So hubby is deploying to Iraq soon, he has lots of training over the next several months that will put him away from Dec 4th- Feb 09. So he only has a few days left off to get all our stuff done.
My problem is, he acts like he isnt even leaving. I see no changes, he goes to work, comes home, watches t.v etc. We havnt been on a date since we found out about the deployment, no real family time togather, besides daily stuff, but nothing meaniful.
Sometimes it hurts my feelings:sigh, but when it comes to me, I just deal with it, and think maybe this is his way of coping, but when it comes to the kids, I feel like I have a duty to make sure they have things that will help them cope.
Ive told him at least once a week for the past two months, " you really need to start some video's and recording for the kids, maybe write them some letters or spend one on one time with them. We have 4 kids total, but so far, nada,, nothing:sigh.
Its so wierd, cause hubby is all about family, he's never even went out once with guy friends in the past 10 years, cause he feels bad leaving me at home, so Im not understanding why he is acting this way:dunno
Anyone else have this problem, there is only so much I can do to prepare for this deployment.

I wonder if he's just trying to keep things as normal as possible for sanity reasons. These are his last few weeks at home, maybe he wants to keep them as calm as possible for him, you and the children? :dunno

Have you tried talking to him about it? Everyone reacts differently.

Maybe you can plan a family day together? or even a nice date for the two of you. Take pictures and enjoy the time with him. To get those things done for the children, maybe you can say "hey hunny, how about tonight after dinner we can do those recordings for the kids", that way he's locked into a time to do it, he can't put it off and you're not nagging him...

You may have to be the proactive one.

Good Luck!! :hugehug

It's how they cope. :hugs

db is doin the same thing ever since he told me it has been as if he isnt goin he goes to work comes home plays video games and thats it. we dont go on dates ne more we used to at least once a week or so n he just seems like he always wants to be home n left alone. i dont know if hes dealin with it or ignorin it but i want to spend as much time with him as possible and take millions of pictures and im constanly stressin over this n his respnse is " i dont know what ur so stressed out about all the time" umm maybe cuz ur leavin for iraq soon??? so i dont know sorry i have no advice pm me if u want to talk though

probably just wants to keep things normal like the other ladies have said. They say this is the best thing to do. My husband and I did it and loved it...it worked out great