Well Im on the second deployment of my boyfriend, he has been gone almost 3 weeks now. I survived the first time but now that we live together, and he is not here Im all alone, with my orange cat monster ( his name is darwin). Im trying so hard not to be sad and depressed, I remember last time it took me a few months to get over it, then I was fine. But I was living with my dad at the time, so I had a shoulder to lean on and someone to hug me when I was feeling sad. Any suggestions as how not to be down in the dumps? I know being with friends helps but all of my friends are super busy with school and work and it really doesnt help that I have finals coming up. I just feel so overwhelmed with stress from school, living alone and my boyfriend not being here all at the same time. I just need some advise. any takers?

I am going through the same thing. I went through 2 long deployments with my DH, but I was living with my family and surrounded by friends. Now I love 8 hours from home, I'm not working, and I am going nuts. This is the first day where it has been really getting to me. He has been gone a little over 2 months and we still have about 4 to go.

I am working really hard at trying to find a job to keep me as busy as possible. I have 2 good friends down here, but it is even hard to be around them since their SO's are home. I think just staying busy is the best thing. If you wanna gab about it, just PM me. :)

volunteer:) like a boys and girls club or something thats only a couple hours in the day:) i wish i had the time to do it maybe someday and it will keep you plenty busy!

it looks like you are new to SOS so :welcome

I am probably in a similar state of stress as you. Finals are coming up, and my DH is gone in Iraq. I don't hang out with my friends much (they love to drink and i haven't been able to actually be in a good mood while drinking)

I honestly believe that SOS is my biggest support. My parents live about 3 hours away and when things get really bad i just call them up, or drive to see them

but for the most part the ladies on SOS make everything better for me:)

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I think i'm in a similar state as well: I'm in school full time, work part time, i will be graduating in a few weeks, starting a brand new career all while living alone and going through deployment #4. :kickcan

I know i have a ton on my plate. Though i have found the busier i am, the faster time flies. I have a calendar that is literally my life, i can't plan anything without it. I feel so much better when i'm organized, especially when it comes to school.

As far as living alone, i always have some kind of background noise on, whether it's the TV or the radio/CD. I don't have to focus on the silence that way. I've always enjoyed doing a sort of "spring" cleaning, going through items we don't need, clothes etc. I tend to rearrange furniture or redecorate as well. :giggle

..then there is SOS. my addiction. :teehee


we're here for you!! :hugehug

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I think i'm in a similar state as well: I'm in school full time, work part time, i will be graduating in a few weeks, starting a brand new career all while living alone and going through deployment #4. :kickcan

I know i have a ton on my plate. Though i have found the busier i am, the faster time flies. I have a calendar that is literally my life, i can't plan anything without it. I feel so much better when i'm organized, especially when it comes to school.

As far as living alone, i always have some kind of background noise on, whether it's the TV or the radio/CD. I don't have to focus on the silence that way. I've always enjoyed doing a sort of "spring" cleaning, going through items we don't need, clothes etc. I tend to rearrange furniture or redecorate as well. :giggle

..then there is SOS. my addiction. :teehee


we're here for you!! :hugehug

Thanks! Im finding that I like this place more and more! At least I know Im not alone completely when it comes to living alone. And congrats on graduating! :jump4joy

When I have some more time im going to rearrange everything heh, im a rearrange-a-holic too

Thanks! Im finding that I like this place more and more! At least I know Im not alone completely when it comes to living alone. And congrats on graduating! :jump4joy

When I have some more time im going to rearrange everything heh, im a rearrange-a-holic too

Thanks!! You sure aren't alone, thats for sure!! we're always here for you! My PM box is always open if you need someone to vent too!!

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The BEST thing i did for myself the first 3 months (I don't do it now) I wrote him journal entry everynight. It was like religion to me. I got to pour everything out. I shared everyday with him. It helped me feel close and it was a great outlet. I never made it crazy depressing but i was honest about what i was going through. Then when I filled it I mailed it to him. He read a day ro two everynight before he went to bed. He loved it. It sure helped me anyway...oh and I live alone with my dog....TV ius always on for background and SOS is a life saver

I didn't think I'd get so darn attached to SOS - I thought it'd just be like, something I used when I needed info, but having someone to moan and cry with when I miss Casey is really nice, especially since most of my friends are going through their own stuff right now and are sick of hearing about the Navy.


I'm sort of going through the same thing, though he's away at boot camp, which i'm aware is only 8 weeks. But literally 3 days after he graduates, I leave on a 4-month jaunt around the world for study abroad. I know, poor poor me, right? Still, I miss my boy, and this whole "I cant see you for 7 months" thing is killin me.

Deep breaths and distractions keep me busy. Also, writing him 30 page letters helps.

The BEST thing i did for myself the first 3 months (I don't do it now) I wrote him journal entry everynight. It was like religion to me. I got to pour everything out. I shared everyday with him. It helped me feel close and it was a great outlet.

Its very hard for me to do that because I always want a responce back right away. Im the impatient type, but maybe ill try that. I can send him a notebook and just tell him to write to me but not send it until before he leaves and I can do the same to him.

writing him 30 page letters helps.

Well since I talk to him on the phone a lot its hard for me to write 30 page letters and with email it makes it easier so I can just fill his inbox up hah. I think I wrote him a two page letter the other day and sent it.
But 30 page letters do work for someone especially if they are at bootcamp. and cant really talk on the phone or email? im not sure I was not with my boyfriend at the time he was in bootcamp.

Thanks everyone for being supportive. We should do something silly like watch the same movie at the same time and talk about it on here just for something to do.

Try and stay busy hun... you can do this!!! Figure out things that you like to do... whether it being working out at the gym, taking a dancing class, paint by number (this has become one of my favs :)), reading a book and magazines, watching movies, trying to make plans with friends (even if they have not a lot of time to hang, it's good to just get out of hte house), etc.

Just remember, it will be OK. Let me know if you need anything!!