we argued, that's inevitable for us. i honestly know that it's his fault this time. i was hurt so much and left him messages about how i feel after we talked. i was crying the whole day nonstop...and now i received a message from him saying that he also doesn't know what to do about this. i thought he was going to apologize because what he did was seriously hurtful. i don't know what to think and do anymore... this thing is harder because he's not here with me to talk about it and look for solutions... i could just hug him if only he's not so far away.... my heart is crying... pls i need some advice.....

Why were you upset...I am probably missing the post that you left before or something...I know it is hard that you can't actually talk in person about what is going on...I am really sorry...Maybe he just needs time to cool off im sure everything will be ok

i hope so...because i know that we love each other so much but sometimes we just can't help but be sad and weak. i can't stay mad at him for so long(we argued just yesterday), but i need to hear from him that he's sorry or just for him to tell me how much he loves me instead of not budging. i'm so sad right now, thanks for your message...it helps a lot. i can't stop crying...i don't know what to do...

i had a huge argument with my marine one day...it was awful...the most important thing is to tell him how you feel and get it all out there without playing games and trying to get him to figure it out, because with him being gone, you don't have time for that...

Guys argue different than girls too...I actually told DF that I know that he would probably get off the phone and go to bed and wake up fine the next day, but I wanted him to know that I would probably still be upset about this until it was resolved...he ended up calling me back about an hour later after he had cooled down, which I don't think he would have done if I hadn't been so honest about things.

Anyways, I hope you can get things resolved...I'm here if you need me...Just PM anytime! :)

you're such a darling. i noticed that men are different when it comes to solving problems as well...you're so right. i always tell him what's bothering me and what's the best solution for it, but he tends to deny a lot and just makes the issue so vague. i am so honest with him, but he doesn't seem to understand, or he just decides not to understand it? i'm so confused... because i know that he loves me too just as much but we always argue. i don't want to give him problems so he's always focused on his job. but whenever we talk about something, he would emphasize that he knows better and he experienced a lot about life, and gone through hell with his job, etc...do you think it has something to do with their kind of work?because they're so used with trusting themselves and being self-righteous?
and i agree with you, i'll just try to be MORE honest with my feelings and what i want him to do.we need to compromise..thanks so much...

Well I dont know what he did.
Sometimes when the guys are deployed its better to blow off ALL the little things that make you angry.
It is VERY stressful being over there and I like to keep the arguments minimal.
I'm sure I don't fully understand your situation though.
I wish you luck!!!!!