cheerkelly
11-26-2007, 02:06 PM
Sorry...this is longer than I expected it to be!!!
Most of you have read my posts about Mikey. Well, I saw him for the first time since he came back from Iraq...and he was completely different.
Once he got to the states, he called me and/or texted me every single day. He told me (on his own) that he hadn't been with anyone since me, and asked if I had been with anyone since him.
When he got home, he immediately texted me and told me where he was so that I could join him. We had a fun night with friends, and then spent the night together.
Every night after that, he would contact me to tell me where he was (sometimes we'd talk during the day too). We'd get together and spend the night together (not always having sex...sometimes we'd just hold each other all night).
He was very distant...even his mother noticed that. He wasn't his usual "party monster" type self....he was quiet.
When he left, he was even more quiet...and said that he would explain later...that it was nothing about me. It was him and his feeling. Then he thanked me for a great weekend.
He talked to his uncle for awhile, and he told me parts of the conversation. He didn't want to celebrate the holidays because the men he'd lost didn't get to celebrate...so why should he? His uncle told me to give Mikey time...that he had issues he had to work out. But Mikey never asked me for time. He just pushed me away.
And Mikey just kind of...sat there. Even when all of us went out, he'd just sit there and watch his parents play pool. Or sometimes he'd talk to his best friend...but only if the FRIEND got him started in a conversation. He wouldn't initiate anything.
I broke it off with him last night...I told him that it was too hard, because I felt like he kept asking me to spend the night with him, but he acted like he didn't want me around. Granted, he would spend the entire evening with me...but he still acted weird the entire time.
So....he says, "I thought we were doing the sexual thing only." ARGH!
I said that was too hard for me...that my feelings were still too strong for him, etc.
This was all through text. He never responded. I appologized for adding more stress to his life...and he still didn't respond.
I don't know what to do! I love him! I don't know that we'll ever work anything out...but he's not himself at all! I don't want him to think I'm abandoning him.
I have three good friends from this site who have listened to me throughout this whole thing (thank you sooooo much ladies!!!). All three of them have said that there is something weird...and have mentioned PTSD.
ARGH! I don't know if I should just leave him alone and never talk to him again...or if I should push him to open up to me.
Please help!
Most of you have read my posts about Mikey. Well, I saw him for the first time since he came back from Iraq...and he was completely different.
Once he got to the states, he called me and/or texted me every single day. He told me (on his own) that he hadn't been with anyone since me, and asked if I had been with anyone since him.
When he got home, he immediately texted me and told me where he was so that I could join him. We had a fun night with friends, and then spent the night together.
Every night after that, he would contact me to tell me where he was (sometimes we'd talk during the day too). We'd get together and spend the night together (not always having sex...sometimes we'd just hold each other all night).
He was very distant...even his mother noticed that. He wasn't his usual "party monster" type self....he was quiet.
When he left, he was even more quiet...and said that he would explain later...that it was nothing about me. It was him and his feeling. Then he thanked me for a great weekend.
He talked to his uncle for awhile, and he told me parts of the conversation. He didn't want to celebrate the holidays because the men he'd lost didn't get to celebrate...so why should he? His uncle told me to give Mikey time...that he had issues he had to work out. But Mikey never asked me for time. He just pushed me away.
And Mikey just kind of...sat there. Even when all of us went out, he'd just sit there and watch his parents play pool. Or sometimes he'd talk to his best friend...but only if the FRIEND got him started in a conversation. He wouldn't initiate anything.
I broke it off with him last night...I told him that it was too hard, because I felt like he kept asking me to spend the night with him, but he acted like he didn't want me around. Granted, he would spend the entire evening with me...but he still acted weird the entire time.
So....he says, "I thought we were doing the sexual thing only." ARGH!
I said that was too hard for me...that my feelings were still too strong for him, etc.
This was all through text. He never responded. I appologized for adding more stress to his life...and he still didn't respond.
I don't know what to do! I love him! I don't know that we'll ever work anything out...but he's not himself at all! I don't want him to think I'm abandoning him.
I have three good friends from this site who have listened to me throughout this whole thing (thank you sooooo much ladies!!!). All three of them have said that there is something weird...and have mentioned PTSD.
ARGH! I don't know if I should just leave him alone and never talk to him again...or if I should push him to open up to me.
Please help!