:vent MY MAN JUST DEPLOYED OFF ABOUT 1 WEEK AGO AND I AM LOOSING IT ALREADY. I THINK ITS BECAUSE I AM USE TO BEGIN WITH HIM EVERY DAY.I MEAN I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF SINCE MY MAN IS GONE. I NEED SOME TYPE OF HELP OR GUIDENCE. I TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT HOW LONG HE IS GOING TO BE GONE I KEEP TRYING TO TELL MYSELF WHAT IS 15 MONTHS COMPARED TO A LIFETIME. THEN HE DIDNT EVEN CALL ME TODAY. HE HAVE BEEN CALLING ME EVERYDAY SINCE HE HAVE BEEN GONE I KEEP TRYING TO TELL MYSELF THAT HE IS BUSY AND JUST DID NOT HAVE TIME TO CALL ME. THOSE PHONE CALLS FROM HIM HELP ME OUT ALOT.
SO LADIES WHAT DO YOU RECOMMEND I DO TO STAY FOCUS AND NOT DRIVE MY SELF TO A MENTAL HOME

I HAVE TRIED DOING THINGS TO KEEP ME BUSY BUT I STILL FIND MYSELF JUST THINKING ABOUT HIM ITS ALMOST AS IF I CAN NOT STAY FOCUS ON WHAT IT IS I NEED TO DO

PLEASE HELP:pray

I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now! We all go through those hard times!

Do you have any hobbies you can take up? Join a book club? Go out with friends? Work extra hours? Anything to take your focus off of everything?

I'm sorry you didn't get a call! That is one of the things you will eventually learn NOT to expect! There are going to be times where they can call every day & then there will be times when you won't hear anything for weeks at a time. Same goes with email!

:hugs

I have also fallen victim to the 'what is __ amount of months to a lifetime?' But that theory does come crashing down on you when you are feeling your lonliest. I have learned to set small goals for myself. Look forward to mini-trips to see friends or family, big things going on at work, take an extra class you ENJOY, sleep late on a certain day. Try to countdown with something smaller, like weekends or pay days. I know it is hard and its shitty and nothing anyone can TELL you to do, will make you want to do it anymore. People will say keep busy and keep ur mind off of it...if you are like me that will just frustrate you because it is almost like asking for the impossible. Give yourself time. Things will fall into place for you. you will eventually settle into a routine or schedule. There will be days where he can't call...either from being busy, or from there being long lines and he needs sleep. Use that time to right him a long email and tell him how important he is to you and how much you love him. Write him snail mail too, my DB finds it very helpful to also get encouraging things via snailmail. You WILL get through this. If you ever need anything PM me anytime! We are ALL with you sweetheart!

I feel like I am losing it too...I hate that there are so many people going through this...I am Canadian and married an American Soldier and I am having such a tough time understanding all of this. I am a few hours away from the base and it is hard for me to get to all of the FRG meetings and other events that go on. I dont have anyone who understands and although it has only been 2 months and 3 days since my husband left....everyone is sick of listening to my heart ache. I am very busy but staying busy just isnt enough, all the fun things I do I want him there with me.
We dont have any children yet and I am just so lonely. He calls a lot but today he didnt call either...and well...it just sucks!!

What the other ladies have said is great but something else I did that really helped me was I wake up everyday and tell myself I just have to get through today. Take it one day at a time and before you know it your months into it. Good luck.

The first two weeks are the hardest.. You don't have a regular routine down yet, and he doesn't have access too phones. :irked

It really will pass, and it gets alot easier.. You just need a regular schedule and get back to normalcy. Once the shock of him subsides a bit, it gets easier. :hugehug

Tomorrow will be one week for me since my boyfriend's been gone at OCS. And I haven't gotten an email or phone call since one week ago. Hang in there! I know what you mean about not knowing what to do with yourself. I feel like half of me is missing! :sadeyes

Hang in there for me the first month was the hardest and some days I still feel like it's hard and I can't go through the deployment, just keep yourself busy, I do it by working out and writing letters and sending care packages are good for me because it keeps me busy for a while.

I want to give you a :hugehug because I know what your feeling.

:vent MY MAN JUST DEPLOYED OFF ABOUT 1 WEEK AGO AND I AM LOOSING IT ALREADY. I THINK ITS BECAUSE I AM USE TO BEGIN WITH HIM EVERY DAY.I MEAN I JUST DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH MYSELF SINCE MY MAN IS GONE. I NEED SOME TYPE OF HELP OR GUIDENCE. I TRY NOT TO THINK ABOUT HOW LONG HE IS GOING TO BE GONE I KEEP TRYING TO TELL MYSELF WHAT IS 15 MONTHS COMPARED TO A LIFETIME. THEN HE DIDNT EVEN CALL ME TODAY. HE HAVE BEEN CALLING ME EVERYDAY SINCE HE HAVE BEEN GONE I KEEP TRYING TO TELL MYSELF THAT HE IS BUSY AND JUST DID NOT HAVE TIME TO CALL ME. THOSE PHONE CALLS FROM HIM HELP ME OUT ALOT.
SO LADIES WHAT DO YOU RECOMMEND I DO TO STAY FOCUS AND NOT DRIVE MY SELF TO A MENTAL HOME

I HAVE TRIED DOING THINGS TO KEEP ME BUSY BUT I STILL FIND MYSELF JUST THINKING ABOUT HIM ITS ALMOST AS IF I CAN NOT STAY FOCUS ON WHAT IT IS I NEED TO DO

PLEASE HELP:pray





I'm sorry you feel this way! Trust me I felt this way too. I was all alone on the east coast with no one. Its just like he left me there. Its not his fault but the week before, something happend to our car, so i was stuck there. I broke dishes, and even almost set our apartment on fire! I decided to put the fire out because I didnt have anywhere else to go! That was how bad it got... :banghead My mother in law called me and i gues she heard how bad i was and then a couple days later i got picked up by my brother in law and my sister in law over in South Carolina and stayed with them till i could afford to go back to the west coast! Family does help a lot! I'm doing way better now!

Maybe you should do some volunteering! Or make a scrapbook to send to him! I hope your doing better! If you need anything even someone just to talk to just pm me!

I JUST WANT TO THANK EVERYONE BEAUSE I FOUND THAT INFORMATIONAL AND I AM TAKING IT ALL IN THANKS AGAIN

I am so sorry hun. The first month is the hardest but you'll be o.k. I thought I was going to go crazy at first too. But the more I thought about it I realize that it makes no sense to drive myself crazy with worry or loneliness. WE can't do anything to bring them back faster. Have you been writing him letters or emails? I have found that when I really miss my guy I write him and email as if he were right there in front of me and I told him everything I wanted him to know. It helps a lot.

We are all here for you. I hope he calls you soon so you can feel a little better. :hugs

I am sorry you are having such a hard time right now! We all go through those hard times!

Do you have any hobbies you can take up? Join a book club? Go out with friends? Work extra hours? Anything to take your focus off of everything?

I'm sorry you didn't get a call! That is one of the things you will eventually learn NOT to expect! There are going to be times where they can call every day & then there will be times when you won't hear anything for weeks at a time. Same goes with email!

:hugs

:agree

just put one foot in front of the other...breathe in and out...and have faith that he will make contact when he can. Please, dont fall into the thought that u will have regular, predictable contact...and then get upset when it doesnt happen...because its not going to happen. If u fall into that, then this is going to be WAYYY too hard on u. :hugs u'll be ok

you'll be okay. It is SO hard at first. And I know for me the first week I talked to him every day. The first time I DIDN'T hear from him my heart dropped. And I think thats normal. The best thing that worked for me was my daily routines. It helps so much. Stay busy and you'll be okay.