he loves me for me...i won't change some aspects that need not to be changed...it's just those simple things i can do better. he doesn't ask for it, i'm willing to do it because i know we are both going to benefit from it.
for example...as women,admit it or not, we like it if our men are very sweet to us and give us very encouraging words and appreciation on small things that we do... we love it then we'd reciprocate. but then again,we love it when they initiate on being so sweet(not all of course). i am like that too, but i've come to realize that why not be the one to be sweeter regardless how bad my day is or how lazy i am at that time, because they need that more than we do. their job is way diffiicult than any of us and they always make an effort for us to feel special and secured. that's one thing. another one is i've read many posts here that their men are very thoughtful. we are too i know. but why not write them mails everyday if we can. why not make them feel very secured and not give them reasons to get jealous or doubt. going out or partying isn't a necessity, let' give them that benefit. they deserve peace of mind. why not be so loving and considerate enough not to miss their calls; hold/carry your cellphone at all times. it's very hard for them to call because sometimes the line would be so long and many guys would want to talk to their love ones all at the same time. why not be a good woman and not tell him sad stories or your thoughts about senseless matters. why not start the conversation with, how was his day? did he eat on time? was the food okay? it isn't always about ME,ME,ME eventhough we are nice to them. i know our situation is hard, but they don't need to hear it. they need support and for us to be strong. we need to be their rock. most of us would be sad while saying "i miss you terribly" or "i want to be with you so badly", why not control our emotions and try to sound alright for them to be stronger and not worry about us. they need to concentrate on their jobs or else their lives would be in danger. those little changes are the ones i'm talking about... those suggestions are the ones i'm looking for... shallow but our men would greatly appreciate especially during times like this... i salute all the women here for being supportive to our men.

yeah, I agree with what you said to an extent. But at the same time, we have emotions and hardships too; we're not robots or doormats. There are some situations that you can't take your phone with you, and it is alright to go out with friends and have a good time. I think it's a very fine line to walk, but I think all your suggestions mainly boil down to keeping a positive and laid back attitude which is ALWAYS a good thing.

like MissK, I agree to a point. I support DB 100% and will always be there for him, but i wont be a doormat either. If i ever feel like im giving and giving and giving but not getting anything or little back then i will let him know how im feeling. I agree with op that if you have the ability to communicate with your SO by e-mail or whatever that it doesnt hurt to make sure they have an e-mail in their inbox everyday as short and sweet as it might be....but on the otherhand if i keep on sending and he doesnt write back then i might cut my e-mails back to responses of his. I dont know. I think people can get very touchy on these subjects but situations are different with every man and their SO is who knows them best and how to handle it. I guess basically be there for him but dont forget about yourself.:yes