HEY,
I'M NEW TO THIS WEBSITE. I NEED SOMEONES HELP. MY BOYFRIENS IS IN BOOT CAMP. B4 HE LEFT WE PLANNED ON GETTINMARRIED IN FEB CAUSE HE COMES BACK IN 2 WEEKS, WELL HE WROTE ME LAST WEEK SAYIN ALL THE OTHER GUYS IN THERE TOLD HIM NOT TO DO IT AND NOW HE IS UNSURE. IM LOST. CAN SOMEONE HELP ME?

Um, what exactly do you need help with, hon? Advice is to tell him that you love him and will stick with him through his military life, whether he marries you in February or not. I think that's why the guys are telling him not to go through with it. They're probably telling him that all military wives & girlfriends cheat. And with that kid of pressure, he's probably going to get confused many times.

:dunno Without knowing more, that's about all I can offer.

:welcome to SOS!
he needs to make his own decision b4 my exdb went to basic we planned on getting married and then at his grad he told me everyone told him to wait until they saw if i could "handle" a deployment....its silly but tell him how you feel is my only advice he really does need to make up his own mind im sorry hes being influenced by the other guys:S

THANKS. YEA WELL HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL.THE GUYS THERE JUST TOLD HIM THAT MOST OF THE GIRLS CANT HANDLE THEIR MAN BEING AWAY AND THEY LEVE THEM..IDK WE R SUPPOSE TO TALK IN 2 WEEKS SO I GUESS WE WILL SEE....THANKS GUYS

Welcome!

:heythere,
welcome to sos

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THANKS. YEA WELL HE KNOWS HOW I FEEL.THE GUYS THERE JUST TOLD HIM THAT MOST OF THE GIRLS CANT HANDLE THEIR MAN BEING AWAY AND THEY LEVE THEM..IDK WE R SUPPOSE TO TALK IN 2 WEEKS SO I GUESS WE WILL SEE....THANKS GUYS

You can just explain to him that yes, some girls can't handle their man being away. I've seen that happen. But, that not everyone is the same. There are many men that are away and their SO's are here, waiting for them to come home. Good luck!

hey there! welcome to SOS! my boyfriend has some of the same feelings as yours it seems....he wants to do our first deployment and see how it is for both of us, see if both of us can handle it. I think if he wants to wait that you should wait...relationships are a compromise and marriage is a HUGE step in a relationship that you want to do only when both people are totally ready to do it. If you guys love each other that much, what should matter is that you're together, not what your "status" is. Hope that helped, and welcome again!! :D :weldust

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My hubby and I decided to get married when he had only been at AIT for a couple of months. The guys were telling him the same thing. But this isn't up to the guys. This is between you and him.

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Hello & welcome

welcome!

I'm sorry I don't have any advice, just wanted to say Welcome!

:heythere welcome to sos. Yeah my df told me that some guys told him the samething but some didn't. Just stick by him and he will see that you aren't leaving him. He will learn to make his own judgement. Now that df is at his duty station, some of the married guys are telling him to make sure we have separate accounts so I don't spend his money. But df isn't listening to them. Just be open with eachother and it'll work out. :)

:hello I am also a marine fiance...we are currently surviving his first deployment and will be getting married when he gets back.

The guys over there occassionally caution him to not get married because even if I can handle the first deployment, maybe I'll cheat on the 2nd or some crap like that. I just have to keep reassuring DF that I will be here and to tell those guys to shove it! Haha...

Anyways, welcome and PM me if you ever want to talk! :)

Welcome to SOS!!! :D

Hi! :hi
I'd say just stick by him. If he decides he does want to wait to get married, I wouldn't try to rush him.
From what my db tells me, there's a lot of cheating that goes on with some couples during deployments. It breaks my heart to hear stories like that, but db knows that he has a girl that would never do that to him, and I'm sure your man knows that with you too.
PM me if you ever want to talk!

:confusedyea iim tryin hard to tell him how i feel but i wont know tell he writes back. i know im going to stick by him its just hard with me being 17 but this is what i want. my parents dont approve but im almost 18 so they cant do much. my sister is in the air force, she warned me about this and my fiance's friend is a girl and in the marines and told me there is alot of hoes in there so i'll never know. my boyfriend has changed alot. his letters dont sound like him.but im going to wait tell i see him next week and see. thanks everyone 4 your help. ;)