until DB deploys for a 6 month cruise. :tears I feel so ashamed because I'm sad that he's leaving but I feel like it hasn't "hit me" yet. This is the first deployment for both of us, so maybe I'm not that upset because I don't know what to expect yet. But I've even tried to feel upset about it and cry about it but it just isn't happening. What the heck is wrong with me?? :sigh

Nothing...Nothing at all is wrong with you. everyone handles things differently. My husband and I found out 2 weeks before he was deployed to Iraq and the first couple of days I cried and then I didnt. I didnt even cry when he left except one stream down the face. I then later got home and that night just let it all out and felt so much better. He has been gone 19 days now and still no tears and I am so OK with that. I owe me being strong like this to my husband whome sat and talked with me for hours and reassured me about everything. Bottom line is take what ever emotion you have and just go with it. You are who you are and it is what it is

I am feeling your pain as well hun!!! It's not easy the last few weeks and days before they leave!!!!

Also just wanted to let you know...

I changed the title to your thread for OPSEC!! Just making sure everyone is safe!!!!

I am feeling your pain as well hun!!! It's not easy the last few weeks and days before they leave!!!!

Also just wanted to let you know...

I changed the title to your thread for OPSEC!! Just making sure everyone is safe!!!!

ohh! Derrrr! :duh:duh:duh lol sorry, I forgot about that! DB was actually just lecturing me about that the other night when I told him I was SOSing!

That's ok!!! We're all here to help each other remember and the stress of the situation makes it hard sometimes!! :D

:hugs It hits everyone differently. Some will be affected from the minute they hear about deployment others will not really get hit with it until weeks later. There is no right or wrong to it. :hugs

im sorry...its definiyl hit me...but you'll get through it and we are all here to help!:hugehug

It is completely normal. I know that while I was "feeling it" but not really before his first deployment it took about a week for it to actually hit me that this was not a work up but that he really was not coming home.

This deployment was a little different where I was a basket case before hand and breaking my heart about a week before. You can do this!!

oh my goodness girl! I am in the EXACT same boat. I have nights where i'm a mess, but they don't happen until everything else in my life is just so completely stressful and hten i think about him leaving and just lose it. but other than that - it hasn't hit me at all.. please PM me if you want to talk more, i keep tryign to think of a way to maybe make it "hit home" more before he leaves, but i don't think it's possible!