im new to this guys but been having this on my mind and figured you could help since you guys are military wives too.....
my husband has been deployed to iraq for 4 months now..weve been married 3 years and have a 1 year old daughter. all of the sudden hes saying he doesnt think we are working out and that we are growing apart...i calmy talked to him about the fact that he was deployed and going through alot of stress at the time and that we love eachother and all that nice stuff. he then goes on to say that he is not stressed and that is not the reason he says we fight alot, which i dont think i mean we fought some what alot when were were living together before he left but alot of that time i was pregnant and very emotional and when i explained that to him he said that was just an excuse. i just dontk now what to do i want to be with him he is my soul mate and i know he loves me. i just dont know if he is doing this to see if i will stick with him or if he really thinks we are growing apart as he says. i mean this has never come up before. i dont know if hes scared or what is going through his mind and im at a complete loss as to what to do....so if anyone can help thatd be great!! thanks!

I am sorry that he is putting you through this. But I think that when he comes home for R&R or for good, which he will realize that he really does love you and wants to be with you. Just be strong and stick through it. You may just have to wait till he comes home and try to keep things good between you when he calls. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you.

I think they all go through times when they feel like they have grown apart from their loved ones. Seperation is hard on everyone involved. I would just continue to stand by him, support him, send care packages, and let him know that long distance is not the way to deal with this. You guys can sit and talk when he comes home. By the time he is getting ready for his homecoming, he will probably be so excited, he will forget his feelings of growing apart... and doubts about your relationship. Hang in there!

is this your first deployment? He could just be going through a lot over there. It seems like a lot of people have to face that at some point because you get all these doubts when the person is not in front of you. It's kind of a test to see how strong you are I think and when he comes back it will only make you closer