My love (I cant call him my man because he would let me have the title back before he left) just shipped to bootcamp to be a marine monday. I dont know how to be alone, before I moved here I lived at home with my dad, when I moved here my love was always here in case I needed someone. Now I have no one, my closest family is 2 hours away and I have no real friends in the area....Am I just being emo and rediculous that I miss him so much all ready and am having a very hard time coping with all this? :tears


missing my squishy man hoping the marines wont take that out of him!

Hi & Welcome To SOS! Just keep yourself busy and stick around here...it will keep you entertained :)

I'm kinda in the same boat as you. My hubby has been gone for about a month now (hes in the army tho not marines). I'm a little bit more lucky bc my dad and stepmom live near me, but they are always gone especially during the holidays, so im pretty much on my own.
I'm online all the time if you get bored and need someone to chat with. I just try to keep myself busy. I have two great puppies that are very needy so that helps me. But like I said if you need someone to talk to or vent to you can always PM me :)

This is a HUGE change and adjustment for you - not only are you dealing with him being gone/you being alone but my money says you also have a LOT of emotions about what this particular change has in store for your life in general. This is not just him being away but him being away starting a whole new chapter in life. Who wouldn't be a little overwhelmed and emotional about that?
This is also really new/fresh for you - you have to cut yourself a little slack and give yourself some time to find your footing with all of it. We aren't born with coping skills - we find/learn them, which is exactly what you will be doing in the coming weeks.

Missing him is totally normal! My DB is at air force bootcamp in Texas and I was feeling really down a week or so ago and went and talked to a therapist - the doctor actually told me I was going through "Dylan Withdrawals" (Dylan's my DB's name)! It wasn't anything I didn't already know, but for some reason it made me feel more at ease because then my sulking and irritability was justified "medically." :lol

Things will get better, just focus all your attention into letters to him! Just try not to be negative in the letters (don't complain about how much you miss him/need him) because he's going through one of the hardest times in his life and needs you to be strong :)

Hang on - It'll get SO much better!

I know he's fine, joining has been his dream since he was 5! He's practically a marine already. But sounds selfish to me but its me I'm worried about! I know he's gonna change and I'm gonna have to get used to that.
I have two jobs, looking to get a new 1 job working for his family (should be interesting) but with my current income I'm lucky to have $20 bucks a week for food if that. I go to the cheap stores and I only eat about 1.5 meals a day.......my finances are strained I'm strained, my car needs work, my apt needs work, there's ton to do, pretty much I'm overwhelmed he left before he did alot of the things he said he would do. I understand why and everything he was busy and had alot of people demanding his time including me!
All this and the empty feeling my world has to it now is just too much! None of my co'workers understand, they tell me he almost been gone for a week why am I still waitin around for him! He's not even my "bf" anymore so why wait? I love Tom I always will, I know he loves me too and I know why he took the boyfriend title away, just like he has to earn the right to write letters and have hair again I get to earn the title back (when I say it it sounds really weird).
The posts I've gotten have helped a little but does anyone have any ideas on how to organize my chaos I call a life? Or even how to make my co-workers stop giving me a hard time for missing Tom so much?

Your coworkers wont ever understand what you're going through unless they are in the situation. None of my civilian friends get it.

Im a little confused as to why you have to earn back the title of GF though

Your coworkers wont ever understand what you're going through unless they are in the situation. None of my civilian friends get it.

Im a little confused as to why you have to earn back the title of GF though

He took it away because I have alot of growing I need to do and I couldnt do it while I was "with" him. I need to learn how to rely on myself more than on those who are there to help me. He was there for me in every way, emotion and financial. It was gettin to him that I still seemd to need him so much so he told me that we werent gonna be borfriend and girlfriend anymore but we never stopped acting like we were and he was still there for me up until he left. This time is my chance to grow up already but I dont know where to begin, I just want to be able to say my bf is in boot rather than my best friend/sort of ex bf is in boot? :dunno either way he wouldnt give it back before he left.

:heythere & welcome-you WILL make this sweety you CAN do it & you have to stay strong & positive Its good that you are here at SOS it helps ALOT:hugehug

First off, Welcome to SOS!

Secondy, I think this is the best thing for you. You need to learn to be on your own. You need to be able to function without someone always there. It is part of becoming a self actualized person. Being able to survive alone.

(I am not saying completely alone forever, but be able to live without a constant presence)

Try to make friends where you are. Either in real life on online. Enjoy your hobbies.

Being a military SO means you will face deployments, TDYs, guard duty, etc. So there will most likely be more time (and longer amounts) alone.

If you need to chat, PM me.

Take care and hugs to you

hey. my b/f left for marine boot camp aug 20. he is coming back next week ;)....i know how you feel. my b/f was alwaya wit me 24/7 if not on the phone wit me or textin me. everyon said this would change him and im hopeing it wont. you'll get your first letter maybe (if he left monday) then around next monday. i hope everything 4 you works out. if you ever need to talk to another marine's girl just message me.

I know how you're feeling!! Im in NY while my DB is deployed to Iraq while both our families are back in California...best advice is to get involved wherever you can!!! Volunteer!!! You'll meet great people!! The Holidays are coming up and there's so many different ways you can help and get your mind off of things at the same time and meet new people!!! And also this site is wonderful at cheering you up :D!!!! The ladies are wonderful*