But....

You go girl. Let him tuff it out for a while.

good for you!!! while my dh was at AIT he spent, in one month, $600 and mostly at a bar.....so i did my research, made a couple of phone calls to arizona and put a block on how much he could spend at his bar. Of course I told him what I did and tore him a new one. There ain't no sense in you at home, cutting corners and he is out there spending money on stupid shit.

ah girl i don't blame ya. i am so glad my DH is out of that phase now he wants to sight see and not just see the bottom of a beer mug. i hope he sends some better pictures for ya..

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i say kick him. i actually told my husband if he put any booze on our credit card he has one for emergancy's i would cut off his fingers, then we got into a fight over something and i was like OH i will cancel it. well then i lost my wallet and had to cancel it. he was SO pissed and i pass word protected our navy fed account. he is too old to be doing that shit. time to grow up and you need to tell him. its one thing to have a drink with your buddies in port its another to blow a ton of money on booze!

maybe it was just one beer?

I don't see how he has the balls to ask you for more money if he was out partying. He shold be more responsible...that's disrespectful to his wife (you) and it's just not good money managing skills on his part.
:hugs I am sorry

amen sista!!!

i mean it could have just been a one time deal, but he was dumb to send that picture then!! Now he gets nuttin from ya...

maybe it was just one beer?
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I wouldn't have been mad at my DH buttttt i SOOO understand in your situation- he has a history of spending money on drinking, so I understand!

I am cool w/ DH having a drink now and then, or splurging once in a while- but i know the tendencies of military singles so I am quick to jump on his ass if he wants to forget that he has a wifey to support. ha.

oh man...that's men for you!!! :(

my DH never has just 1 beer, his entire childhood was spent around alcoholic parents, and the whole first year of my son's life I was basically a single parent because of his drinking and living like he is single just because all his navy buddies are. so pleas, I am not buying that :blahblah:blahblah:bullcrape


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I'm sorry sweetheart.. (insert clever advice here)... I don't have much to say but...I might not know EVERYTHING!!! But I do know that drinking is no good way to pass the time, for any reason :kickcan even if he is in port!!! You don't go out to bars do you, after a hard day...:taptap takes more than "work is hard"

plus from what you said there is no way he could have spent that much money on one trip to the bar...especially not one beer :faint

I hope it works out....I hope he :grumpy realizes that he made a mistake...

:hugs totally here for you :D

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I'm sorry sweetheart.. (insert clever advice here)... I don't have much to say but...I might not know EVERYTHING!!! But I do know that drinking is no good way to pass the time, for any reason :kickcan even if he is in port!!! You don't go out to bars do you, after a hard day...:taptap takes more than "work is hard"

plus from what you said there is no way he could have spent that much money on one trip to the bar...especially not one beer :faint

I hope it works out....I hope he :grumpy realizes that he made a mistake...

:hugs totally here for you :D

:thanks: I am

:thanks: I am so glad you are here to :chest with me.yahoo you are a sweetie.:hugs:hugs:hail
:nope I am refusing to even forgive him for 1 drink after everything we have been thru. He was never like this during shore duty, only happens when we go back to sea. SO I am entitled to throw a :tantrum if I want too. :whoopdedoo to those of you who dont mind your S/O going out and spending money on drinking, or the fact that he hardly calls you, etc I am not in the mood for a :catfight but: ohplease he;s not :thinkin about the :shitfan since he knows I have over 6 more months to get over it. I am :onsoapbox he is not getting another penny for a while.

Let it out...that has to be very frustrating!!! :vent
:handup <---that's you..yes ma'am!!

part of being a man is knowing how to take care of his family. my dads drinking destroyed his marriage...his excuse was always work :taptap COME ON! it's ridiculous. I really do feel bad for you, but I HOPE and :pray that when you talk to him about this he is receptive and doesn't do it again. He has kids that are going to want to go to college someday....
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(L) you :D

Its hard I know. I think when they leave they kind of forget the money they have is not just for them. I went through something very similar every single port visit. I think his ship had 9 or 10 over 7 months.

you two need to have a talk.

considering his history of drinking it up with his pals when you first got married, you really need to nip this in the bud, now.

Find out the truth, did he just have one beer or has he been spending $300/mos on alcohol. IMO you can't assume by just a picture, you need to get answers from him and find out what the truth is. If this is a reoccurring problem you need to set some pretty high standards that come with consequences.

good luck! :hugehug

Its hard I know. I think when they leave they kind of forget the money they have is not just for them. I went through something very similar every single port visit. I think his ship had 9 or 10 over 7 months.

I agree with that..

I know he is not spending 300 a month on alcohol, but it is the fact that he is even having 1 beer. We did get to talk about it and he was very respectful and receptive. He said he had a few but thst was it, and you are right Ashley, it was an excuse of work, he said that he made a few buddies (since he is new to that command) and they went to the sports bar to see a game. I can see him doing that..and I know some of you do not mind your DH doing that but I DO (drinking)... I let him know that I do not mind him going out sight seeing or experiencing things he would otherwise never get to do over here, I completly trust him that he will not cheat or anything, it has nothing to do with that, I just do not want him to screw up his position on the ship, he was given LPO before he ever checked into the ship and he has worked hard for that and I dont want them to lok at him as "oh, he cant hadle it, he's acting out" PLus he has a LDO package in and they do not just pick anyone for that, they want responsible individuals that ca nhandle whatever is thrown at them. Atleast he was receptive, and agreed to find more mature buddies and find something more interesting to do with his time while in port. he is just stressed like the rest of us. But I appreciate ALL of your feedback and suggestions.. and listening ears. thank you