that it's been so long since you have seen SO during deployment or when he is at base and you aren't living with him that he will figure he can do without you for that time period he can do without you period? that is like one of my biggest fears... anyone feel the same? what do you do to shake that feeling?

Maybe at first but not now.

I think that's everyone's deepest secret fear. As much as somebody will say "yeah, i'm not afraid of that," we all get a little twinge of horror at the thought.

The way I think of it is:

You've seen that YOU can do without HIM for this time period, but does that mean that you can do without him for good? You're both in this relationship together, and both love each other so, sooo much, so why should your love be any stronger than his?

He's probably just as scared that you'll get the same idea. Have some faith in what you guys have - if it's strong enough, you have nothing to fear.

i don't think i am afraid of that. i am more afraid that he will stop apperciating the time we are together! at first i was worried he would replace me. now my biggest worry is that we won't readjust when he gets home, we always have readjustment issues and i always worry when it will finally just be too much ya know?

I'm scared of that
:faint

:hugs

sorta. My fear is that when he gets back he won't find me attractive anymore and that he can do so much better. I don't know why, I look almost exactly the same as when he left. I guess it's just the same old insecurities... plus my low self esteem kicking in.

I've definitely felt like that, on occasion.. It really helps to talk to him every day (or almost every day).. I can't say I'm afraid very often- but hearing his voice and the seeing how he misses me helps me remember how amazing it is when he's in my arms. ;) So if i ever get doubtful about anything.. I only need to talk to him and its all erased from my mind. ;)

i guess deep down i've felt it, but i've never let it consume me. We have a such a wonderful relationship and he does such an absolutely amazing job of being there for me, i really don't have any reason to worry. :wub

I dont feel that way. At reunion time the first thing that happens is a hug and along with that is the confirmation of where we belong.

In the beginning, yes.

Now, no. I know my husband counts down every minute until he can get back to me.

i think we all have that fear, but it's what you do with that fear that counts...it's important to put it out of your mind and remember how much you love each other, because otherwise you're going to end up self-sabotaging...JMO