we argued last night... both got hurt but now we compromised and reconciled. we promised to be more understanding and supportive to one another. we love each other so much and unconditionally. i know when together, we will be so happy and contented. i can't wait to start our own family and have little kids running around our house.

but before going there, i need some facts about men and how to become ideal...we always clash because i have a very strong personality and he does too. we are both leaders not followers. but i want to change for him, i just need to know what are those things i should change and do. any suggestions? i know almost ladies here are very wonderful. i respect your opinion and advice. thanks so much!

if you have to change for him,hes not worth it.

hate to be brutal but its the truth.how old you are,I dont care.But after you start chalking up the boyfriends and broken engagements you learn that they either take you as they are,or not at all.

If he cant accept you,and learn to work with your "strong personality" then you need to look elsewhere.

why do you need to change?

wow... i dont know if it has to be so black and white. if there was something that your SO was doing and it pissed you off, wouldnt you want him to stop it? i wouldnt say thats changing who you are, its all part of being in a relationship.

all relationships need compromise and i agree that you shouldnt change who you ARE but maybe the TWO of you could talk and figure out what it is thats making you bicker (or whatever it is) and find a way around it. not just on your end, but his also. i mean then again, there are arguments in all relationships, its healthy. but when its constantly is when it becomes damaging.

it sounds like you two are already on your way because you promised to be more understanding and supportive of eachother, just keep going from there =)

I would say that if you want to talk about change you need to talk about BOTH of you working to compromise. If you are the only one trying to make changes it won't work very well. It's okay that both of you have strong personalities, that's probably one of the things you love about him. The biggest thing you can do for each other is learn to understand the other's point of view on things and work on accepting that there will be differences you just need to see where each other is coming from. If you can understand why one person feels the way they do about something then you can help them understand why you feel the way you do too. Hope that helps! :goodvibes and good luck

I would say that if you want to talk about change you need to talk about BOTH of you working to compromise. If you are the only one trying to make changes it won't work very well. It's okay that both of you have strong personalities, that's probably one of the things you love about him. The biggest thing you can do for each other is learn to understand the other's point of view on things and work on accepting that there will be differences you just need to see where each other is coming from. If you can understand why one person feels the way they do about something then you can help them understand why you feel the way you do too. Hope that helps! :goodvibes and good luck

:agree

You both need to change how you approach things, but neither of your should change to be what the other person wants. Because that will change too! You just need to be you and if he can't accept that, then either should you.

he loves me for me...i won't change some aspects that need not to be changed...it's just those simple things i can do better. he doesn't ask for it, i'm willing to do it because i know we are both going to benefit from it.
for example...as women,admit it or not, we like it if our men are very sweet to us and give us very encouraging words and appreciation on small things that we do... we love it then we'd reciprocate. but again,we love it when they initiate on being so sweet(not all of course). i am like that too, but i've come to realize that why not be the one to be sweeter regardless how bad my day is or how lazy i am at that time, because they need that more than we do. their job is way diffiicult than any of us and they always make an effort for us to feel special and secured. that's one thing. another one is i've read many posts here that their men are very thoughtful. we are too i know. but why not write them mails everyday if we can. why not make them feel very secured and not give them reasons to get jealous or doubt. going out or partying isn't a necessity, let' give them that benefit. they deserve peace of mind. why not be so loving and considerate enough not to miss their calls; hold/carry your cellphone at all times. it's very hard for them to call because sometimes the line would be so long and many guys would want to talk to their love ones all at the same time. why not be a good woman and not tell him sad stories or your thoughts about senseless matters. why not start the conversation with, how was his day? did he eat on time? was the food okay? it isn't always about ME,ME,ME eventhough we are nice to them. i know our situation is hard, but they don't need to hear it. they need support and for us to be strong. we need to be their rock. most of us would be sad while saying "i miss you terribly" or "i want to be with you so badly", why not control our emotions and try to sound alright for them to be stronger and not worry about us. they need to concentrate on their jobs or else their lives would be in danger. those little changes are the ones i'm talking about... those suggestions are the ones i'm looking for... shallow but our men would greatly appreciate especially during times like this... i salute all the women here for being supportive to our men.