So he called me a little bit ago which was nice...but the phone was so fuzzy :mumble I hate only hearing half of what he says but I don't want to be rude and say that his phone sucks. He started talking to me about his career and his plans and what not. I was impressed. For once he actually hunted someone down and forced them to talk to him. :bouquet
Good job DH.

So he's going to get back..someday...whenever the hell that is :imwaiting and take some night classes, get his bachelors... he's trying to get qualified before he comes back which he said is pretty hard to do but he has "nothing better to do", so he's going to try. Then he laid out his plan for if/when re-enlisting and what not. sounds good :D I trust him to make the right decision. What worries me is that he's always so sad...even when he was telling me about things that were good he just sounds so down on himself :kickcan

I've never heard him say anything about himself like some of the things he says now. In our relationship- he's the confident one, the reasonable one...the smart one. And lately he just seems so sad, and unsure. He wrote me a letter I just got it a few days ago asking me "not to run off with somone else, your all I have and I don't want to lost you.." It's so sad :tears how could he even think that... I just want to help him and make him feel better.

...kinda rambled on but....
that's what our phone call was about...
I'm just not getting through to him..I must not be trying hard enough or something...

I am glad you got to talk to him!
His saying "dont run off" its becuase they all sit around and the guys that have had bad experiences like to have a pitty party and tell other guys stuff like"hey man your wifes probably with some other dude" its rediculous

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:hugs the first time is just as hard on them as it is on us. DH was terrified that I was going to take our DD and leave him on his first deployment. Just keep reassuring him. Be a bigger rock than you already are.
But.... :jump4joy YAY for phone calls!!!! :dance

he does sound kinda sad...im sorry that must make you feel even doubly sad...could you sit down and write him a REALLY nice and sweet letter and then tell him whenever he is sad he has to read it? I mean thats what I would do i think...

I think he is just missing you...i mean you are his hot hooters waitress wife...why would he not hahaha...its so nice tho that you are so concerned about him...just try to stay positive for both your sakes...hope it gets better for you!:hugehug

:hugs the first time is just as hard on them as it is on us. DH was terrified that I was going to take our DD and leave him on his first deployment. Just keep reassuring him. Be a bigger rock than you already are.
But.... :jump4joy YAY for phone calls!!!! :dance

I agree:yes

:hugehug

I am glad you got to talk to him!
His saying "dont run off" its becuase they all sit around and the guys that have had bad experiences like to have a pitty party and tell other guys stuff like"hey man your wifes probably with some other dude" its rediculous

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yeah I heard about "dear john" letters and... i'm sure there are some people out there who's relationships dont work... it's really none of my business and i don't know their reasons. but he is terrified :shock... he asked me once that if i was going to leave him to let him know.. he didn't want to show up to an "empty house" :wow

But yeah i think it is a bunch of guys sitting around scaring each other... :taptap I guess I'll just keep sending him all the letters and boxes full of jerky and what not. Hopefully he will get the hint... it's just hard to hear him get down on himself..ya know?! I'd rather have it be me with all the problems...


but...thanks guys :bouquet if I didn't have SOS.... :suicide
I'd be a mad woman :hairpull

I am glad you got to talk to him!
His saying "dont run off" its becuase they all sit around and the guys that have had bad experiences like to have a pitty party and tell other guys stuff like"hey man your wifes probably with some other dude" its rediculous


The guys that had bad experiences probably gave their DW or DG a reason to "run off". You just need to keep reassuring him that you love him and would never do that.

I heard the same things from women when my DB left. "Awe you know he will be running around when he ports doing all kinds of women while you sit home and wait for him" :blahblah:blahblah:blahblah

:hugs

I am glad you got to talk to him. I think they all are alittle insecure the first time out. Jesse was. But after when he knew I was staying for the long haul that went away.

AWWW , :bigsadhug but :hugehug I agree with all of these ladies, they all get insecure the first time. I remember his first deployment with the marines he had to leave for a whole year and it was the first year of our marriage and he said the same things to me, please dont run off with any of your X's and things of that nature. I kept sending packages, love letters, pictures ect to let him know I was not going anywhere. He will come around and he :love's you very much and we all know you :love him. hang in there girly, we are here for you no matter what.:yahoo:yahoo for the phone call.

Yeah I hate how our guys get scared =/ but you gotta keep reassuring them that you'll always be there for him and that you're not leaving. I've had the same thing go on with my man.

so glad you got to talk to him :) i'm sorry he's being so down on himself. i'm sure it's just getting to him being away from you. :hugs to him and you!

:hugs I know, it's hard when you are so used to them being the "strong one" to hear them sounding sad and worried. Remind him how much you love him and how much faith you have in your relationship. I know deployments are hard, but we can make it! :hugs

awww all our big strong men have weak moments and insecurities. There are probably so many dumb stories floating around that affect some guys, but most are just rumors.

and he just wants to be home with you!!! I hope he feels better soon, and i'm sure just talking to you helps him so much. :hugs

Its actually kind of funny if you think about it. They have absoutely nothing better to do so they let their imaginations run away with them and of course instead of thinking about other things the first thought that jumps into their head is that we are going to leave them. I think all guys are just dense.
Just constantly reassure him that you love him and that you will always be there for him. I agree with some of the other ladies about writing him something that he can always look at when he gets that wild hair again and thinks you want to leave him.

:yay for getting to talk to him!

awww Hey girl! I'm so glad to hear you got a phone call! That's awesome he found someone to talk to! I'm sorry that he is so sad, it has got to be tough on there...hopefully he will find a good friend and that will make things easier! I'm gonna see if my husband can hunt him down! ;)