My Hubby left this morning, we didnt get to spend our last night together because he had watch, only got to see him for about 30 minutes this morning. I dont know how people go through this, ive never been this lonely in my life. Ive never gone a day with out talking to him in the year we have been together, and its tearing me up inside. Hes also on a sub, so its starting to sink in that i wont be hearing from him at all his entire deployment. Help! He is the only person i have to run to, that listens to me, and he isnt here i feel like im going to explode. I feel like a piece of my soul is missing without him here.

How did yall get through the first deployment? I was ready to have him home again the second he walked out the door today :tears

aww i'm sooo sorry. my DF isn't in the navy so I don't know what it's like to not be able to talk to him that long. well we're all here for you so if you need me then feel free to PM me. I'm constantly online =]

:hugehug This is also my first deployment. It wasn't easy for me the first 3 weeks. I cried for the entire first week, didn't eat and I was a royal mess and the hardest thing for me was not being able to talk to my DB every day.

Everyone here kept telling me "it will get easier" :blahblah:blahblah:blahblah, I read it so much I wanted to jump through the computer and choke someone. I was ready to throw in the towel.

But it did get easier. Stay busy, busy, busy. Don't get a puppy, that is way tooooo busy. This is a great place with lots of advise, support and sometimes good laughs.

Good Luck,

Jo

I'm in my first deployment as well, and I'm about 25 days in. The first few days are the worst...I just tried to stay as busy as possible, and start planning for his return. The things keeping me busy right now:

1.) Planning for a BIG vacation after he returns for the two of us (without the kids)
2.) Christmas planning, baking, etc.
3.) Filling out Christmas cards.
4.) Working out to meet goals.
5.) Carepackages, letters, letters, letters.

It doesn't seem like much, but believe me...it helps the days go by. I also try not to stay up that late, because it seems like the nights are so much worse than the days. :sigh

Good luck hon.

Welcome To SOS...Sounds like you are in the right place for some support.
I am Kyley, Proud wife to KC (USMC) Currently deployed to Iraq.
I feel bad but I dont have alot of advice for you. When my husband left it hit me but I have really just been ok. I miss him like no other but I know that he is coming home. I kinda look at it like he is at camp lol thats what my d always says "hows camp going for the husband!" In reality deployments are something that many get used to and the first one is the hardest. Remember that as much as you miss him he missses and loves you and in the whole scheme of like the deployments is just a small seperation for how many years you will be together. Message me if you need anything or just wanna talk.
Kyley

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This is our first deployment too. My db is in Iraq. You can get through this...my best advice is to spend a lot of time on here! These women are an amazing support network and will be able to answer any question you have and ease your concerns. Hang in there! :hugs :hugs

Deployments are tough.. I'm not going to lie. But if you find ways to stay busy,(take a class, find a new hobby) the time goes by a lot faster. I always start planning homecoming stuff (making signs, picking out potiential outfits and things) at the halfway point of the cruise.

I feel for you.. subbie life seems so much harder than surface when it comes to deployments. DH is surface, and we have pretty regular contact when he's out.

By homecoming time, you'll be standing at the pier wondering where the time went to.. Good luck!

ive never been through a deployment but as you can see already theres TONS of people who have gone through or are going through the same thing! im always here to talk if you need it though!

i wish i had some advice i have nothing but the utmost respect for sub wives i would start working on a family gram. but take your time. know that its perfectly OK to be sad and upset. the first deployment is rough. maybe plan a trip for the holidays. write him nice letters go get some nice stationary or something occupy yourself but its ok to cry. i sat at home in my jammies the whole second day he was gone and still do if i can. HUGS and know that you will be stronger by the end of this. what doesn't kill us makes us stronger! you will be way more independant and try to find some positives to a deployment i know its hard but dig deep.

When I went though my first deployment it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do. Its not going to be easy the first month or so but things do start to get better after that. So hang in there and try to stay busy. Easier said then done but try to get out and do stuff that you always said you were going to do but never found the time. If you need anything let me know, Im online a lot because I have nothing else to do besides school and work. :giggle

Everyone is here for you and we've all been there once or more. :hug

Stay strong and things will fly by fast.

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I am so sorry. But...it gets better. Just never not get up - when you think you wont get out of bed - do. Be good to you, stay busy.

this is also my first deployment and first experience with any sort of long distance dating. I was a FREAKING WRECK the first month and yes despite your puzzlement it does get easier. Stay busy and I don't recomend drinking that much it seems to only make the sadness worse. I work, work out, throw little dinner parties and such with friends, plan our big vacation.

you know any way you look at it, it totally sucks, and it's really hard but SOS is great it totally has helped me.

Stay strong we are all here to help one another ;)

aww sweetie :hugs
this is my first deployment too :D and I know just how you feel...but honestly the only thing keeping me going is I know my husband loves me and he's going to come home...
i write a letter everyday, and mail them out a couple times a week. he likes them alot. and guys on subs get mail too :D even though I don't think it's very often, you can still send stuff and he will get it. i'm so sorry that you feel alone, i'm not going to tell you that it gets better, cause i'm not sure myself if it does. but we are here for you. feel free to pm me if you need anything
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we are on our fourth deployment, i think the first one is tough because you're learning so much.

My best advice is to always keep yourself busy, don't put your life on hold - continue to get your hair cut, nails done, whatever it is that you like to do. For special events you and your DH do together, come up with an alternative, usually in the form of a care package.
Know it's okay to cry, but don't get into a rut, if you spend one day in your PJs without brushing your teeth or hair, make sure you get up the next day and run some errands. Life still moves on around you, so do the bets you can to keep up.

The first few weeks are the hardest, we're here for you and we know exactly how you're feeling!! ! :grouphug

I am so sorry hun. :hugs

My hubby just back from our first 7 month deployment. It was hard at times, but with time it gets better. I just stayed busy as possible! To make the time go by faster and the more i did every day, i slept better. Because the nights where the hardest for me. But it will fly by faster than you think!

If you need anything PM me.

Thank you guys for all the support, i know im not the only one to go through this :) It feels like subs are so different from the rest of the military world, id give anything to hear his voice again, and to get his email unbroken! I can send him messages but he isnt able to send them to me :no Stupid Navy.

I feel a bit better today, i still miss him like hell :tired but i feel like im already starting to put the pieces back together from when i broke apart yesterday.

I am sorry you gotta go through with it. If you love him its worth it, i thought this deployment was gonna either make or break my marriage, and well its done both. But keep your head up, i know what you mean about the "only one who listens to you" my husband and i were so close when he left and its super hard to cope with the fact that hes gone, we were stuck together all the time now a piece of me is missing :( but this site is great and you meet alot of people plus great advice :) so cheer up there are so many things you can do w/o him here (go read the bullietin about PROS FOR DEPLOYMENT it made me laugh, but anyways im here if you need someone to listen! :)