So lately my DH has been trying to convince me that its just a natural part of a guy to look at girl's chest and say something about it out loud no matter who's nearby. I asked him why he thinks that and he told me that guys need to look at women's breast to get an idea of how good a mother she'll be. Well in today's plastic surgery obsessed world he can't really expect to fly with that answer. Why do men think its alright if they look at naked women's bodies when they have a good woman who loves him nearby. He used to look away out of respect for me when we first got together, but I guess since he's got me forever he can relax and enjoy the show.

... who CARES if he looks at naked women!
he just gave you permission to look at naked MEN!

:rofl

use THAT argument against him

or alternatively

start commenting on boobs too! betcha thatll shut him up while he confusedly tries to figure it out

haha yeah I don't care if DB looks at other girls. I know he's coming home with me at the end of the night. We actually like going to strip clubs together :dunno :giggle

start commenting on boobs too! betcha thatll shut him up while he confusedly tries to figure it out

I know that wouldn't work with my DH. He got turned thinking about me getting my massage on Friday. Commenting on someone's boobs would just encourage him even more. :lmao

haha yeah I don't care if DB looks at other girls. I know he's coming home with me at the end of the night. We actually like going to strip clubs together :dunno :giggle

haha... i once suggested we go to one! but we couldnt find an under 21 strip club (we KNOW there is one... just dont know WHERE exactly it is.. or what its called to look it up)

I know that wouldn't work with my DH. He got turned thinking about me getting my massage on Friday. Commenting on someone's boobs would just encourage him even more. :lmao

haha.. i can see how it would encourage him. for me and DF though... when we see something worth commenting on, we just do.
if she has amazing boobs... im probably gonna say so... unless he sees them first .. then i would agree.

i happen to know MINE are his favorite. ive seen the way he looks at them... there are some days where i WISH he would go check another chicks boobs out... i need SOME rest!!

Its not that I can't appriciate a nice set of boobs. It's just that he knows how I'm insecure about how small mine are and whenever he points out bigger ones it makes me feel like he's saying "see hun, this is what it should be like" I have been to strip clubs, hell we have even done the whole watching porn together thing, I just hate how he gets so excited about them sometimes like Im not even there anymore.

Its not that I can't appriciate a nice set of boobs. It's just that he knows how I'm insecure about how small mine are and whenever he points out bigger ones it makes me feel like he's saying "see hun, this is what it should be like" I have been to strip clubs, hell we have even done the whole watching porn together thing, I just hate how he gets so excited about them sometimes like Im not even there anymore.

We have the opposite problem. DH always points out the women with small boobs. Before me he never dated anyone bigger than a B. I've always been at least a full C, now that I'm bf I'm a full D. :lmao

men are from mars...

Its not that I can't appriciate a nice set of boobs. It's just that he knows how I'm insecure about how small mine are and whenever he points out bigger ones it makes me feel like he's saying "see hun, this is what it should be like" I have been to strip clubs, hell we have even done the whole watching porn together thing, I just hate how he gets so excited about them sometimes like Im not even there anymore.

that is just RUDE then. the LEAST he can do is KEEP HIS THOUGHTS TO HIMSELF

there is NO reason to say them out loud. NONE.

and if y'all are watching porn together... how can he POSSIBLY think IGNORING you is ok?
i'd think he would want to watch it so he can get ideas for what to reenact with you...

i say smack him and tell him whats what. because he isnt behaving acceptably. he needs to respect YOUR feelings.

Its not that I can't appriciate a nice set of boobs. It's just that he knows how I'm insecure about how small mine are and whenever he points out bigger ones it makes me feel like he's saying "see hun, this is what it should be like" I have been to strip clubs, hell we have even done the whole watching porn together thing, I just hate how he gets so excited about them sometimes like Im not even there anymore.

Maybe you should just flat out tell him that you're not comfortable with him looking and commenting at other boobs besides your own. I wouldn't either, and luckily my DH doesn't do stuff like that, but if he did, I would be telling him how I felt!

oh i've told him flat out. i think it's because he's been watching a lot of Man Show lately. I think the show is hilarious so maybe he's thinking I'm comfortable with the whole men will be men thing. we are very open about sexuality so I can't understand why I'm being so sensitive about it sometimes. i just want to be the only woman in the world he desires. Is that so bad?

oh i've told him flat out. i think it's because he's been watching a lot of Man Show lately. I think the show is hilarious so maybe he's thinking I'm comfortable with the whole men will be men thing. we are very open about sexuality so I can't understand why I'm being so sensitive about it sometimes. i just want to be the only woman in the world he desires. Is that so bad?

no, its not bad :)
just let him know you dont care that he likes boobs (Because it sounds like you dont.. correct me if im wrong) but that you dont want to HEAR about other boobs all the time.

you only want to hear about how AMAZING yours are ;):D

sometimes boys (ok and girls.. i shouldnt be sexist) need a step by step instruction manual. so lay it all out for him.

df never really comments on other girls and he always says "why go to a strip club and when i have you" .. but i honestly wouldnt care if he did. as long as he didnt lie about it, im fine with it. and half the movies he has down in NC with him are porn but its whatever he's a guy. i laugh at him and call him a perv lol.

My dh doesn't do that. He's not that into boobs...mine are small (when not preggo) and he likes them better small. He wouldn't make comments out loud for sure. I think that is rude and disrespectful. Anyway, you should pull the bullshit flag on his "good mother" rationalization. That's ridiculous

i dont care so much about looking at naked women, but i think the things he's saying to you are a bit ludacris. no, they do not need to say anything out loud. :rolleyes sheesh the things men say...

My dh doesn't do that. He's not that into boobs...mine are small (when not preggo) and he likes them better small. He wouldn't make comments out loud for sure. I think that is rude and disrespectful. Anyway, you should pull the bullshit flag on his "good mother" rationalization. That's ridiculous

haha I wished my DH liked mine small. He can't wait until I get prego so that I can have bigger boobs...grrrr! THat's awesome your DH likes them better when they are small!

I think I look more than he does & if I catch him staring. i call him on it. I don't mind if he looks. He's just not allowed to drool w/ his mouth hanging open. LOL

just starting pointing out that you think a man has a big man hood..

I think its disrespectful for him to comment on other women knowing that it makes you feel uncomfortable. Any decent man is not going to purposely make his wife feel uncomfortable or insecure. Make sure he knows exactly how you feel about it!

df never really comments on other girls and he always says "why go to a strip club and when i have you" .. but i honestly wouldnt care if he did. as long as he didnt lie about it, im fine with it. and half the movies he has down in NC with him are porn but its whatever he's a guy. i laugh at him and call him a perv lol.

My guy is the same, no strip clubs LOL

In all honesty I don't think guys can really help the looking thing. What works for me is I tell DB when I see a girl with nice ones, and he gets all confused. He doesn't like it when I act bi, so he tries to 'reconvince' me. If I get real insecure about it, I'll just tell him. Nothin like a little honesty!

If he continues to use that goofy mother line, and doesn't figure out that it bothers you, call him on his shit!

It's normal:shrug

I don't have any issues with looking, which is exactly why DH doesn't really. :lol

Men are like little kids sometimes-the more you try to mother and tell them what to do, the more they'll rebel.

Freedom shows you trust him, and he'll be less likely to even care about that stuff.

Just IMO.

oh i've told him flat out. i think it's because he's been watching a lot of Man Show lately. I think the show is hilarious so maybe he's thinking I'm comfortable with the whole men will be men thing. we are very open about sexuality so I can't understand why I'm being so sensitive about it sometimes. i just want to be the only woman in the world he desires. Is that so bad?

my thoughts exactly. it isn't that i think porn/strip clubs/etc is bad. its just the thought of him going out of his way to look at another woman naked when i'm right there! :madwife

It's normal:shrug

I don't have any issues with looking, which is exactly why DH doesn't really. :lol

Men are like little kids sometimes-the more you try to mother and tell them what to do, the more they'll rebel.

Freedom shows you trust him, and he'll be less likely to even care about that stuff.

Just IMO.

I agree, freedom shows trust and that helps them move on!

I won't have a problem with him looking....but the comments are alittle much.

So lately my DH has been trying to convince me that its just a natural part of a guy to look at girl's chest and say something about it out loud no matter who's nearby. I asked him why he thinks that and he told me that guys need to look at women's breast to get an idea of how good a mother she'll be. Well in today's plastic surgery obsessed world he can't really expect to fly with that answer. Why do men think its alright if they look at naked women's bodies when they have a good woman who loves him nearby. He used to look away out of respect for me when we first got together, but I guess since he's got me forever he can relax and enjoy the show.

well now thats GREAT. I'm a 32 AA. I have NO BOOBS AT ALL. I've known what I wanted to name my kids when I was hardly a teenager. I've known how to cook, clean, do laundry, and take care of babies for a long time. When I see babies and their mothers my heart melts. I definitely have a good maternal instinct!