He wants to "take care of me" and have me stay at home... I don't know if I would be able to- I think I would die of boredom!

i'm a stay at home wife and a student. i also do the housewife stuff (clean, cook, etc). it's not for everyone but school helps me out a ton

Im just happier working, mentally it keeps me busy and gets me going in the morning. Even working part time might be nice for you

Im just happier working, mentally it keeps me busy and gets me going in the morning. Even working part time might be nice for you

or volunteering would work too

I couldn't see myself not having some sort of job. I would die sitting around the house, watch soaps, and talk shows all day. How boring!

I would definitely want to be a stay-at-home mom, but I would need something else to do so that I don't get bored out of my mind. I have my photography though, so I know that would do the trick!

Im just happier working, mentally it keeps me busy and gets me going in the morning. Even working part time might be nice for you

or volunteering would work too

Thats what I was thinking... at least until I have kids. :shock

I stayed at home before I had Jerron and it got really boring. I think if I didn't have kiddos and went back I would have to be involved in something... I wish now I would have buckled down and started on my degree. It would have helped out so much now.

I would never be a stay-at home mom, with or without kids. I love my career and would feel lazy just being home all the time. Everyone has their own priorities in life but making MY OWN money and feeling successful is mine!!!

I never want to feel "dependent" upon anyone, including a boyfriend or husband. That is an awful feeling for me. I love knowing that I don't need anyone to take care of me. It's awesome!!!!

After being in the working world for a few years, I have to say I really miss being in school and I love the days when I can just stay at home. I was on unemployment for six months and I LOVED it. That convinced me that I could totally stay home, with or without kids.

I would probably get involved in community theatre, more so than I am now. I just don't have time to do more than a couple shows a year, but I would spend lots more time doing theatre stuff if I didn't have to work.

No I would be too bored.

When we don't have kids, I'm always going to work. Once we have kids, I might go part-time or something once they are school aged. I like working, when we're married without kids, I'm going to work as much as I can. I know myself, I could not stay home-I would become depressed. Even staying in the house for a day drives me absolutely insane. If there were kids, it would be a different story I'm sure!

I'ma SAHW and was very bored. Then I started teaching violin lessons, working part time for the school, and being the FRG secreatary and now I am super busy and love it.

or volunteering would work too

yep, sure does. Especially if you don't need the extra $$

I dunno if I could stay home full time without having kids. I'd have to be involved in SOMETHING, whether it be school, volunteering or something.

well if i'm going to japan i'll be a stay at home wife. that's what he wants. but if we're here i'm gonna want to find a job or something so i dont get too bored. but i figured i wouldnt get bored in japan..lol

I could not stay home. I like working and staying busy. I am staying home this week and I am already bored out of my mind. You can only clean so much.. :)

I definitely would NOT be a stay-at-home-wife!!!

I'd be going to college, working part-time/full-time, or SOMETHING!!!!

I think it would "disgust" my husband if I stayed home all day w/o a child to care for...

I've always been a stay at home wife/mom. My DHs mom worked 3 jobs when he was a kid and he never wanted his wife to have to work so he's always taken care of anything. I've had a few jobs but it drives hi crazy and I miss being at home so they havent lasted long.

Some of the replies really bothered me to read though. Like someone who works is better than the wife who stays at home.

I've always been a stay at home wife/mom. My DHs mom worked 3 jobs when he was a kid and he never wanted his wife to have to work so he's always taken care of anything. I've had a few jobs but it drives hi crazy and I miss being at home so they havent lasted long.

Some of the replies really bothered me to read though. Like someone who works is better than the wife who stays at home.

i picked up on that too from some of the replies. what works for one family/person doesn't work for another.

i picked up on that too from some of the replies. what works for one family/person doesn't work for another.

I definitely agree with you...everybody's preferences are different and I think ultimately as long as the wife/so is happy with her situation, thats all that matters! :tu

I never want to feel "dependent" upon anyone, including a boyfriend or husband.
:agree For me personally, I am too independent and have too many things in my career I want to get accomplished.

what works for one family/person doesn't work for another.
You're absolutely right! :yes

I know if I was a stay at home wife... I would do toooo much shopping and blow right through his paycheck. :giggle But at least our house would look pretty ;)

I figure if I am in a situation to contribute financially I would just have to work. I know I could stay home and stay busy, volunteer, etc.- I've done all that already as a SAHM- it just wouldn't be enough for me if I didn't have kids to care for every day. Even if we didn't need the money, that is money that can go into the bank, be invested, saved up for retirement, help out our family.

The only way I would be okay with not working and not having any kids is if I were going to school full-time.

just because i am dependent on my husband currently as a sahw does not mean that i can't be independent. i am currently finishing my degree (graduate summer 2008). i have goals in my life and taking care of my husband and child(ren) is one of those goals.

I figure if I am in a situation to contribute financially I would just have to work. I know I could stay home and stay busy, volunteer, etc.- I've done all that already as a SAHM- it just wouldn't be enough for me if I didn't have kids to care for every day. Even if we didn't need the money, that is money that can go into the bank, be invested, saved up for retirement, help out our family.

The only way I would be okay with not working and not having any kids is if I were going to school full-time.

I feel that way too!

I don't think I could stay at home if I didn't have kids. I have to have someone say you need to get out of bed and go do this or there will be serious consequences, otherwise I'd just stay there are all day and turn into a messy, lazy blob. Cooking wouldn't get done, the house would always be gross, and I'd be in PJs 24/7.
So as much as I'd probably like to stay home, I know it wouldn't work for me. Plus, I really would like to have some kind of career and do something with my degree.

I do like the idea of staying home when I have kids, at least for a little while.

Unless I was doing full time school, or we had a baby to take care of I'd want something to do so id work.
Right now I work 2 jobs an go to school part time, an im starting to look for a 3rd job. Db said that once we decide to start a family he would like me to stay home when im pregnant. He didnt say anything about me being a sahm or anything.

Just wanted to clarify myself so as not to offend... I absolutely think you can still be independent and goal oriented as a SAHW. I just meant for me personally, there are things in my career I would like to accomplish. Sorry if it came across the wrong way.

I loved being at home when my kids were small, but now that they are in school, I love to be working. I am so bored at home right now not working! There is only so much house cleaning I can do! LOL...but I like having the expendable income and the adult friends, etc. I also like knowing that should something happen to my husband, heaven forbid, I have a career that I make good money at that will be there to provide for me and the kids, because Social Security sure isn't enough.

Before I had Zoe I was either working, school or volunteer work. I would go stir crazy just being home. Plus I'm not good at the whole housewife thing :lol

I was home for the first year we lived here in VA. With no kids and no pets. DH wanted to me always be there when he got home from work and such and "take care of me as well" and i cleaned and all that good stuff.

But i have found a job as soon as he left on deployment (he is home now). But i love working. the extra money is great and it gives me something to do. And my job is so laid back...i can take time off whenever and i love that.

there is no way i would be able to stay home if i didnt have dd. i would go crazy.

i love staying at home w/ my 2yr old...i plan on doing it until he's in maybe 3rd or 4th grade....i wanna be able to be there for him..school activities and such! after that ill pursue my career as a admin. asst! until them ill be taking at home courses for my career...

I had to quit my job 2 months ago. I was having really bad issues when I got robbed at work. I haven't work since then out of the house and let me tell you, the last thing I do is sit on by butt to watch soap operas :lol I "work" from my house tutoring for spanish and when I was taking my Italian class I was tutoring at College too. I'm always finding things to do, I'm always on the go, I never get bored. It works fine for us right now but after we come back from our trip I will be activly looking for a job so we can acomplish other goals we have financially.

I am a stay at home wife who is also a student. I don't have kids, but am disabled so everything is kinda well... yes and no I guess. :) I enjoy working and would if I could but at the same time I like being able to be home.

W/O dd i definatly could not see doing the sahw. Especially on a soildiers salary? No way the second income is a great boost so we don't have to live check to check and if i want to buy something i don't have to ask dh for money. I love having something i can call my own and so that God forbid something happens to him insurance is not going to cover everything so at least i know i would have something to fall back on.

I could never be a stay at home wife, I hate cleaning as it is, so I would just sit on my butt all day. Besides, I love what I do for work, and the only thing I would trade it for is for when I have my children. I have no problem staying at home when my children are young.

If we didn't have kids no I wouldn't stay home. When the kids are in school I'm going back to school and then going to work. After having been at home for 7-8 years at that point with 1-3 kids I doubt I would be able to stay home with no kids. I'm used to running around all day and if the kids were all in school I would probably die from being so bored.

I would be a SAHW, but I would have to do volunteer work or get my master's or something

I definately couldnt be a SAHW..I would have to go back and get my masters.I am just not one that likes to sit around all the time.Plus I just wouldnt feel comfortable staying at home when I know I am fully capable of working and would want to put my bachelors degree to some use.I wouldnt want to live paycheck to paycheck either.I'll wait to stay home when I have children.

I always think the *idea* of being a SAHW is a nice idea, but when I actually have a lot of time at home, I get all stir-crazy. I do much better when I'm busy and when I can see that I'm helping other people in the world. Staying at home just isn't very rewarding for me, and life is too short to spend it all in the house.

i thought i'd go crazy staying at home, but school helps me out a lot. and really, after awhile i got a schedule down and now i love it. i'm dreading going back to work. i like being able to do what i want when i want (i.e. sleeping in :teehee)

i love working. i could never be a housewife, especially without kids. i cant say how i'll feel when we have kids.

I would have to find a job. I couldn't just stay home.

I don't mind staying at home. Keeping a clean house and home decorating is a job in itself! I plan to work outside the house while dh deploys though...a lil social interaction, ya know?

well, i dont work now with the two boys and dh being gone. he asked me not too because our 4 year old is taking it pretty hard. i love it. i get to scrapbook when i want and well, do whatever...we are finacially stable, so that is no worry. plus with dh not knowing when he will get passes and stuff like that, its good to know that i wont have to worry about asking off for days or working holidays, when i would much rather be with my family! it just depends on the situation though....what works for some doesnt work for others!