Yesterday Morning I had a Dr appt for DD and there were about 9 other people in the waiting room so I sat down and a mom came in with a 1 month old, so after 5 minutes of her sitting she whipped out her breast and started to breast feed the baby, there were men staring at her and women giving her snotty looks. Well one guy grab his daughter and left the waiting room because he said it was rude for her to do that.

What are your feelings with breast feeding in public?

I'm all for it if done discreetly. I personally don't want to see anyone's boobs but don't expect them to leave so they can feed their baby. Heck I've nursed in public so I know how it goes. But I always do it discreetly so nobody can see anything. They may know what I'm doing. But they are not getting a view.

i personally was never comfortable doing it myself...it just was really awkward and i always felt like i was flashing someone...but my mom used to do it all the time...she did it verydiscreetly though used a blanket to cover herself up and stuff...i don't care if other people do it...just try to be tasteful about it and not let it all "hang" out there...

Its really not different from feeding your baby a bottle in public. I don't think anyone should be walking around with boobs flopping around for all to see, not b/c I am personally offended by breasts in their natural form, but because society has certain standards such as a woman being clothed up top and that's just the way it is. If the breast is being used for feeding though, and not just exposed for the hell of it, I don't see what the problem is. It's food, it's nourishment, end of story. Breastfeeding is not always easy and even I had a few occasional nip slips when the baby wasn't wanting to latch, so I'm not at all offended if I happen to catch a quick glance of a breast or nipple - it can be hard learning to breastfeed, especially when you feel stressed about it in public. I don't think women should have to cover up either. I'm totally not a pro-bf nazi, I actually only BF my kids for a couple months then switched to formula, but I think exposed breasts are way too taboo of a subject. If people would just be more accepting that it's just a means to feed a child, I think kids could be raised to not think twice about seeing a breast feeding a child and adults wouldn't feel so embarrased about it.

ugh, that came out as way more rambling than I intended, but I'm hungry and my blood sugar is low right now :lol

Bottom line is just that I think breasts are just breasts, and they are only sexual b/c society has made them sexual.

here are some topics where this has been discussed a few times

nursing in public debate- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=16881&highlight=breastfeeding+public

breastfeeding pic on cover of mag - http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=98111&highlight=breastfeeding+public

breastfeeding in applebees- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=97041&highlight=breastfeeding+public

debate on general breastfeeding- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=66675&highlight=breastfeeding+public

profile on myspace deleted b/c of bf pic- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=61343&highlight=breastfeeding+public

woman kicked off plane for bfing- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=41024&highlight=breastfeeding+public

i'm all for it hell you see more on primetime tv than you do when a woman is NIP (provided she doesn't pull her shirt up and leave her boob hanging out while she is getting baby situated).

I think its fine if its done descreetly. Did the woman cover up her chest with a blanket or cloth?

I don't really care how you do it....everyone should try to be respectful and look the other way and parents should stop teaching there kids to be freaked out by it it is natural and the baby is getting fed. :shrug If I could have gotten my monster to latch on then I would be doing anywhere and anyway I feel like it.

honestly it never bothers me.. no one got offended when I would whip out a bottle to feed my kid, why should I care if she whips out her boob to feed her baby. for the guy who left with his kid.. :no what a jerk off. it's not like she started touching herself, she is feeding her child :rolleyes

It doesnt bother me
this topic seems to come up every week.

If she tries to cover up with a blanket or something... I don't have a care in the world

never thought of it as a spectator sport but something that was natural that moms have to do .. much like popping out a bottle.. this one is just attached to her body.

I have never personally done it in public but if I had to I would. The kids needs to eat!!! I would however do my best to sit in a corner, maybe possibly turn away from people and definitely would cover myself with a blanket or even one of those contraptions that they have these days for nursing babies. I have no idea what it is but my friend had one when she fed her son.. It was interesting..

I don't mind it. When I was breastfeeding my children, I'd make sure they were covered, but that's just me.

Its been said before and it will continue being said:

a child needs to be fed and in (most) cases, breast milk is actually better for the child (assuming all conditions are right)

why should the child have to eat in the bathroom? i surely dont eat in the bathroom!

so long as the mother breastfeeding isnt walking around topless, but is instead being discreet and respectful, i am ALL for it :)

i dont care if people breast feed in public. I breastfeed but not in public(I give her a bottle when we are out) cause dd doesnt like to be covered and now she has started lifting my shirt up and pulls away alot so I would be flashin everyone. I do pump before we leave so she is still getting breast milk. As long as they are not showing everything off then I dont think its a problem.

It is my opinion that people need to take on a mature and logical view of the female breast and its intended purpose. The female breast is nothing to be ashamed of, nor is it sexual when feeding an infant. Its purpose is to feed....not arouse. I am not offended or shocked by a bottle and will not be offended or shocked by a bare breast. I do not feel that a woman must cover up in order to feed her child. Man has turned the female body into nothing more than a tool of sexual pleasure...I refuse to perpetuate that problem by having the audacity to be "offended" by a bare breasted nursing mother.

I agree with Brandi, i dont think the women should have to be hiding or trying to be extremely discret. I do feel that one shouldnt be walking around with there boob hanging out while they are getting the baby situated, but there is no reason people should be offended by such a natural act of beauty.

I nurse my almost 12 months old whether we're in public or not. And no, I do not use a blanket. I try to be as discret about it as I can but I don't care if I accidentally flash someone. If my daughter needs to eat she'll eat and I don't care if we're at church, the doctor's office, the city hall, a restaurant or wherever else we might be at that time.

What is so rude about it? I think it's a shame people are teaching their children that nursing a baby is dirty.

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nuturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nuturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

because in reality seeing a woman BF her child doesn't show anything more than a swimsuit--i've seen plenty of women BF. i think it is important for people to teach their children that oh what that mommy is doing is natural and healthy and she's feeding her baby. i think it should be my choice if a I want to cover up. the laws protect a BF-ing woman by saying she is not subject to indecent exposure laws.

I breast feed in public sometimes. I don't use a blanket because I end up flashing when ever I have tried Jacob pulls the blanket away and has never liked one over his head. I am still discreet though and never show to much skin. If I do flash it is not on purpose.

I have noticed that those nursing capes/shawls direct more attention to what I am doing then If I just nurse him.

I nurse my almost 12 months old whether we're in public or not. And no, I do not use a blanket. I try to be as discret about it as I can but I don't care if I accidentally flash someone. If my daughter needs to eat she'll eat and I don't care if we're at church, the doctor's office, the city hall, a restaurant or wherever else we might be at that time.

:D That's pretty much me NIP too.

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nurturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

That's not why we got pregnant & it's certainly not why we have sex. There is a whole lot more to it then man sees breasts jumps on woman make babies. Sure I try to cover up and i try to make sure I am not offending anyone BUT my child has a mind of his own and will occasionally move. He also doesn't like a blanket over his head he will snatch it off. Then I spend more time (while drawing a ton more attention to myself) getting the blanket back on and adjusting then I do feeding him.

I will put the cloth up near me or I will wear a nursing tank under a reg shirt etc. Most of us women that BF are not out to offend anyone we are just feeding our children.

The courts in Arizona say I have the right to breast feed any where that the public have a right to be, I do not have to cover up AT ALL. I do it to be polite. However people telling me I MUST do it their way make me wish I WAS the kind of gal that could just whip my whole boob out sometimes. I have yet to notice anyone staring at me as I feed my child, I really don't think we are all that noticeable, then again my focus is on HIM at that time not the rest of the universe.

I got flak for FF my ODS and I get flak for BF my YDS (my youngest sister is 100% against breast feeding she is the only one that says anything about it to me) so either way people are going to feel it is their right to say something about how you feed your child. Knowing that I can not please the universe makes me focus on what pleases my children instead.

as for the breasts are mean't to be sex objects, it is not so in other parts of the world where BF is more common (Asia for example). In some of these countries the thought of using breasts in foreplay is disgusting as it is mean't to feed a child nothing else. They found other parts of the female form far more appealing. Such as the small of a woman's back, or her feet. Breasts for sex play is a western concept.

I am ALL for NIP in what ever way the MOM & BABY feel comfortable!

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nuturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

:shock :rolleyes :no

Nevermind! I will keep all of my thoughts to myself! I will say that I think the above statements are beyond ridiculous!

I am ALL for NIP in what ever way the MOM & BABY feel comfortable!



:yes I personally would feel more comfortable covering myself up but I don't care what other women do. :) It doesn't bother me either way and if someone doesn't like it it's not that hard to look away. ;)

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nuturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

I ask that very same question..."why is it such a big deal to feed an infant". I am more shocked and skeptical of those who are outraged by it...that to me is cause for question. Breast are not viewed as sexual objects in every society. You have to go back to basics and look at the primary function of the breast...which is to feed an infant. Anything sexually arousing is specific to each person and secondary to nourishment. There are many other factors that "turn on" the opposite sex...many times...breasts are not included. I fail to comprehend why a natural human method of nourishment offends certain people in certain societies.

California Law State:

43.3. Notwithstanding any other provision of law, a mother may
breastfeed her child in any location, public or private, except the
private home or residence of another, where the mother and the child
are otherwise authorized to be present.

It does not indicate that a mother must cover her breast while nursing. As such, a woman should not feel obligated to cover. I chose to cover because I was more comfortable, however, I wouldn't have a second thought about the woman who chose not to.

ETA: I would also hope that those speaking out against NIP, would equally speak out against revealing clothing worn in public or barely there clothing found in advertisements and on television. I find it very interesting that people pick and choose when they are offended by identical scenarios with a different variable (a child). Its fine for a woman to have a see through white shirt in a Abercrombie ad, but show that same woman feeding an infant and suddenly its not appropriate. It would be nice if people would be consistent in their beliefs.

I dont think it should be done. I know its society that makes it a bad thing that shouldnt be seen and I agree. I think it should be done in private..

oh boy, here goes... i am VERYYY passionate about this...

I nurse my almost 12 months old whether we're in public or not. And no, I do not use a blanket. I try to be as discret about it as I can but I don't care if I accidentally flash someone. If my daughter needs to eat she'll eat and I don't care if we're at church, the doctor's office, the city hall, a restaurant or wherever else we might be at that time.

that's me too. i try to be discreet, but sometimes, ellie moves her head and i accidentally flash someone. i have big breasts and it just happens sometimes.

please tell me why it is such a big deal just to throw a little burp rag over your chest? oh and btw, breasts ARE sexual as well as nuturing. They are suppose to be. That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex. I think women should be allowed to breast feed but is it so much to ask to cover a little? i wouldn't want anyone looking at my stuff while I was breastfeeding (which i don't be/c of medical reasons). I know some of you will have a problem with a woman HAVING to cover up but it would help the issue if women could met the courts and society halfway.

would YOU like to eat with a towel on your head?? and honestly, if a man finds my breasts, leaking with milk, to be something sexual, that's his problem, not mine. why should MY child have to eat IN private just because someone MIGHt find my leaky boobies to be sexual? no way, jose.

I dont think it should be done. I know its society that makes it a bad thing that shouldnt be seen and I agree. I think it should be done in private..

would YOU like to eat in private all the time? the baby is EATING, not getting off or doing anything sexual.

i am not saying a woman doesn't have the right to feed her child. I am not saying that at all. I do agree we should teach our children that it is just a natural way to feed a baby. BUT what I am saying is that discretion is the key. If i see someone breast feeding, I don't certainly sit there and stare at the lady, trust me I have seen it. But if you are going to breastfeed I just think you shouldn't have alot showing. I mean, aren't teenagers and men animals enough without giving them THAT ammo? I mean I have actually seen men peer to get a closer look and one teen guy took a picture with a camera phone!!! No woman needs that embarassment just to feed her child! I have been to enough places to see that some women use that kind of discretion and some, quite frankly, just don't give a rat's butt if their breasts are just hanging out for the whole world to see. Great. Good for them if they feel that way. As far as breastfeeding as "offensive", I don't care what you do, you are guaranteed to offend SOMEONE. You cannot SPIT in this country without offending someone. I don't personally see breastfeeding as offensive and I am SO sorry that I don't agree with everyone else's opinion. I hope THIS hasn't ruffled anyone.

Would I want to eat in private? I am eating off a plate, thank you, not from someones breast! Its simply that I just dont want to see it, I dont anything is wrong with, just not in public

you can breast feed in public and be discreet. there are ways of doing it so no one has to see. To whip it out is just impolite to others. A child has to eat yes, but there is a way to do it right.

i am not saying a woman doesn't have the right to feed her child. I am not saying that at all. I do agree we should teach our children that it is just a natural way to feed a baby. BUT what I am saying is that discretion is the key. If i see someone breast feeding, I don't certainly sit there and stare at the lady, trust me I have seen it. But if you are going to breastfeed I just think you shouldn't have alot showing. I mean, aren't teenagers and men animals enough without giving them THAT ammo? I mean I have actually seen men peer to get a closer look and one teen guy took a picture with a camera phone!!! No woman needs that embarassment just to feed her child! I have been to enough places to see that some women use that kind of discretion and some, quite frankly, just don't give a rat's butt if their breasts are just hanging out for the whole world to see. Great. Good for them if they feel that way. As far as breastfeeding as "offensive", I don't care what you do, you are guaranteed to offend SOMEONE. You cannot SPIT in this country without offending someone. I don't personally see breastfeeding as offensive and I am SO sorry that I don't agree with everyone else's opinion. I hope THIS hasn't ruffled anyone.

You managed to ruffle me. Most of us don't have the intention of letting the boobs hang out to the wind. And sometimes, the clothes just get in the way. I've sat out on a bench at the aquarium, and the clothes I was wearing, plus how fussy my son was, were just not making for a discreet nursing experience. And I say, if someone really wants to stare at my pale, flat, unattractive feeding device, so be it. But you can be damn sure that I will notice and stare back. There are 315 degrees in a circle that I am not occupying while nursing my son. They are free to use them. I am not going to use a cover if I don't feel the need to. And I have never seen a nursing mom pull her top totally off to nurse. That, in my opinon, would be indiscreet.

I am struggling with the fact that discretion must be used when feeding an infant...regardless of whether or not its a breast or bottle. I disagree that a woman has to be discrete in this particular situation. It is not a woman's responsibility to bare the burden of the perverted and/or adolescent male mind. I say perverted because the sight of a child SHOULD turn off that sexual instinct/feeling. When it doesn't, people become "offended" and turn it around on the nursing mother...backlash out of fear of their own deviant thoughts perhaps. I don't see how it is a woman's burden that men cannot separate sexual arousal and nourishment of a child. They are responsible for themselves and a woman should NEVER be accused of providing "ammo" to unwanted sexual arousal and/or perversion. The fault lays with them...not the nursing mother. Pretty soon it will be offensive to give birth and women will be asked to be discrete about it.

Would I want to eat in private? I am eating off a plate, thank you, not from someones breast! Its simply that I just dont want to see it, I dont anything is wrong with, just not in public


no one is saying you have to look.

you can breast feed in public and be discreet. there are ways of doing it so no one has to see. To whip it out is just impolite to others. A child has to eat yes, but there is a way to do it right.
Wow
UMMM ok I have nursed all 3 of my kids. and my oldest is 14 now. I don't recall ever just WHIPPING it out. But honestly to put a blanket on draws more attention because the baby just pulls on it and lifts it up. I agree with wolfspawprint that their is a lot of area a person could co if they don't want to watch. Im sorry I thought as long as the baby was eating it was right. Their is no "right way" its a baby's right to bf just like its your right to eat when ever you are hungry. No one asks u to hide to eat! Shit their are people that eat with their mouth open or have bad manners but I don't ask them to stop cause I don't like the way they are eating.

I am struggling with the fact that discretion must be used when feeding an infant...regardless of whether or not its a breast or bottle. I disagree that a woman has to be discrete in this particular situation. It is not a woman's responsibility to bare the burden of the perverted and/or adolescent male mind. I say perverted because the sight of a child SHOULD turn off that sexual instinct/feeling. When it doesn't, people become "offended" and turn it around on the nursing mother...backlash out of fear of their own deviant thoughts perhaps. I don't see how it is a woman's burden that men cannot separate sexual arousal and nourishment of a child. They are responsible for themselves and a woman should NEVER be accused of providing "ammo" to unwanted sexual arousal and/or perversion. The fault lays with them...not the nursing mother. Pretty soon it will be offensive to give birth and women will be asked to be discrete about it.

I absolutely agree with you :yes

I think this is a dead subject that shouldnt even be brought as often as it is

Yesterday Morning I had a Dr appt for DD and there were about 9 other people in the waiting room so I sat down and a mom came in with a 1 month old, so after 5 minutes of her sitting she whipped out her breast and started to breast feed the baby, there were men staring at her and women giving her snotty looks. Well one guy grab his daughter and left the waiting room because he said it was rude for her to do that.

What are your feelings with breast feeding in public?


Having nursed both my daughters for a long time each, I take no offense to breast feeding whatsoever. On the contrary, when I see a young infant strictly bottle-fed, that is when I am more likely to take issue.

I am not trying to get flamed for this position. But, I happen to know mothers who worried more about what harm bf would do to their bodies (sagginess) than they concerned about giving their child a taste of the early milk (loaded with natural antibiotics).

To be clear, I am NOT referring to mothers who, for medical reasons cannot nurse. I understand there are many mothers who are on medications that prohibit bf, they can't get baby to latch on, etc, who shouldn't nurse and with good reason. IMHO, I feel not attempting to bf when it is a doable option is a more significant topic to raise than public bf.

And for the record, I was discreet whenever I did bf, but that's just my nature. I would have no trouble viewing a mother feeding her child in a more public way than I did. Others can always look away from what offends them. The burden is on the spectator, not the mother trying to care for her child.

no one is saying you have to look.

I know, but if Im sitting right across from someone, lets just say in the mall, and she begins breast feeding, I can only look away so fast!!

I dont think it should be done. I know its society that makes it a bad thing that shouldnt be seen and I agree. I think it should be done in private..

WHAT????? :wowsers
OK so here is my question to you... Are you talking about it should be done in private even when a mom IS covered up?? I nursed my oldest and there where times when I was "trying" to cover up and she was screaming like a fiend and I started nursing and then covered up..
:dunno I guess I really don't see what the problem is..

Honestly, we are all adults...its a nipple. If you havent seen one how do you have kids?! If you have kids they shouldnt be ashamed of the NATURAL process of feeding a child. I may or may not do it IF i have kids but seriously I would teach my children it is acceptable and natural. After all it is just a nipple and that is its purpose.

Honestly, we are all adults...its a nipple. If you havent seen one how do you have kids?! If you have kids they shouldnt be ashamed of the NATURAL process of feeding a child. I may or may not do it IF i have kids but seriously I would teach my children it is acceptable and natural. After all it is just a nipple and that is its purpose.

exactly you see more on primetime t.v. than you do unless the woman is completely rude and pulls her boob out before her child is ready to feed

I know, but if Im sitting right across from someone, lets just say in the mall, and she begins breast feeding, I can only look away so fast!!

Well you can pretty much tell if someone is getting ready to nurse they get the baby out reach up to unhook the bra cup then adjust clothing SO if you are seriously focusing on other people that hard you should of been more then enough prepared to shield your eyes from the offensive site of a child taking nourishment from his/her mothers breast. Seems pretty cut & dry to me.

As for males both teenage and otherwise THEIR idiotic behavior and in some cases perhaps perverted behavior are not my job to police. I have NEVER had a teenager or other man stare at me so I don't think that happens nearly as much as others like to say it does when ever this topic comes up. ALSO if ANYONE took a picture of me nursing they would have mall security on them very quickly. I won't put up with that. If I noticed it happening like I said before when I feed my son I am focusing on HIM not the rest of the universe and their reaction. I don't NIP to get a reaction so why would I look to see if I am getting one?

It's not a boob without a nipple.

i dont even like dh to see them:giggle At first i had a hard time with the idea of feedin my dd while we were out but i got the hang of it. I always made sure i had a blanket or something to cover my self with, if we were out eating and couldnt get a booth i'd sneak off somewhere but i just made sure i was always covered. I remember one time there was and elderly lady walking by she stopped looked at me and:):yes she said its so nice to see young mothers nursing their babies patted dd on the foot and walked away. :smitten:tears

We have a friend who is a staple around our house and when dh's friend came over right after i had dd i would always run to the bed room and hide but one day he said you know its not gonna bother me if you nurse her if u r ok w/ it, so from then on it was all fair game:hehe i still tried to make sure i was covered though. but i do remember waking up from a few naps while nursing dd and him showin up while we were dozin :duh Hed wait til then to ask me if i wanted a blanket:whatever:hehe

I remember one time there was and elderly lady walking by she stopped looked at me and:):yes she said its so nice to see young mothers nursing their babies patted dd on the foot and walked away. :smitten:tears

We have a friend who is a staple around our house and when dh's friend came over right after i had dd i would always run to the bed room and hide but one day he said you know its not gonna bother me if you nurse her if u r ok w/ it, so from then on it was all fair game:hehe i still tried to make sure i was covered though. but i do remember waking up from a few naps while nursing dd and him showin up while we were dozin :duh Hed wait til then to ask me if i wanted a blanket:whatever:hehe

Wow that lady was awesome. :lovestruck and what a great friend. :yes

:yes I personally would feel more comfortable covering myself up but I don't care what other women do. :) It doesn't bother me either way and if someone doesn't like it it's not that hard to look away. ;)

I'm the same way :yes

I personally don't care what anyone does. I know I don't have to look. I have zero desire to breast feed MYSELF, but thats just me. I unfortunately DO have the boobs are sexual thought process and as of now I feel like its 'daddys job' so to speak ( yea that was gross sorry guys). I can see why maybe someone with other children like ages 4-10 may not want their kids to be around it so to speak. I mean we all know the deal, but do you tell your 4 year old that they came out of your vagina? I mean, maybe you do, I plan to tell my kids the truth from an early age, but I know a lot of people don't so the breastfeeding thing may freak the parents out more than the kids anyway. I think woman should be able to do what they want, where they want, when it comes to taking care of their children, but i can also understand that using the argument 'would u want to eat in the bathroom? & do you wanna be covered when you eat? & do you wanna eat in private all the time? really sound pretty rediculous. I dont remember a single meal I had when I was any younger than 3...I doubt those babies will be SO SCARED by 'eating alone' haha:P sorry I just thought that was funny. Also I feel that the whole guys lookin at women breast feeding, I dont think its the womans fault by any means and the guys ARE sick, once again, just ME PERSONALLY, I wouldn't want to have myself in the situation that some sicko would see that, get all gross and turned on, and attack me in the parking lot and harm my baby or me. I dont even like walking across the street outside my job because i get 'hollered' at haha. In closing, I think anything is okay. Live and let live.

I personally don't care what anyone does. I know I don't have to look. I have zero desire to breast feed MYSELF, but thats just me. I unfortunately DO have the boobs are sexual thought process and as of now I feel like its 'daddys job' so to speak ( yea that was gross sorry guys). I can see why maybe someone with other children like ages 4-10 may not want their kids to be around it so to speak. I mean we all know the deal, but do you tell your 4 year old that they came out of your vagina? I mean, maybe you do, I plan to tell my kids the truth from an early age, but I know a lot of people don't so the breastfeeding thing may freak the parents out more than the kids anyway. I think woman should be able to do what they want, where they want, when it comes to taking care of their children, but i can also understand that using the argument 'would u want to eat in the bathroom? & do you wanna be covered when you eat? & do you wanna eat in private all the time? really sound pretty rediculous. I dont remember a single meal I had when I was any younger than 3...I doubt those babies will be SO SCARED by 'eating alone' haha:P sorry I just thought that was funny. Also I feel that the whole guys lookin at women breast feeding, I dont think its the womans fault by any means and the guys ARE sick, once again, just ME PERSONALLY, I wouldn't want to have myself in the situation that some sicko would see that, get all gross and turned on, and attack me in the parking lot and harm my baby or me. I dont even like walking across the street outside my job because i get 'hollered' at haha. In closing, I think anything is okay. Live and let live.

i remember when my boobs were daddy's playthings... lol... now they squirt milk if he touches them LOL

i remember when my boobs were daddy's playthings... lol... now they squirt milk if he touches them LOL

:lmao

I had a big reply to the PP but I hit refresh instead of spell check so never mind. I am going to hop out of this thread before I cause permanent brain damage from slamming my forehead against the keys in frustration to some of the responses.

I had a big reply to the PP but I hit refresh instead of spell check so never mind. I am going to hop out of this thread before I cause permanent brain damage from slamming my forehead against the keys in frustration to some of the responses.

i know how you feel and my baby isn't even here yet

yea, this is obviously something i'm very passionate about...so i'm just going to keep it at that :D

That's why you get pregnant, be/c your man saw your breasts, was turned on and you two had sex.

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This sounds like an explanation that a child would give as to why adults have sex and have babies.

Its really not different from feeding your baby a bottle in public. I don't think anyone should be walking around with boobs flopping around for all to see, not b/c I am personally offended by breasts in their natural form, but because society has certain standards such as a woman being clothed up top and that's just the way it is. If the breast is being used for feeding though, and not just exposed for the hell of it, I don't see what the problem is. It's food, it's nourishment, end of story. Breastfeeding is not always easy and even I had a few occasional nip slips when the baby wasn't wanting to latch, so I'm not at all offended if I happen to catch a quick glance of a breast or nipple - it can be hard learning to breastfeed, especially when you feel stressed about it in public. I don't think women should have to cover up either. I'm totally not a pro-bf nazi, I actually only BF my kids for a couple months then switched to formula, but I think exposed breasts are way too taboo of a subject. If people would just be more accepting that it's just a means to feed a child, I think kids could be raised to not think twice about seeing a breast feeding a child and adults wouldn't feel so embarrased about it.

ugh, that came out as way more rambling than I intended, but I'm hungry and my blood sugar is low right now :lol

Bottom line is just that I think breasts are just breasts, and they are only sexual b/c society has made them sexual.

here are some topics where this has been discussed a few times

nursing in public debate- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=16881&highlight=breastfeeding+public

breastfeeding pic on cover of mag - http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=98111&highlight=breastfeeding+public

breastfeeding in applebees- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=97041&highlight=breastfeeding+public

debate on general breastfeeding- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=66675&highlight=breastfeeding+public

profile on myspace deleted b/c of bf pic- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=61343&highlight=breastfeeding+public

woman kicked off plane for bfing- http://forum.militarysos.com/showthread.php?t=41024&highlight=breastfeeding+public

what is bolded from Brandi I agree with & I have breastfeed in public and I to 'cover' myself...........

I dont think it should be done. I know its society that makes it a bad thing that shouldnt be seen and I agree. I think it should be done in private..

So you suggest that if a child is hungry the mother should jump up and leave so that it can be 'done in private'? We are talking about one of the most natural things that exist. Yet you make it sound as if I should be ashamed of BF my daughter and stay in hiding as to not offend anyone. Won't happen. I don't care who I offend and if a tiny bit of bare skin offends you, what do you do in a locker room, at the swimming pool, god forbid you should ever step foot into a sauna.

As long as it's discreet I don't care.

I was basically shy and rather body-conscious prior to becoming a mother. Once the kids were born though, I instantly adopted a bolder attitude whenever the issue of providing the best for my children arose. Prior to having the kids, I felt uncomfortable about the notion of BF in public, but that quickly changed when my first arrived. I was like, "The heck with everyone else. My baby's hungry and that is literally all that matters."

Funny the ways becoming a mother emboldens you. I've all but lost that overly modest 'what-if-someone-knows-my-baby's-nursing?' complex. During all my years of nursing, I just didn't really care about anything apart from meeting my baby's need for nourishment.

i went to nursing group today and was very inspired... i just find it unfortunate that others are embarassed by the simple act of a woman providing sustenance for her child... the little heads on the tops of a bottle is called a nipple... some actually look like a real nipple... what's the difference?

Because men won't see the bottle's nipple, get turned on and then get you pregnant :P

Because men won't see the bottle's nipple, get turned on and then get you pregnant :P

I am sorry but any man that gets turned on when a child is nursing is in the wrong. Children and sexuality are two things that should never go together.

I am sorry but any man that gets turned on when a child is nursing is in the wrong. Children and sexuality are two things that should never go together.

i agree with that

I am sorry but any man that gets turned on when a child is nursing is in the wrong. Children and sexuality are two things that should never go together.

I WAS JOKING and making fun of the person who originally said that. Unless of course you really meant to direct that towards the person who made the boobs = pregnancy comment.

I know I said this in at least three other BF threads, but I whipped mine out whenever, WHEREVER, and how the f^%$ ever I needed to to feed my kid when he was hungry.

The whole "cover up with a blanket" mentality is extremely childish and I can't help but feel sorry for people who think like that(imagine how sad their sex lives must be :rofl).

It's a boob, we all have them, get over it.

Yeah, I'm off my soap box now :D

I am actually VERY surprised at some of the most childish responses out of this group of people. I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and this is a topic that seems to spark alot of controversy but OMG!!! how clueless can u be??!?!?!

Our bodies were MADE to nurse, that is WHY we have breasts....God didnt put them there for ur boy to fondle. Yeah, ok, so there is a sexual aspect to a boob. But there is a HUGE difference between using them for what they were MADE for, and using them as play toys.

I NIP, do I shine my nipples to everyone, well no, but I'm giving my child what my body was MADE to do for my child. Do, I run off and hide to feed my kid....no. Do I squirm and yank on blankets and clothes to make sure no one sees the mound of my boob...no. Sometimes, if my kids are nursing comfortably, I'll cover them up...depends on the company I'm in, but I'm SURELY not gonna go hide cuz someone might see that I have BREASTS!

This whole, "they are sexual and should be hidden" bullshit is ...well....BULLSHIT, and so completely childish.

and dont get me started on whoever that person was that said "I just dont wanna see it..." oh dear God....:hissyfit

I started the post but didn't say what I felt about the whole thing. I really don't care if a mother NIP, it does not bother me at all, I would breast feed my DD while my DH was driving and we don't have tinted windows and I would get dirty looks but I would give them back, I even wanted to squirt my breast milk on their face. Although I did it where no one saw my boobs but if they did oh well and I was in my own car and still got dirty looks.

I know I said this in at least three other BF threads, but I whipped mine out whenever, WHEREVER, and how the f^%$ ever I needed to to feed my kid when he was hungry.

The whole "cover up with a blanket" mentality is extremely childish and I can't help but feel sorry for people who think like that(imagine how sad their sex lives must be :rofl).

It's a boob, we all have them, get over it.

Yeah, I'm off my soap box now :D

:tu

I did try to be somewhat discreet about my nursing simply because it was more comfortable for ME and my personal modesty but I still agree with every word of the above!

I'm all for it if done discreetly. I personally don't want to see anyone's boobs but don't expect them to leave so they can feed their baby. Heck I've nursed in public so I know how it goes. But I always do it discreetly so nobody can see anything. They may know what I'm doing. But they are not getting a view.

:agree I totally agree. I would always cover up with a poncho or something. I once saw a lady just whip it out in the commisarry once with nothing covering her. And the kid was about 1yr. I had to walk the other way.

I think the phrase "whipping it out" is interesting. I NIP for 17.5 months and they were never big enough to "whip out". You make it sound like the boobs are hanging at their knees or something. Like what the last poster said, she walked away. If you dont like it, walk or look away. We have laws to protect us and we aint going anywhere!!:D

I think the phrase "whipping it out" is interesting. I NIP for 17.5 months and they were never big enough to "whip out". You make it sound like the boobs are hanging at their knees or something. Like what the last poster said, she walked away. If you dont like it, walk or look away. We have laws to protect us and we aint going anywhere!!:D
That is soooooo true.

i remember when my boobs were daddy's playthings... lol... now they squirt milk if he touches them LOL

Hahaha Becky thats great

If you dont like it, walk or look away. We have laws to protect us and we aint going anywhere!!:D

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:agree I totally agree. I would always cover up with a poncho or something. I once saw a lady just whip it out in the commissary once with nothing covering her. And the kid was about 1yr. I had to walk the other way.

The world wide average weaning age is 3 years old. (according to the WHO statistic's) My son is 17 months and he still nurses. I wish people would think before they speak, just because you (general) will not nurse longer then a year doesn't mean everyone else feels the same way. A lot of nursing mothers practice child lead weaning. Breast milk is not like formula there are benefits to nursing longer. For my ODS he was FF I weaned him from the bottle at 12 months.

I don't put a blanket, shawl, or poncho over my son's head. He won't keep it on anyway. Rather then fighting him with a blanket, risking a higher likely hood of him flashing me to the world. I just pull my shirt up and let him nurse. No one can see anything anyway, it's not like I am pulling my whole shirt up over my head I just lift on corner.

As for the had to walk away bit why would you stay and stare? Why wouldn't you just continue on with your shopping.

Yesterday Morning I had a Dr appt for DD and there were about 9 other people in the waiting room so I sat down and a mom came in with a 1 month old, so after 5 minutes of her sitting she whipped out her breast and started to breast feed the baby, there were men staring at her and women giving her snotty looks. Well one guy grab his daughter and left the waiting room because he said it was rude for her to do that.

What are your feelings with breast feeding in public?

I don't want to sit and debate anything on my personal feelings right now......just don't have the energy. However why is the guy leaving the office with his daughter seen as such an offensive act? He is entitled to his opinion, just like everyone who is for NIP. So he walked out.....so he said it was rude......is he not entitled to that opinion? If someone is willing to "whip it out" and feed their kid, then they need to be prepared that not everyone is going to agree or be prepared for that situation. we can have all the laws and courts on the side of NIP we want but it will never take away the rights of people to be entitled to THEIR OWN OPINION!!!!!!!!!

I don't care if someone BFeeds but IN THE PARTICULAR INSTANCE the the OP talked about yes I would have been offended there are PLENTY of ways to do it discreetly. My BF brestfed and it never bothered me b/c she did it discreetly.

i don't see anywhere in the original post that said her naked boob was hanging all over the place. :dunno maybe i misread it or something

i don't see anywhere in the original post that said her naked boob was hanging all over the place. :dunno maybe i misread it or something

I was thinking the same thing and I think that it is the phrase "whipped it out". I don't see why a infant being fed in a DR's waiting room is such a big deal. I think the man over reacted and I think he needs to catch a clue. I can bet his DD most likely had no idea that Mother was BFing.

People are free to think what they want AND leave if they want I am going to NIP I have that right. If they say anything TO ME then we might have a problem, of course I do carry a copy of the AZ law just in case that ever happens. A lot of people are not informed on the law and I don't mind letting them know in a polite manner. I am never rude, I am never trying to flash my tata's all over the universe I am just nursing my child. If you (general) do not like it then leave or don't look.

exactly one reason i am going to carry around WA law or whatever state that i am in--their laws.

btw do you know where i can get a copy of state law for each state?

you don't really need to go THAT far, jill ;) but i'm assuming the la leche league website will have the laws, thats where i foundthe ones for CA

but you have a right, as a woman, to BF your child in public. and i still find it funny that humans are the only mammal that use milk from another mammal for sustenance. LOL

WA laws http://www.llli.org/Law/Bills39.html

you don't really need to go THAT far, jill ;) but i'm assuming the la leche league website will have the laws, thats where i foundthe ones for CA

but you have a right, as a woman, to BF your child in public. and i still find it funny that humans are the only mammal that use milk from another mammal for sustenance. LOL

oh i know i probably dont' have to go that far but i would rather have a succinct copy with me just in case

and thanks bex

but you have a right, as a woman, to BF your child in public. and i still find it funny that humans are the only mammal that use milk from another mammal for sustenance. LOL

Isn't that the truth! We are so fortunate to have that support group that we get to go to for bf. I love it!
Its also interesting to hear that we are the ONLY society really that weans our babies that young. To hear the stories the lactation nurse told us about how its more the average age of 2-5 or something like that when they wean. She even said she weaned her daughter at 3. She said her daughter still remembers nursing too. Its what boobs are made for:).

Personally I am going to feed my baby whenever she is hungry no matter where we are or who thinks what about it. Anyone who doesnt like it can stick a bottle up their butts.

Personally I am going to feed my baby whenever she is hungry no matter where we are or who thinks what about it. Anyone who doesnt like it can stick a bottle up their butts.

:lol

:yesIsn't that the truth! We are so fortunate to have that support group that we get to go to for bf. I love it!
Its also interesting to hear that we are the ONLY society really that weans our babies that young. To hear the stories the lactation nurse told us about how its more the average age of 2-5 or something like that when they wean. She even said she weaned her daughter at 3. She said her daughter still remembers nursing too. Its what boobs are made for:).


ya!! that was very inspiring at nursing group. i'm thinking of going this week... are you available? :D :yes

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ya!! that was very inspiring at nursing group. i'm thinking of going this week... are you available? :D :yes

I will go Friday.

ok, sounds good!!

I feed Zoe when she's hungry, doesn't matter where I am. It's my right & if people have a problem with it they can look away. I love living on island, people are much more accepting of it.

This is such a major touchie subject to sooooooo many. I personally know that Maryland state law protects a womans right to nurse her DC where ever they are allowed to be...AND I DO!!! I have nursed in some pretty interesting places according to DH (metro in DC, Almost EVERY national monument.) Federal law also protects a womans right not BF on Federal Property (ie the washington monument, capitol hill) I sat on the steps of capitol hill tandum nursing, I am proud to say!!!

If you have EVER in the middle of summer tried to eat w/ a blanket over your head...you might understand why my DS doesn't like it...And why should I hide for chosing the best thing for my child?!?!?