A little background that I didn't put in my intro post....

I'm casually dating an Air Force Reserve pilot. His living situation is a little vague right now, he's in the process of building a house and moving to my town. As if that wasn't bad enough, he's a pilot in the civilian world as well, so our time together is VERY limited. I haven't seen him in two weeks (due to my travel schedule) and probably won't see him for another two (due to his travel schedule). Once his house is finished, he'll be around a lot more, but that's another few months.

My problem is, there's really two ways I see this going. I either build up the relationship in my head into something it's not yet, or the distance prevents us from really giving this a fair chance. Anyone have any advice for dealing with this?

Building the relationship up in your head is something that can definitely happen, it's something I've done a bunch of times. Maybe a solution is to keep it casual for a few months after you start seeing him again. I know that it's a huge temptation to jump into the relationship when you want to see where it will go, but often it's wise to keep the babysteps going for a little while longer.

However, if you think you're ready to give this a shot, then the key is talk talk talking on the telephone and e-mail. The only way you're going to prevent it building up is if you get all the truth out there in the beginning, and dont let your mind run away with things that could or could not be.

If you guys are meant to work out, then you'll be strong enough to last a couple of weeks with no substantial contact. That's what life is going to be like as a military SO anyway - this could be like practice.

:agree...She's right. I have been there too actually our situtations are very similar except I can add an ex to the mix and that's a headache for me too :giggle...anyway I would just put everything out there and see what he says about it. Just let him know how you're feeling and make time for one another when you can.