Children you were going to have? DH refuses to have an only child so he wants at least 2, but he really wants 4. I am not convinced I am going to want a second.

What benefits do you find with the number of kids you have? :dunno

I think you know how many you want once you start having them. I always wanted 3 then I had ella and that was thrown out the window. After talks with dh we decided that we didn't want anymore. Well come to find out I was pregnant when we had that talk. I'm very thankful to have both ella and landen. But I personally don't have the pacience for anymore kids. 1 would have been enough but 2 is def enough for us. I guess I'm not much help sorry.

2 is perfect (for us), and I do believe that you just know how many you want after you start having children.

we have three originally we wanted just one.
With three its great they are friends and have someone to play with when none of their friends can play. When we move ( which we do quite a bit) they have a built in support system. They will always have someone to lean on when times are rough and me and dh won't be here any more. I was a second child. and as much as i complain about my brother I love him to death and am glad my parents had two.

i refuse to have an odd number, too many instances i've seen personally of families with odd number of kids (usually 3) one child usually gets left out and the two of the kids gang up on the other. i want 4 dh wants 2 so we will have 2 and then see after that if we decide we want more we can have more. the way we figure you can always have more but you can't take them away lol

I think you just know. After all my years of infertility and getting pregnant with Ethan I was HAPPY to have 1 but felt I wanted 1 more. I woulda been content only having one but just felt that "urge" I knew I wanted another. After Ashley I knew I was done. 2 is perfect for us. I feel that my family is completed. I guess its just a feeling

I couldn't just have 1 and after Ash I knew I wasn't content we will stop at 4

I came from a family of 5 kids, and I hated it, so growing up, I always wanted only 1 child. We got pregnant the first time, and DH was hell bent on having a son, and out came Tiffany.....LOL. We decided to try for another. I told hubby if 2nd was another girl, we would adopt a son, because I had huge issues when pregnant and did not want to give birth to more than 2 kids. 2nd was Nick.

I should say that after my last I knew our family was complete. I even told dh literally right after I saw her that I was done and she was our last. with ds I didn't feel that way i felt like something in our family was missing.

I always only wanted one only. But, now im open to one more... once I find someone to have one with :teehee :giggle

We wanted to stop with two because there are only two seats in the back of a MINI Cooper.

Well...I wanted 4 and Rod wanted 2 (as long as we had one of each.) The first was unplanned and the second was planned. Once we knew that we were having a girl and not another boy, Rod was like - that is it. But, he wasn't ready to get a vas and I refused to have my tubes tied. I thought 25 was too young to have either of us "fixed". So, I ended up getting pregnant with the third at 29, while on the pill. I think we are both happy with what we have. I would have liked a 4th, but did not want to have kids after 30.

I've always wanted to 4 children, DB wants 3, but once I do start having kids that number may change, I dont want any only children, I'm an only child, when I do start having kids I'm going have at least 2 no matter what

We wanted 3 but after 2 and then all the medical problems that were induced by that we stopped at 2.

I honestly was just thinking about this subject the other day. How do you know when you are done? Do you get a feeling when you are done? Like feeling complete. I always wanted a big family. We have 2 girls, and dh has a son. After each child dh always says he is done. everytime I try and talk to him about it he jokingly says he is done. So I dont know. But I just don't feel like my family is complete yet. I would like at least 2 more, but saying that I am almost 30 who knows.

We wanted to stop with two because there are only two seats in the back of a MINI Cooper.


:rofl Love it.

We wanted 3 but after 2 and then all the medical problems that were induced by that we stopped at 2.

Boxers are kids too... :P

We haven't decided FOR SURE... either 2 or 3. I just know we both don't want just one.

I told DH that if he wants 4 he can figure out how to carry the last 2. :lmao

I think you know how many you want once you start having them. I always wanted 3 then I had ella and that was thrown out the window. After talks with dh we decided that we didn't want anymore. Well come to find out I was pregnant when we had that talk. I'm very thankful to have both ella and landen. But I personally don't have the pacience for anymore kids. 1 would have been enough but 2 is def enough for us. I guess I'm not much help sorry.

This is exactly what happened to me. We had the "no more kids" talk when my oldest son was 3 1/2. Unknown to me I was already pregnant and found out a week later.......it really took me a while to adjust to the thought me having 2 kids. I feel like you do......1 would have been plenty for us but I'm glad it turned out the way it did.

:giggle we still haven't decided...

I honestly was just thinking about this subject the other day. How do you know when you are done? Do you get a feeling when you are done? Like feeling complete. I always wanted a big family. We have 2 girls, and dh has a son. After each child dh always says he is done. everytime I try and talk to him about it he jokingly says he is done. So I dont know. But I just don't feel like my family is complete yet. I would like at least 2 more, but saying that I am almost 30 who knows.

I didn't know and I loved being pregnant and having babies. But, that being said, I knew I had to stop somewhere...hehe...and for me, my stopping point was turning 30 (just 2 months after having my youngest). I wanted to have the kids out of the house while I was still young enough to get out and enjoy my 50's. For others, they want to have kids in thier 30's and have a career, etc. It just varies on what is right for each individual.

We only wanted 1 maybe 2 at the most. Life decided for us that we would have 4 and we are now debating on another.

I say two, he says two or three.

It is probably going to be three, now that my sister is divorcing and back to the "no kids no marriage" mindset.

I honestly was just thinking about this subject the other day. How do you know when you are done? Do you get a feeling when you are done? Like feeling complete. I always wanted a big family. We have 2 girls, and dh has a son. After each child dh always says he is done. everytime I try and talk to him about it he jokingly says he is done. So I dont know. But I just don't feel like my family is complete yet. I would like at least 2 more, but saying that I am almost 30 who knows.
dh said that after every kid. I'm done. that is why we have three :lol
I just felt that we were complete. I just knew it when I looked at her.

for us db has 3 girls already and we just had Austin back in September. I originally wanted 4 kids or at least 3 but now since db has 3 and right now we have 4 kids all together we will try for our last baby in another couple years and that will be the end. I want to be done by the time I'm 30...I hope I'm okay after the next baby that I don't want another one :lol I loved being pregnant

We have 1 now. We've decided not to have another until our DD is about 4 years old. We always say we want 1 to 2 kids. When we talk about our future it includes a second kid. Secretly, some days I want 3 but it never fails that before I can get into daydreaming too much DD becomes a handful. I know he wants a boy next. I'm wondering how things will change if we have another girl. I also have to keep in consideration that I am a twin, I could always have twins.

we have three 2 boys and a girl, i want one more but dh doesnt so we will see

For awhile I wanted 3 and DH only wanted 2. But Since it took us 5 years to get pregant with DD. And we are having a boy this time I sorta feel now that our family will be complete after ds is born. Although I still am going to get on BC after he is born just in case we change our minds in a few years. I dont want to get something perminit yet. But He will more than likely be it.

We both decided we want 6. We have 5 so far. For one I don't want an odd number of children. I don't know why but I can't have an odd number. Hubby knows if we have twins again...we may have one more child after that to make it even...or I am gonna have to suffer. :lol
I have always wanted a bunch of kids.

We're not totally sure yet. One more maybe. :)

we have four and we knew after him our family was complete. So I feel it is you who knows

Well, it is sorta out of our control which is probably okay because DH doesn't want anymore. I have moments of baby fever, but I think I am content with two also.

Well, we talked about it. DH has one from an ex-g/f. He always said he wanted two DC with the person he would spend the rest of his life with. I wanted two or three. So, it worked perfect because we have 3 altogether and we both got what we wanted!

Oh, if my DD wouldn't have been a girl, we probably would have ended up with one more because in my heart, I wanted a little girl all my own.

After my daughter was born I just knew I wanted to have another baby some day. Now I have 2 children and I am still undecided on whether to have another baby or not. There are so many good things about having just 2 kids but in a way I don't know if our family is "complete" yet. I guess we'll just leave it up to chance :D I do know that if we have more children it needs to be soon so there isn't too big of a gap between my children. I'm also getting a really strong feeling that I need to be a foster parent one day but I will not do that until my own children are a little older.

After my daughter was born I just knew I wanted to have another baby some day. Now I have 2 children and I am still undecided on whether to have another baby or not. There are so many good things about having just 2 kids but in a way I don't know if our family is "complete" yet. I guess we'll just leave it up to chance :D I do know that if we have more children it needs to be soon so there isn't too big of a gap between my children. I'm also getting a really strong feeling that I need to be a foster parent one day but I will not do that until my own children are a little older.

I thought my family would not feel complete with having the two and not being able to have more but I feel very complete and satisfied with the two. Alot of pros come with an even number family.:giggle

Dh and I have always wanted a very big family. I always wanted at least 5 and DH has always wanted as many as God would give us. I'm preggo with #6 now and I'm very happy with the size of our family. Growing up I only had one sibling, a brother. and I always wanted to be part of a bigger family. DH was one of 6 kiddos and he really liked being in a large family. My kids really seem to like have their brothers and sisters, built in playmates...protectors....best friends... and pains in the butt! :giggle and the kids are SO excited they are getting another baby sister. :yes

But, I have to admit I think about my age (I'm 32 now) and I dont want to be in my 40's with a new baby... thats just me. I will be ready to enjoy my kids as they grow up and not be starting over. does that make sense? Dh plans to retire early and it would be nice to do that. And we can't do that if we have 6 more kids lol!

Me & Dh always wanted 6 kids. We both have brothers but were raised as the only child because our brothers lived with other ppl so we wanted a huge family.

Now after 2 we realized theres no way 6 is ever going to happen! We're happy with our 2.

I orginially only wanted my 2 boys, then I married DH and he wanted another one so we decided on 3. As soon as I had her he decided he wanted one more, but I am DONE having kids. I'm content with the ones I have. :)

I want four and dh wants two so we are thinking of compromising at three

Well we originally talked about having only 2 but now I think that'll change to 3 or 4.

We still only have 2 at this point but we have been talking about trying again next year. I told him I'm done at 32 so he'd better hurry up.

We just both always wanted 2-so thats what we had:yes

DH always wanted lots of kids and I only wanted 2 at the most. Our first son was planned but I had such a difficult pregnancy and delivery (long, scary story) that I decided he was going to be an only child, I did not want to go through that again! I absolutely hated being pregnant. It took me 3-4 months to get over the birth and I did not have a c-section. So, I am on birth control but apparently it was not so good because I became preggo with #2 and I was almost 4 months when I found out. I had been on Depo so missing a period was no big deal. I do not personally believe in abortion so for me that was out of the question but I was sooooo not happy being pregnant again. But thank God, the second pregnancy was easy and I had no pain after I had him. But that was it, I have diligently kept myself from getting pregnant again. Now I have PCOS so I can't get preggo even if I wanted to!
Now, I am very happy to have 2 boys, they are built in best friends and there is no way I am having anymore kids, I am 36 yrs old and my youngest is 8 yrs.

i refuse to have an odd number, too many instances i've seen personally of families with odd number of kids (usually 3) one child usually gets left out and the two of the kids gang up on the other. i want 4 dh wants 2 so we will have 2 and then see after that if we decide we want more we can have more. the way we figure you can always have more but you can't take them away lol

That kinda happened with my family but it wasn't because of the amount of kids. My older sister was 6 years older than I was so we weren't close. Me and my sister under me were only a year apart so we were really close to each other. My youngest sister was I think 3-4 years younger than I was and we didn't get close till we both got a lil older. My brother is the last (5 kids in all) and he is the youngest and only boy but I got along great with him while my other sisters didn't. I think it has more to do with age and personalities then how many kids you have.

For me I think I'd be fine with one but I will figure things out once I have that one. At the most right now I think 2 I don't really want more than that. :) It's something DH and I will have to figure out when the time comes. :D

I'm not sure how anyone knows when they are done. I haven't figured it out yet. I have a boy and girl, logic tells me thats perfect. Our family feels complete but sometimes I get urges for just one more.

We have decided on 3. I may want another 1 in a few years but I really want to finish college. If we have another then that will put me back even further. Sooooo I'm 99% sure we are done. I love the 3. Breanna is the only girl. She is 4 1/2 yrs. older than Johnny but they get along great. She is 6 years older than Evan and loves to hold him, play with him (he is now at the age where he likes to play with things), etc. After having the 2 boys I'm glad we didn't have another girl. I see the boys being closer cause they are so close in age. If we had had another girl I'm not sure she and Breanna would end up being very close. I don't know maybe I'm wrong. Johnny loves Evan to pieces. He plays with him, loves on him, etc. It is adorable to see them interact. And with the boys so close we have been able to pass down stuff so the cost hasn't been that great in having the third. By the time we had Evan we had pretty much everything. When we had him we got stuff we wanted to get before but couldn't cause we had to buy other stuff and then there wasn't enough money left over.

Heather, I'm not sure about anyone else but I knew after Breanna we would have more. It wasn't really a feeling for awhile. It was something I just knew. When she was 2 I got the feeling of I'm ready to have another one. We didn't have Johnny for 2 1/2 more years though. After Johnny I had this very very strong feeling that I wanted another. The family was not complete. I really can not descirbe it. It was something I felt way down deep in my bones and soul. I just knew and felt that we were supposed to have another baby. Since I've had him I dont have that feeling. I feel like I may want another in a few years but there is no desire or want to have one now or really even then. It is different then after I had Breanna. Like I look ahead and think I may but it will be a very small chance of that happening. I don't know. It is just a feeling I have and have had.

We have 1 child, and have no plans to have anymore. Part of me would like to have a 2nd child, but deep down I know that I truly don't want to have any more kids.
DH is absolutely done with having kids, no part of him wants to have any more. He was raised with 7 kids in the house, and that's one of the reasons why he likes having 1 child. We can give everything (within reason) to our son, which is something that my DH seriously lacked growing up as a child.

I said I wanted 3 (since I'm a 3rd child) but after DD was born I knew it was going to be 2 max.

I do want a second, but not until she's older. I can't give her the attention she needs if I have a little baby too. Plus my pregnancy with DD was not great and we don't want me to do that with a toddler and DH deployed. So she'll be at least 4 before we have another. There's 6 years between me and my brother and we get on great, so I think that will work out fine.

But I think we will stop at two. I don't want to over-extend ourselves financially. It's not babies that are expensive, it's toddlers!! :)

I grew up as the youngest of 3 children and had 2 brothers. I always felt out of the loop or a third wheel - I hated it. So I've always wanted an even number so no one would feel like that. 4 is way to many for us, I would lose my mind. So we'll stop at 2. Lucky for me, Dh agrees that he only wants 2.

2....i draw the line there my poor bodys been through hell with the first one lol she was 11 lbs 8oz and not a c-section

I am still undecided