View Full Version : I know it's going to be like this until June...


Brandi
11-06-2007, 10:22 PM
but it still SUCKS.

Jason leaves June 1st. Still 7 months away. We have plenty of time to prepare for the 9-12 months that he'll be gone (tentatively anyhow, but could be extended depending on ship's schedule :sigh ).

But it's almost like I've got myself in this absolute FUNK, like he's almost already gone or something. We've been bickering a little bit, which hasn't happened much aside from during our PCS move (when stress levels were very high) and I keep thinking to myself "I wish you'd just go!" and I know that's AWFUL but I'm just anticipating how crappy it's going to be when he really is gone. I haven't had to do the deployment thing in a long time and I haven't had to deal with very much separation since we've had kids. So, here I am, 7 months away from his departure date, and I'm already stressed out about it. He leaves June 1st, a day before my birthday, and will supposedly be home within the first quarter of 2009, HOPEFULLY. So, he's going to miss my birthday, Shelby's birthday, Hunter's birthday, Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years, Valentines, probably Easter, Jaxon's whole first year of Kindergarten (with the exception of maybe the last month or two if he can make it home), Shelby's first year of preschool, and everything in between.

What sucks is that I'm here in SD, while the majority of the people attached to his command are in New Orleans with the ship. Most people were authorized to move families there, but not him b/c he's phase 3 and they don't think it would be worth it to move us there. Funny how they will move families to Great Lakes while students are in bootcamp and school, yet they don't think it would be worth it to move us. That makes sense. :taptap But it will boil down to me not really having a family support system here b/c there are not many people from that command that will be here.

I'll get over it, I'll deal with it, I'll flip the happy switch and put on a smile even when I am crumbling inside. I'm just feeling really bummed knowing I won't even have family around to support me. So, I guess that basically means I'm going to be on here bothering you all way too much.

His command has given Jason word that they are losing their Ombudsman and may want me to step up and do it, so I'm hoping that will be something that will give me a bit more communication and support from the command, and also something to make me feel more connected. Not sure when or if that will happen yet though, and I don't want to get my hopes up.

Someone tell me a joke or something. I need to get outta this funky funk. :blech

PattersonGal
11-06-2007, 10:26 PM
I have a joke! :teehee
A teacher asks her class, "If there are five birds sitting on a fence and you shoot one of them, how many will be left?" She calls on little Johnny. "None, they all fly away with the first gunshot."
The teacher replies, "The correct answer is four, but I like your thinking." Then Little Johnny says, "I have a question for YOU. There are three women sitting on a bench having ice cream. One is delicately licking the sides of the triple scoop of ice cream. The second is gobbling down the top and sucking the cone. The third is biting off the top of the ice cream. Which one is married?"
The teacher, blushing a great deal, replies, "Well I suppose the one that's gobbled down the top and sucked the cone."
"The correct answer is the one with the wedding ring on... but I like your thinking."
:giggle


I hope you feel better in the meantime. Try and make the best of your time together until June :hugehug

Rachael
11-06-2007, 10:29 PM
:( Its the middle of May for us, so one positive note...well go through a lot of it together and can do dinner/ different activities with the kids!

Pebbles
11-06-2007, 10:29 PM
I am going to bust out my :ghey



Dancing Heroes. I hope they put a smile on your face :hugs
http://www.yatoula.com/gif/haut_debit/images_36.gif

Rachael
11-06-2007, 10:31 PM
I am going to bust out my :ghey



Dancing Heroes. I hope they put a smile on your face :hugs
http://www.yatoula.com/gif/haut_debit/images_36.gif

man I wish I could groove like that! lol

Brandi
11-06-2007, 10:31 PM
I have a joke! :teehee
A teacher asks her class, "If there are five birds sitting on a fence and you shoot one of them, how many will be left?" She calls on little Johnny. "None, they all fly away with the first gunshot."
The teacher replies, "The correct answer is four, but I like your thinking." Then Little Johnny says, "I have a question for YOU. There are three women sitting on a bench having ice cream. One is delicately licking the sides of the triple scoop of ice cream. The second is gobbling down the top and sucking the cone. The third is biting off the top of the ice cream. Which one is married?"
The teacher, blushing a great deal, replies, "Well I suppose the one that's gobbled down the top and sucked the cone."
"The correct answer is the one with the wedding ring on... but I like your thinking."
:giggle


I hope you feel better in the meantime. Try and make the best of your time together until June :hugehug
:lol Thank you for that :lol

:( Its the middle of May for us, so one positive note...well go through a lot of it together and can do dinner/ different activities with the kids!
Yes, that is a huge plus. They will probably be leaving right around the same time. What I am hoping for is that they move his leaving date up so he leaves earlier, but let him come home earlier. I was hoping before the holidays but I know that won't happen so I'll just hope for January or before Valentines, at least.

One big plus that I keep reminding myself of is that even though he'll be gone, he'll only be in Louisiana, he won't be in a hostile area and we'll be able to talk on the phone and such. So, that's a really big plus :yes

Amber V
11-06-2007, 10:31 PM
:hugs

Brandi
11-06-2007, 10:32 PM
I am going to bust out my :ghey



Dancing Heroes. I hope they put a smile on your face :hugs
http://www.yatoula.com/gif/haut_debit/images_36.gif

I LOVE them! I need to find my dancing spidey :taptap

Brandi
11-06-2007, 10:34 PM
Here he is!!!
http://militarysos.com/forum/gallery/images/1/1_SpiderManDancing7.gif

Rachael
11-06-2007, 10:35 PM
I keep trying to block it out! It will come quicker then I can imagine. We just did this in August of last year, so in a way its a lot easier then you having had Jason home for quite some time now! :hugs (L)

PattersonGal
11-06-2007, 10:39 PM
Here he is!!!
http://militarysos.com/forum/gallery/images/1/1_SpiderManDancing7.gif

:lmao

Aundi
11-06-2007, 10:43 PM
Can he come home (a few times) and visit during that time frame? Seperations suck ass:sigh

piggypunkinetta
11-06-2007, 11:18 PM
We are in the same situation. Dh leaves in the end of March. There is going to be a lot of us lonely wives. Maybe we should start a club. :giggle At least there are a lot of ladies out here in SD to keep you company and while he will be missing all those things you mentioned, those very same things are what will keep you busy while he is gone.

Brandi
11-06-2007, 11:27 PM
Can he come home (a few times) and visit during that time frame? Seperations suck ass:sigh

We don't think so, but we're not sure. Normally, he'd get a free flight back here every 2 months, but we don't know if this will hold true with him being on a precom b/c every rule seems to be different with precoms :taptap But my family has offered to fly out here at least one time and keep the kids for a long weekend while I fly down to New Orleans to visit with him. We are hoping that if the ship's schedule allows, they will let him come home at least once or twice so he can see the kids. Though, in a way, I wonder if that would just make things harder on everyone since he'd only get to be here for two days or so, then have to leave again. I would almost rather him just stay gone so we can get into a normal routine and not have to disrupt them anymore.


We are in the same situation. Dh leaves in the end of March. There is going to be a lot of us lonely wives. Maybe we should start a club. :giggle At least there are a lot of ladies out here in SD to keep you company and while he will be missing all those things you mentioned, those very same things are what will keep you busy while he is gone.

It does seem like lots and lots of deployments are going on lately. Or maybe I'm just more aware of them now since I'll be there myself in a few months. It will be soooo nice to have the support of everyone out here though. I'll be planning weekly meetups just to do coffee or a morning at the park or just something to meet with other adults and kids. We should have quite a few of us around that time!

mary79
11-06-2007, 11:30 PM
I'm sorry :hugs

I remember going threw that. Its tough, you kind of with drawl from them emotionally so that its easier when they leave.

You will get threw this! at least you are in San Diego where you have a ton of friends and the sun!