat 3 times. I finally give up because i know the reception is so bad. Then he tries to talk- and the same thing. So I'll start yelling what I was trying to say- in frustration- and he will do the same and BOOM! Arguement!

Arguement! WHY? Because we can't hear each other properly! Lol it's the exact opposite reason to why people usually argue. And yet- it's our most common arguement.

I don't think you need to give him a break. He understands. He does. I think you guys are just going through normal deployed bullshit. He will come back online when he's finished cooling down, you 2 will get over the arguement and everything will be fine. I'm quite sure.

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Yeah i think he understands. Your under pressures and its not like your justifying what you did, I mean you understood right away it was a flip out. I think your letter will help and he will read it! Waiting sucks though.
BTW got into a little spat myself with my husband over the whole connection thing, he kept telling me I need to talk slower....... we were just frustrated cause the phones there suck balls!! We calmed down after a minute.

You'll be okay!!!

i doubt he isn't reading it on purpose. when i have fought with my marine on AIM or whatever, he gets over it really quickly and i'm the one who stays upset longer. it's frustrating, but it is what it is. it's just a little tiff, i'm sure things will be ok! :)

I wouldnt panic too much. I mean when theyre deployed its normal to get emotional about things and not want to argue ya know? I am sure it was just a way to avoid arguing thats all. Im sure he understands! :hugs

oh my goddd our biggest arguments are about the connection too! its like a huuuge pet peeve of mine (i think only since this deployment now lol ) to have to repeat myself and i have to for almost every single sentence!! it irks me so bad and i get really aggravated even though i KNOW its not his fault... its just that the circumstances SUCK! im sure everything will be fine the next time you talk, deployments are just really hard on both sides

i hope you feel better soon-and dont beat yourself up over it. its normal:hugehug

I would give the guy a break.I know sometimes it's hard not to go into "normal girlfriend" mode, but remember this isn't a normal relationship so you have to be even more giving. It sucks because all you want is some time but in reality, their situation doesn't allow huge amounts of quality time. I'm sorry you are going through this but it sounds like he isn't too mad and just wants to allow you some time to calm down


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