Were probably going to be engaged an then maybe a few days after when ever he surprises me with a ring (even though lastnight I told him I dont need one) were gonna be going to the Justice of the Peace to get married. Then in the Winter (most likely December) we will be having a good sized wedding. :wub :bliss

Yes I know it's a little strange weve kinda set a month to get engaged. But we know 100% we will be married to eachother an March will be 5 months together. We already act like were married (sharing money, knowing EVERYTHING about eachother) It's amazing!

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Im just so happy about this!!!

Congrats, hon! I think it's great if you guys know it's right. So, March, huh? Be sure you let us know when it happens!!! :D

Trust me everyone will know!!
When we were driving around base lastnight I was reading things outloud an one was "Family Housing", after I said that he said "soon" So that got us talking.

:yay congrats in advance!!!

Wow. Congrats!

I know I always sound so negative, but why the rush? I mean I feel like we're already rushing and we've been together for 4 1/2 years ...however i KNOW all situations are different, so if you guys know for sure.. Im happy for you!!!

YAY!

Wow. Congrats!

I know I always sound so negative, but why the rush? I mean I feel like we're already rushing and we've been together for 4 1/2 years ...however i KNOW all situations are different, so if you guys know for sure.. Im happy for you!!!


i agree... 5 months really isn't much time of "being together." since you're sure this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with, what's a year or so to be engaged and plan a real wedding, so that you don't have to get married twice. if february is only your 5th month together, that means you guys have been together for... a couple months only, now? you're so you and have so many years ahead of you..... but hey, different strokes for different folks. LOL. i went down the "rushed marriage" at age 19 before, only i had been with him for a year and a half and i STILL didn't know what i was getting into OR who he really was...and ended up 21, divorced, with a 6 week old.... so coming from experience, NOT RUSHING is probably the better way to go. good luck !!!

Wow. Congrats!

I know I always sound so negative, but why the rush? I mean I feel like we're already rushing and we've been together for 4 1/2 years ...however i KNOW all situations are different, so if you guys know for sure.. Im happy for you!!!

Were ready for all this together. We want to live together, a family, grow old together. Were gonna be together 5 months in March.

Were probably going to be engaged an then maybe a few days after when ever he surprises me with a ring (even though lastnight I told him I dont need one) were gonna be going to the Justice of the Peace to get married. Then in the Winter (most likely December) we will be having a good sized wedding. :wub :bliss

Yes I know it's a little strange weve kinda set a month to get engaged. But we know 100% we will be married to eachother an March will be 5 months together. We already act like were married (sharing money, knowing EVERYTHING about eachother) It's amazing!


you guys are HOW old? i'm just offering advice from experience, but there's NO WAY you can know "everything" about someone in 5 months... KWIM?

I still say if you know what you're getting into, go for it. If it's something you both want, I'm happy for you.

I'm excited for you!!

congrats, but please please please do some pre-marital counseling

Were 20 an 21. These are just plans as of now. Things might change, they might not.
An I think were probably gonna do some counceling.

Awesome, congratulations! harrisonsdream has a good suggestion. I am demanding mine go to counseling with me before he marries my crazy ass :teehee Here's to your happiness.

i agree with the other gurls i married my highschool sweetheart we had been together since i was 15 and married after he went into the navy and well i had no idea what i was gettin into. needless to say it ended with a divorce ALOT of debt, lies, cheating, agruing,anger and a baby...his and his (gurl on the sides not mine) so becareful i thought i new everything about my ex we grew up together so i thought i was safe, plus i got pretty caught up in alot of emotions of bein inlove and wantin a a family and a life with him. and u havnt lived with him yet right... id try that first in the words of my wonderful dbs father u need to sleep with them n live with them before u marry them. dont rush, if u know its forever then enjoy the growin part of ur realtionship. marriage isnt all its cracked up to be its alot of work, and compermizin. and the odds are against young marriages, let alone military marriages, good luck with whatever you decide

congrats!

But I really think you are RUSHING. And it might feel like he is the ONE and you want to be together forever, and MAYBE he is.. but really, maybe he isn't. I hate to be the cynical bitch here but if he is the one and you have your entire lives ahead of you, I seriously seriously think you should SLOWWW down.

It is a new love and it is all a fairytale right now, I would hate to see it all come crashing down.

Just be careful :hugs

congrats!

But I really think you are RUSHING. And it might feel like he is the ONE and you want to be together forever, and MAYBE he is.. but really, maybe he isn't. I hate to be the cynical bitch here but if he is the one and you have your entire lives ahead of you, I seriously seriously think you should SLOWWW down.

It is a new love and it is all a fairytale right now, I would hate to see it all come crashing down.

Just be careful :hugs

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congrats!

But I really think you are RUSHING. And it might feel like he is the ONE and you want to be together forever, and MAYBE he is.. but really, maybe he isn't. I hate to be the cynical bitch here but if he is the one and you have your entire lives ahead of you, I seriously seriously think you should SLOWWW down.

It is a new love and it is all a fairytale right now, I would hate to see it all come crashing down.

Just be careful :hugs

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I've been with DB for almost 6 years and I STILL don't know everything about him. I don't want to be Debby Downer and I know there are quite a few stories on here similar to yours that ended successfully...but you guys definitely might want to sit down and talk with someone professionally to make sure you really are on the same page with everything.

congrats!

But I really think you are RUSHING. And it might feel like he is the ONE and you want to be together forever, and MAYBE he is.. but really, maybe he isn't. I hate to be the cynical bitch here but if he is the one and you have your entire lives ahead of you, I seriously seriously think you should SLOWWW down.

It is a new love and it is all a fairytale right now, I would hate to see it all come crashing down.

Just be careful :hugs

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It can feel so great in the very beginning, but, eventually the newness wears off, people's skeletons come out of their collective closets, and the worst comes out. Is that a bad thing? Not necessarily, but it's how you deal with those things that come up... and what you go through that will test the relationship.

Generally speaking, people grow and change so much in their early-mid twenties it's not even funny, and you don't even know it's happening til it's happened and smacks you in the face.

A lot of young loves make it, a lot don't... or wake up 24 years or more down the road wondering "what happened"

Slow down... that's all we are saying. You have plenty of life left to live.

My DB makes me feel like a giggly school girl when we are together, or when I hear his voice...I get such amazing feelings of comfort and safety when he is near me... like we are untouchable... and unstoppable together.... and I HOPE that we will end up together, because we are so compatible... BUT, he and I have not been together all that long... we are being tested with a deployment now, and limited communication. Also, we are going to have some major trials, I am sure when he gets home based on past performance, and stories from his family.. and HE is going to have to decide which path in life to take... so... as much as I HOPE and will WORK for my relationship... as much as we both are committed to each other... Nothing is set in stone right now, and we still have sooo much to learn... kwim?

Learning about each other, and growing together and individually is a life long process... and you want to make sure, that you are with the best person, and don't do anything rash...

:teehee I was just reading someones post and I was thinking in my head , man its been 4 1/2 years and I still learn something new about DB like every other day .. I mean sometimes its little stuff.. well , usually its little stuff. . but if we would have gotten married before our relationship is as strong as it is now, it would have ended before we even got to this point..

BUT, seriously .. Im not trying to threadjack and I dont want you to think im being a bitch .. nor am I trying to ruin your fairytale, because believe me girl, those fairytale relationships are GREAT! enjoy every minute of that!!!!!!!! Whos to say it wont last .. but stick around to make sure it does before you do anything crazy! Make sure your taking things slow enough to enjoy and remember every minute of it ..

Oh yeah -- my whole point, I think a relationship needs to go through some stuff OTHER then the fairytale stuff, some hardships and struggles, maybe not completely serious ones, but something to see how you guys will deal with things as a couple !!

If it will be 5 months in March, that means you've only been together a month? there is no way you know everything about each other.

You are probably still in the honeymoon phase. Give it a lot of time.

Do you know his allergies? His thoughts on raising children? His religious beliefs? Why did he enlist? What are his plans after the military? What are yours? What are his hopes and dreams? How does he like his eggs? What are his grandparents names?

I'm just saying...if you know everything.this should be easy.

And why share money this early? Is he providing for you? Are you working? What is his credit score?

Think about the serious side of marriage. Not just the "ohh we are going to grow old together" part

:woohoo
awesome!! :D :D
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I don't mean to rain on your parade, and I truly do hope everything works out the way you want it to...but I have to agree with all the other girls who said there's no reason to rush! It's normal and natural for everything to feel perfect after a month or two, and maybe even after five months, but that doesn't mean things are going to last forever. I just think a lot of us have felt that way about someone after a short time, thinking he may be "the one", but it hasn't worked out that way when reality eventually set in. The first few months of a relationship is NOT a reflection of how it will always be, because people tend to show only their good sides during that time. I think the true test of a relationship is how you weather the rockier times that come up later, not how great it feels in the beginning.

Marriage is supposed to be a lifelong commitment, so I think the responsible thing to do is to be truly sure of what you're getting into. And of course people can wait longer and feel sure and it still might not last, so there are no guarantees...but I think that still gives you a better shot. Like I said, I don't mean to be a downer, and I hope things work out, but I just can't bring myself to congratulate someone who is planning marriage after SUCH a short time. Good luck, though!