ok heres a few things im not sure what to do on, since i tried all i can think of for these situations. Time-outs, spankings, corner time, being sent to the room, ect.:dunno:dunno

~1. My 2 yr old loves to spit for some stupid reason. He spits in food, on people, at me, in his brothers hair, ect. I've tried everything, i even slapped his mouth and told him not to spit and why. He'll quit for a little bit, and then hes back at it again.

~2. He also likes to play with the sink if im doing something with my youngest one(like changing a diaper), or going into the fridge/freezer to get stuff. I yell at him to stay out of it, and that if he wants something to ask for it. But he wont. All he does is whine when he wants something, so how do i curb that as well.

~3. My youngest likes to play around with anything electrical, like his brother he does it when im dealing with the oldest or something to that affect. I've tried all things to make him stop, so if he cant touch the cord he goes for the buttons. Im lost on how to make him stop.

~and 4. My oldest loves to hit, bite, punch, pull hair, ect for the heck of it. For some reason hes becoming very violent, and as i said i tried all the above to stop him from doing it but it does nothing. He thinks its funny. As well as telling me no or what to do. Which is a no-no, but he dont care.

So ladies i need some major advice, i tried everything i can think of. And nothings helped.:banghead:banghead

well it sounds to me that at some point they all thought that this was acceptable behavior...

consistency is ur friend....dont give up on punishment just because it didnt work the first time...they've learned how to get around u.

You have to be smarter than them...punish them EVERY time it happens with whatever method u choose to use. Dont let them get away with it one time and then expect them to listen to u when u tell them no another time.

I had this same problem with DF's kids. key word being HAD.

well it sounds to me that at some point they all thought that this was acceptable behavior...

consistency is ur friend....dont give up on punishment just because it didnt work the first time...they've learned how to get around u.

You have to be smarter than them...punish them EVERY time it happens with whatever method u choose to use. Dont let them get away with it one time and then expect them to listen to u when u tell them no another time.

I had this same problem with DF's kids. key word being HAD.

Oh believe me i yell at them or put a stop to it at any time they do it, but they still do it. It's frustrating me. Its like all i do is yell at them, and i hate that. I hate being a mean mom, in their eyes, and yelling or punishing them when they mess up.

I read somewhere that you dont punish them but yell at them and then reward them when they do something right. But just yelling at them, doesnt always work.

Oh also, i never really had any problems. Til they saw their dad, thats when all the misbehaving really started.

I don't have kids yet but if I may: there are those Nanny 911 & Super Nanny books and video tapes. They really seem helpful.

http://www.amazon.com/Nanny-911-Expert-Parenting-Emergencies/dp/006085295X

Good luck though :)

Oh believe me i yell at them or put a stop to it at any time they do it, but they still do it. It's frustrating me. Its like all i do is yell at them, and i hate that. I hate being a mean mom, in their eyes, and yelling or punishing them when they mess up.

I read somewhere that you dont punish them but yell at them and then reward them when they do something right. But just yelling at them, doesnt always work.

eventually yelling at them will become funny to them..they think "oh, is that all I get?...lets do it again"

if the situation warrants it, I do not hesitate to spank my children..

otherwise, for little ones, time out works......for older ones, taking certain priviledges works....but as much as many will disagree, (and many will agree) spanking is effective.

As for ur oldest beating everyone up...could be that he has some anger issues to be worked out?..possibly reacting to a drastic change? maybe therapy will do some good.

eventually yelling at them will become funny to them..they think "oh, is that all I get?...lets do it again"

if the situation warrants it, I do not hesitate to spank my children..

otherwise, for little ones, time out works......for older ones, taking certain priviledges works....but as much as many will disagree, (and many will agree) spanking is effective.

As for ur oldest beating everyone up...could be that he has some anger issues to be worked out?..possibly reacting to a drastic change? maybe therapy will do some good.


At 2 yrs old, he can have anger issues?? or would that be if hes older?? cuz idk really what his problem is. We havent really had any drastic changes except their father, which they really dont know, coming to visit and leaving again. Oh and their uncles moving out, which when they come around they're really good kids...

At 2 yrs old, he can have anger issues?? or would that be if hes older?? cuz idk really what his problem is. We havent really had any drastic changes except their father, which they really dont know, coming to visit and leaving again.

oh hell yeah a 2 year old can have an anger issue. You think they dont pick up on things but they do, they so do. Especially with their dad coming and going like that.

Dont underestimate the little ones. They arent stupid.

ok well then ill mention that to his dr when we go for their check-ups. oh i know he aint stupid lol, hes really really smart which is why it gets me why he wont really talk. but likes to whine instead.

1. My DD was like that. She would spit on or at me. I would put her in her room or in the corner. She pretty much sat in the corner or in her room for 1 week. After that she was done. I remember 1 day she came out of her room to eat and that was it cause during the time she would be eating she would spit so right back to her oom she went. Oh, she was 2 as well.

2. My ODS does that as well. I just keep telling him no. We put a latch on the pantry to keep him out and I'm thinking about getting one for the fridge. There is one that sticks to the fridge and you latch it together like the stroller, booster seat straps. He is too short to reach the freezer. Thankfully, tough he doesn't do this much. Also, if possible a gate.

3. I would get any of the electrical covers that they have. If possible put a gate up so he can't get to the stuff. We have all our electrical stuff up so the kids can't reach it. Except for the tv. Johnny likes to turn the tv off on me all the time. All I have to do though is tell him to turn it back on and he does.

Can you tell I love baby gates. We have 3. :lol I think this is normal for boys at 2. Breanna was more into throwing her temper tantrums at this point. They were really bad.

4. I would not spank in this instance. He obviously has come to think being violent is ok and by hitting him would justify and intensify it. Put him in the corner, put him in his room, take away toys, privileges, etc. There is something he values and by taking it away will curb this behavior; and others he may have.

ok well then ill mention that to his dr when we go for their check-ups. oh i know he aint stupid lol, hes really really smart which is why it gets me why he wont really talk. but likes to whine instead.

I'm all for keeping the drs. informed but just be careful and don't be afraid to stand your ground if you believe something isn't right.

I told Breanna's dr. about her behavior when she was 2 and they wanted to send her to a behvioral psychologist but that psychologist would instantly want her on ritalin. I said I would not be putting my 2 year old on ritalin without any tests saying she needed it. Needless to say I did not get the referral. She is 6 now and has gotten better, alot better, so she obviously didn't need it.

Good Luck.

1. My DD was like that. She would spit on or at me. I would put her in her room or in the corner. She pretty much sat in the corner or in her room for 1 week. After that she was done. I remember 1 day she came out of her room to eat and that was it cause during the time she would be eating she would spit so right back to her oom she went. Oh, she was 2 as well.

2. My ODS does that as well. I just keep telling him no. We put a latch on the pantry to keep him out and I'm thinking about getting one for the fridge. There is one that sticks to the fridge and you latch it together like the stroller, booster seat straps. He is too short to reach the freezer. Thankfully, tough he doesn't do this much. Also, if possible a gate.

3. I would get any of the electrical covers that they have. If possible put a gate up so he can't get to the stuff. We have all our electrical stuff up so the kids can't reach it. Except for the tv. Johnny likes to turn the tv off on me all the time. All I have to do though is tell him to turn it back on and he does.

Can you tell I love baby gates. We have 3. :lol I think this is normal for boys at 2. Breanna was more into throwing her temper tantrums at this point. They were really bad.

4. I would not spank in this instance. He obviously has come to think being violent is ok and by hitting him would justify and intensify it. Put him in the corner, put him in his room, take away toys, privileges, etc. There is something he values and by taking it away will curb this behavior; and others he may have.

that's what i was thinking, that by me spanking him that its alright for him to do that to his brother or hit people. And if i stick him in the corner, he tries to get out but i dont let him, he makes himself puke and that makes me mad and send him to sit on the couch.

Breanna would make herself sick, too. She worked herself up so bad she would just throw up everywhere. We would put her in the bathtub and make her sit there when she started that. She soon got the hint.

i recommend NOT yelling at them. in fact, when they are being BAD dont say ANYTHING to them and i recommend a time out chair.
make sure it is ALWAYS the SAME chair in the SAME place.
the only thing you should say to them is 'you are on time out for 'X amount of time'
they WILL get up. be prepared for that.
just continue putting them back in their chair.
DO NOT YELL OR SPEAK TO THEM
except to say 'your time has RESTARTED'

no matter what they do, ignore it until they can do the full X minutes. after they do that, calmly explain to them WHY they got a time out.

not talking to them and not yelling at them shows them that you wont give them attention for being bad. the main reasons kids are bad is because THEY GET ATTENTION. if they arent getting attention, eventually they will stop doing it. kids also HATE when someone wont talk to them. so dont talk to them until they are willing to take their punishment and then discuss WHY they were punished.

itll take a while for them to get into the routine and understand you are serious about their behavior but stick to it.

and i agree with mona on checking out the nanny 911 stuff, and devinn on taking away privilages as well for the older kids.
and DO talk to your doctor. possibly a psychologist about the anger issues. even at two.

Oh and another thing is, this was brought to my attention a minute ago. For some reason DS1 is really hateful of his brother. He refuses, but it doesnt work, to let DS2 sit by me or in my lap, or be held on to or be played with. He is always trying to take his agression or whatever you want to call it out on him. And that is something DS2 shouldnt have to deal with, and he's only 1. So i dont get what the animosity could be between them.

that's what i was thinking, that by me spanking him that its alright for him to do that to his brother or hit people. And if i stick him in the corner, he tries to get out but i dont let him, he makes himself puke and that makes me mad and send him to sit on the couch.

the only reason I brought up spanking is because I dont know the details of other problems u might have with him....would I spank for hitting, no probably not...but u mentioned other problems that may or may not warrant it.

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cuz u said u lost it :)

eventually yelling at them will become funny to them..they think "oh, is that all I get?...lets do it again"

if the situation warrants it, I do not hesitate to spank my children..

otherwise, for little ones, time out works......for older ones, taking certain priviledges works....but as much as many will disagree, (and many will agree) spanking is effective.

As for ur oldest beating everyone up...could be that he has some anger issues to be worked out?..possibly reacting to a drastic change? maybe therapy will do some good.

i agree. spanking doesnt faze my 3yr old. she will cry for 2 secs. tell me im not her best friend anymore and hide in her room. then comes out, apologizes, and more than likely she does it again!lol. I take her tv away. its like her life. no tv is the worse thing i can do.

Oh also, i never really had any problems. Til they saw their dad, thats when all the misbehaving really started.

Are you married to their dad? If so, then was he just home from R&R or something? A lot of time when it's something like that then they are just re-testing boundaries and with that you just need consistensy and time.

And as far as only yelling and not punishing, no offense, but that's about the stupidest thing I've ever heard! Kids need to know there are consequences.

It kind of sounds like they also are just wanting attention...do you play with them equally and often?

Just some stuff to think on :)