I missed DH's phone call this morning and he sounded sad. I never know when he is going to call. All I got was a voicemail, which I've listened to a few to many times. I feel like I have the flu. I can't eat, drink, nothing. All I do today is sit around and cry my eyes out. Spent most of the day curled up in a ball on the couch. Sorry if I'm whining, this is the first thing I've done today other than lay on the couch and cry. Absolutely everything reminds me of him right now. I know he's only been away for a few days but today sucks. Please assure me theys don't come often or get much worse. I'm scared and lonely. I don't even want to be around my family here at home. I don't know what I want.

:bigsadhug

You're entitled to these days, but then for your and his sake you need to get yourself up and dust yourself off. He will hate to hear you in such a state....not that you should hide your feelings, but staying in a funk will only make the time go by sssssslllllllooooowwwweeeeerrrrr. JMO.

:hang

here is a question...would your man want you to be sitting around crying and feeling sorry and moping...or would he want you to be living your life and doing things you love and loving life even though he is there. I know deployments are hard...I am going through one right now but stop doing this to yourself your just going to keep getting worse if you dont pick yourself up and keep moving. There are things you can be doing even to better yourself so you have an even better relationship when your man gets home

:bigsadhug I know how it feels to miss that phone call, it happened to me quite a few times and I cried all day long, actually I cried until he called me back 3 days later. The first month was the hardest for me and still some days are bitch but you will get through and you will soon be looking back at this day with your DH:hugs I hope you feel better:consoling

I missed DH's phone call this morning and he sounded sad. I never know when he is going to call. All I got was a voicemail, which I've listened to a few to many times. I feel like I have the flu. I can't eat, drink, nothing. All I do today is sit around and cry my eyes out. Spent most of the day curled up in a ball on the couch. Sorry if I'm whining, this is the first thing I've done today other than lay on the couch and cry. Absolutely everything reminds me of him right now. I know he's only been away for a few days but today sucks. Please assure me theys don't come often or get much worse. I'm scared and lonely. I don't even want to be around my family here at home. I don't know what I want.

You want your man. :) Try not to be sad. I know it's tough. Have those moments of wailing and heartache and then realize that they don't help in the long run. Try to make each day as great as possible and realize that every morning you wake up is one day closer to you two being together. Smile!!!

I remember missing a call from my DH when he was deployed. It totally stinks. It will get better, but you have to stay busy and stay positive.
Time will go by faster if you get up and get busy!!

My husband left 28 days ago and I didn't leave the house for over a WEEK!! Even now I will force myself to agree to hang out with another wife or I will set up appts so I have to go places (doctors etc).
I just went and got a christmas job at Macy's because it was getting bad the way I won't leave the house.
My butt is numb every day just sitting on the computer waiting for him to come on and just reading all kinds of stuff and googling.
I can't wait to start macy's full-time. I am hoping this gets better.. I am in a slump.
(MY HOUSE IS SO SO DIRTY AND GROSS TOO).. maybe i will clean that tonight LOL

Alright. You've had a week (here comes the occaisional "get-to-gettin'-on talk" from Becca) :)

Face it - he's deployed. He's going to be gone for awhile. You knew this was coming, and all be danged if it isn't here. You have 2 options. You can (a) choose to spend your days in solitude feeling sorry for yourself, missing your other half and being perfectly, completely, entirely miserable while life passes you by. OR, (b) you can pull yourself up by your bootstraps, get off of the "woah is me I miss my love" pony and get to being a strong and supportive military significant other.

See, the thing that sucks probably the most about deployment is getting used to them being gone. But you just have to do it. This is how our life is. (Side note - could someone C&P this paragraph for me in 3-ish months when DH deploys? Thanksomuch :giggle)

Sitting around bawling all day and feeling sorry for ourselves does absolutely no good to anyone. Josh knows when he talks to you how miserable you are - so then, he's out there feeling like crap already because of his environment, his situation, his secret, the fact that you're apart, and worried about you because he knows you're SO upset that he's gone. It's OK TO BE UPSET, but the time comes when you just have to snap out of it. He needs you to be strong. He knows you love him, and that's what matters most, but honest to God, they can't spend their time worried about us back home being able to cope, they need to be able to focus on the mission at hand, whatever it is, and just getting home to us safely.

So what can ya do? Find a hobby, start a craft. What do you like to do? Do you like to take pictures? Make him a scrapbook as a "welcome home" gift when he gets home. Show him pics of the things you did to pass the time while he was away. Do you like artsy stuff? Start working on a cross stitch for him - they can take up a TON of time (but you can't work on them with tears in your eyes or you can't read the pattern - coincidence?). Do you have a job? If you do, throw yourself headfirst into your work...and if your current job isn't something you can throw yourself into, find one that is. Volunteer your time. Just find something to help you pass the time and get yourself up off the floor so you can live this life you've chosen together. It's not forever - be it for 4 years or 20, it's not forever.
:hugs

So today, I want you to make a valiant effort to get-to-gettin'-on with being married to the military. We're a tough breed, often stronger than we think.

when me and DB were still together, my cell was glued to my hand. i would stop everything to talk to him. i never once missed his call.. till the month before we broke up! loll.. i bawled like a baby thinking that hes gonna be so mad that i wasnt there for him. but when i talked to him again, he wasnt upset. Im sure he knows that you have stuff to do that you couldnt answer the phone. I know he misses you as much as you do him but honestly you have to do something to keep your mind off of it. there will be other phone calls.. i hope you feel better hon!

I missed DH's phone call this morning and he sounded sad. I never know when he is going to call. All I got was a voicemail, which I've listened to a few to many times. I feel like I have the flu. I can't eat, drink, nothing. All I do today is sit around and cry my eyes out. Spent most of the day curled up in a ball on the couch. Sorry if I'm whining, this is the first thing I've done today other than lay on the couch and cry. Absolutely everything reminds me of him right now. I know he's only been away for a few days but today sucks. Please assure me theys don't come often or get much worse. I'm scared and lonely. I don't even want to be around my family here at home. I don't know what I want.

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I've missed phone calls with my dh as well and it SUCKS. You're going to have bad days it's just part of the deployment. You can't hole up all the time tho. It's very easy to get depressed and get reclusive. I was like that during my dh's Korea tour the first month I didn't do anything I cried constantly I wouldn't leave the house for the first 6 months of that tour I was in a really bad place. You can't let the feelings completely overwhelm you. But in the same respect you can't hold it all in either. The more you do and the busier you are the faster the time will go. My dh left Sept 1st I still can't believe it's already nearly Decemeber. I've kept busy and focused on other things and time is just flying by. I hope the next few days get better for you and I hope that time just FLIES by!!
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Thanks to all of you. Reminders that it won't suck forever and will eventually be over are good. I know these things but sometimes I get so bogged down that I can't convince myself. I do MAKE myself leave the house when friends and family call. I absolutely do not want to but i am smart enough to know i have to. Even got through my first anxiety attack that did stop me from leaving the house once. I had never had an anxiety attack before - they suck. I do still cry all the time. It can be so damn random.