like taking our soldiers far away w/ barely any contact isn't enough...why do they have to take all communication away from them for the first 3wks? its not right! like it isn't enough they can only write us & talk every so often?! im sorry i just had to say that about the whole boot camp thing...my husband just told me on the phone [just got there] & i had'a let it out! :censored

Yeah, it sucks, but without that bootcamp wouldn't be as effective. We want them trained as well as possible because it will save lives, and unfortunately that's a part of it. :(

i guess...im not so upset bc of ME not being able to speak w/ him...its just he was so torn up about leaving our son thats 2yrs old...& i wanna be able to tell him we're okay & he's fine...he thinks noel is gonna forget him while he's gone...i feel so bad!

Went through the same thing with BCT, AIT, and now our first deployment where he thinks our almost 2 yr old son won't remember him when he comes home. Our son remembered him at BCT Grad, AIT homecoming, and I'm sure he will not forget him now. Just keep reassuring your honey that your son WILL remember him, will be a little mad at graduation, but should be over it in a day or so. :)

eehhhh I think its for a good purpose...to keep them focused and what not. It sucks ya but things could be worse

Boot Camp is designed to train them, break them and mold them. It's part of what will make him a good soldier. They are already too easy on them now as it is. If they let them call you whenever they want, it would defeat the purpose.

Just remember, him and every other person there are going through the same thing. ALL of them don't get calls and the like. AND.. there are people going throguh what you are, and many more going through a lot worse :) Boot Camp is just the beginning, deployments are a lot more challenging and difficult.

Boot Camp is designed to train them, break them and mold them. It's part of what will make him a good soldier. They are already too easy on them now as it is. If they let them call you whenever they want, it would defeat the purpose.

Just remember, him and every other person there are going through the same thing. ALL of them don't get calls and the like. AND.. there are people going throguh what you are, and many more going through a lot worse :) Boot Camp is just the beginning, deployments are a lot more challenging and difficult.


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i know it has to be that way for the sake of there training...im just upset about my husband being so sad thinking our son will forget him, thats all! i know it only gets worse...i jsut dont want him to hurt [lol] ima big baby....it hurts me more to see him hurt then actualy being hurt...kwim?

i know it has to be that way for the sake of there training...im just upset about my husband being so sad thinking our son will forget him, thats all! i know it only gets worse...i jsut dont want him to hurt [lol] ima big baby....it hurts me more to see him hurt then actualy being hurt...kwim?


Don't stress over it :) He is supposed to be sad and miss you and your son. Just about everyone cries in bootcamp.

hahaha awwww...wish i could see it! only tyme i saw my husband cry was...the night he proposed [after being broke up for a few hours] && the night b4 he left...

well, this is what i have learned is military life....ugh...just the beginning. i kinda know what you are going through. my dh just graduated bct and is now at ait. we have a 4 month old and a 4 year old. the 4 month old is small and has no idea who his daddy is(which doies hurt me) but maybe over time he will. like i said hes only 4 months old. when we went to see dh graduate, he was hurt because our 4 year old really wasnt happy to see his daddy.... but the next day he warmed up a little. now that really upset me. i just show him lots of pictures but he just says the army takes too long. if you are anything like me, the mailbox will be your new best friend. Basic is very rough, but its for good. when i saw dh i can tell he has changed- i am not happy about that at all-but i guess its what happens.dh said he almost cried alot when he was gone, but he didnt because he is a soldier now.ugh.....soldiers are allowed to cry in my book, but i guess not his! i hope everything gets easier for you!:hugehug

well, this is what i have learned is military life....ugh...just the beginning. i kinda know what you are going through. my dh just graduated bct and is now at ait. we have a 4 month old and a 4 year old. the 4 month old is small and has no idea who his daddy is(which doies hurt me) but maybe over time he will. like i said hes only 4 months old. when we went to see dh graduate, he was hurt because our 4 year old really wasnt happy to see his daddy.... but the next day he warmed up a little. now that really upset me. i just show him lots of pictures but he just says the army takes too long. if you are anything like me, the mailbox will be your new best friend. Basic is very rough, but its for good. when i saw dh i can tell he has changed- i am not happy about that at all-but i guess its what happens.dh said he almost cried alot when he was gone, but he didnt because he is a soldier now.ugh.....soldiers are allowed to cry in my book, but i guess not his! i hope everything gets easier for you!:hugehug

aww thank you sooo much! he just called me from a pay phone & noel is being cranky & didnt want to talk & i think it hurt his feelings a lil....i so worried about noel & anthony both...jus want everything to be okay?:worry

Boot Camp is designed to train them, break them and mold them. It's part of what will make him a good soldier. They are already too easy on them now as it is. If they let them call you whenever they want, it would defeat the purpose.

Just remember, him and every other person there are going through the same thing. ALL of them don't get calls and the like. AND.. there are people going throguh what you are, and many more going through a lot worse :) Boot Camp is just the beginning, deployments are a lot more challenging and difficult.

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The good news is that he has his phone. The Army is beginning to let the soldiers have it one day a week (usually sunday) to call home. So, they'll give him back his cell phone at least once a week rather than him having to fight for payphones. Just the up-side of it.

He'll have time to write to you and your son and you'll be able yo write back and while it isn't as timely, it helps more than you'd know. He could even draw a little something for your son and mail that jsut to him.

Boot Camp is designed to train them, break them and mold them. It's part of what will make him a good soldier. They are already too easy on them now as it is. If they let them call you whenever they want, it would defeat the purpose.

Just remember, him and every other person there are going through the same thing. ALL of them don't get calls and the like. AND.. there are people going throguh what you are, and many more going through a lot worse :) Boot Camp is just the beginning, deployments are a lot more challenging and difficult.

that is why you have to write letters to him. to let him know that everything is ok and make sure knows his son wont' forget him. my son was 18 months old when my DH went to boot camp, then A school and then straight to a deployed ship. i do think that deployments are easier than boot camp we can e mail each other but they are also a lot longer as well. its not just about training him. its about training you to be independant as well. that is how i looked at it. we went through it together and i learned how to stand on my own as well.

Letters are the key to getting through boot camp! The mail box was my best friend, and on Thursdays I loved the mail man. Have your son "write" to daddy and draw pictures and such, I garntee your husband will LOVE that. Every time my husband is gone and I see our nephew, I have him write DH a letter and draw a picture, and I know that my husband loves it. And there is never too much letters. I wrote by husband at least 2 pages a day.. Sometimes 5-6 pages. Hang in there, it's only the beginning.

Letters are the key to getting through boot camp! The mail box was my best friend, and on Thursdays I loved the mail man. Have your son "write" to daddy and draw pictures and such, I garntee your husband will LOVE that. Every time my husband is gone and I see our nephew, I have him write DH a letter and draw a picture, and I know that my husband loves it. And there is never too much letters. I wrote by husband at least 2 pages a day.. Sometimes 5-6 pages. Hang in there, it's only the beginning.

THANK YOU! yeah i write him everyday..but i don't have his address just yet so im just waiting.:bored..he doesn't have his cell but his friends he made have been letting him call me...im doing pretty okay-- its just night time that kills make...i cry almost every night after my son has gone to sleep..:tears..i cant wait for him to be able to write me...& thanks for the good idea! ill get my son to draw/ color something...he's only two but Anthony will LOVE it!:D

that is why you have to write letters to him. to let him know that everything is ok and make sure knows his son wont' forget him. my son was 18 months old when my DH went to boot camp, then A school and then straight to a deployed ship. i do think that deployments are easier than boot camp we can e mail each other but they are also a lot longer as well. its not just about training him. its about training you to be independant as well. that is how i looked at it. we went through it together and i learned how to stand on my own as well.


E-mails are far and few for me being that my husband is on a sub so it's worse to me :lol

E-mails are far and few for me being that my husband is on a sub so it's worse to me :lol

girl i couldn't do it. i am SO SO grateful my DH is on the surface and can't go on subs. i really couldn't do it i would go nuts LOL. i have a few sub friends and their family grams were HUGE for them and the limited amount of e mails you can send like just a few short lines. you would think some how somewhere they would come up with a better system for submariners.:tu

believe me... there are far more things the Army does that will absolutely piss you off...my list could go on and on.
they don't take away all communication during basic...you can write letters and send pictures.
What basic is your husband at? My husband went to Ft. Benning and he actually ended up getting to call a lot more than we had thought. They sometimes earn phone calls for doing things or being the best at something.

:hugehug all good things come in time

believe me... there are far more things the Army does that will absolutely piss you off...my list could go on and on.
they don't take away all communication during basic...you can write letters and send pictures.
What basic is your husband at? My husband went to Ft. Benning and he actually ended up getting to call a lot more than we had thought. They sometimes earn phone calls for doing things or being the best at something.

He's at Ft. Sill, Oklahoma...He'll be there for Basic & AIT....He called today from reception saying it was his last phone call to me til he comes home for Xmas bc he goes from reception to Boot camp tomorrow...:sadeyes but still no address....he's been at reception 4 a week...so i jus been writting...:worry

I think they should at least be able to receive their mail whenever it arrives and write once a week from the very beginning. Remaining connected is important. I understand, though, that they can't be calling or writing every day. Part of me wishes I could be there with him through this. But, I would only be a distraction. So, I do all I can and love him and support him from this end.