This week has been hard for C ( 3) to have daddy go to school. C has never had DH go out to see or even be gone over night before. Im worried as to how hes going to react when DH gets done with school out here and we move and DH has to start going out on deployments and stuff. I dont know how to help him. I know when DH does start going out C will be 4 but what do i say to him?

I was a navy Brat so Ive been there but my DH job is sooo much more diff than my dads job was. SO things are gonna ba a bit diff there in that aspect.

Did/do your kids ask for daddy through out the day? How do you help them understand?:dunno

TIA!

If you know good dates back home...you could do a paper chain and rip one off at the end of the day so he can see how close it is to him coming home. Dad can pitch in & write letters just for him or call just him.

With kids, its hard - and at every age they need something different. I think the best is keeping them connected. My 10 year old has every card or letter Dad ever sent her - they are posted on her wall.

I just let them know that Dad has to work and sometimes Dad's work is on a ship and that the ship has to go out to the ocean so he can do his job. They get that pretty good. When they ask for him I just remind them that he is at work on his ship and they are cool with that. Best thing is to talk about it now while he is home so that your dh can explain it to him too. Show him pictures of the ship and stuff like that. Talk about how dad will still be able to write him letters and what not.

My DH has been away at schools a lot lately.. DD is finally old enough that she notices when he's gone and it affects her. When she misses him I call his cell phone, I let her hear the message and leave one. When he gets out of class it's so nice for him to check his messages and there are a few from his little girl. It helps her to hear him. I also let her hold a picture of him when ever she needs.
Sara is younger than your child. I have no idea what I'm going to do when he's actually on deployment. I'm sure it will get harder as she gets older and I'll have to find new ways to keep them close and comfort her.

DH was at a school from Feb-April of this year.. and had just returned off deployment when he had to go to school. The talk listen connect DVD helped a lot with Cam. Let him talk to daddy whenever possible. Is there a way for him to see him on webcams? That helped DD a lot too.. DH has a cam on his laptop and we have one on the desktop that we use when we're apart. Remind him daily that daddy's a hero, and that he's away doing things to help others. Keep him as busy as possible!

Daddy is just at school...he comes home everyday!! its just during the day that C asks for Daddy. I just tell him daddy is at school so he can do better for us.

But What Im worried about is when Daddy leaves for a deployment. What do I tell him?

I like the telling him daddy is a hero and hes out being a hero sorta thing. I just want to be prepaired fo rwhen the time comes!!

Daddy is just at school...he comes home everyday!! its just during the day that C asks for Daddy. I just tell him daddy is at school so he can do better for us.

But What Im worried about is when Daddy leaves for a deployment. What


hmm... sounds like he's just a daddy's boy.. :D That's a good thing, but I know it can be hard. DD asks where her dad is every morning when she gets up. a quick reminder that Dad's at work usually does the trick though.