So my boyfriend who is scheduled to come home in less than 2 weeks from basic is in for a very rude awakening, just how rude is what i am trying to figure out. Anyways we have been together almost 3yrs, we have a house now, a dog, we are all domestic and shit. SInce he has been gone, i have drained my savings to support both of us and recently he said he wants to marry me and when he is home to pick out a ring and all this sweet blah blah bullshit!!! So why did i go into his email to check the status of some bill i paid and i notice an email from this girl Brittney that i can't stand? She has a huge thing for Dan and it just creeps me out. So of course, i open the email, which led to 20 pages of other emails dating all the way back to June!!! They have been dating and sleeping together the whole time and she knows all about me!!!!!!!! what a disrespectful slut-both of them! here are some interesting points:
FROM HER- what the hell am i supposed to think? i mean how is it even humanly possible to not get emotionally involved when you talk to someone every singel day about anythng any everything, see them, hang out, have fun, get along and are physical with? and im sorry i hate val, but you arent doing her any favors with this either, if you want you two to work, you cant have me to pick up the slack! i cant fill voids in your life...you have said you want me somewhere down the line, so why would you waste time now? im not trying to convince you to want me, i just want a chance, and honest, no sneaking around, time with you when i want, normal dating chance, cause this that we have now, is nothing, not friendship, not dating, not just sex, not a chance, nothing

HIS RESPONSE-Sorry hard to have a talk when Val is sitting right next to me...damn. I don't know what direction to give you, I barely know what direction I'm moving in. No you are more than just pussy to me, although I have no idea how to classify it. I like having you around, I told you before you're like my best friend. I know it's shitty, you told me before but right now it's all we have. This started as a no strings attatched deal and has taken a turn I hoped we could avoid. I just don't know what to do.

That's all pretty F-ing awesome huh? So what is a girl to do? I want to make him feel as horrible as I do now...

OMG. I am pretty much speechless right now. If I think of some good revenge I will definitely let you know!!!

wow...they're both heartless people..i'm so sorry =[ i would hate to find out like that. i hope you come up with a very good way to get revenge. i'll try to think of something!

:wow

I'm sorry :hugs

I'm sorry. What an ass :no
:hugs :hugs

I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO sorry :hugehug

pfft.
dont waste your energy getting revenge... that would mean you would have to THINK about him.

just tell him it is over when he gets home, tell him you know about the other chick if he asks why, and walk away when he tries to beg for forgivness

thats all that is necessary on this loser

Oh wow, I am so sorry :bigsadhug

I know how you feel. I just recently went through a break-up after finding out that I was being cheated on, and it's AWFUL. I was SO full of rage and fury, and I wanted him to hurt like he'd hurt me.

Again, I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's terrible and there's really no two ways around that.

HOLY FREAKING SHIT!!! what an ASSHOLE!!! I don't even know what to tell you. I don't have as much will power as you. I'd probably want to beat the everliving shit out of both of them. That is SOOOO awful. I think I have to agree with treeoflife3 he's not worth your energy, neither is she. If she's stupid enough to want to be with someone that cheats then good for her. And as for him, just tell him its over, absolutely no chance that he'll get you back, and make sure all of his friends know what an ass he is.

thanks all~i'm feeling a lil better about the situation, yeah it hurts, but in the end, i will be the winner and he will have lost everything. This has been going on since June that i have a record of! But she has sent recent emails, like the last two weeks that beg him not to write her from basic or to call her when he gets home and shit. I'm thinking he probably told her it was over and that he was planning on doing right by me! HA! I busted him, he just doesn't know. My original plot was to pack shit lil by lil and get a lot of it moved out in the next week or so, because his family comes over every other day or so and if they see too much of a drastic change, they will tell him. Anyways, then right before he comes home on the 15th, move out the rest, get him from the airport and drop him off to an empty house, newly renovated with a great personalized wallpaper-so 35 or so pages of emails between those two and a bunch of him and other girls just flirting and talking all deirty and shit! What an ass!!! Or I could wait a minute, cuz he will only be home 2 weeks (and i cancelled all the days i took off, so i will be working) and he wants to get me a ring-sweet, i'd love to accept, and he is supposed to get some bonus cash coming up pretty quick, in which he has already said some goes to me, and i need it after everything i have been through in the last couple months. So i'm thinking of just waiting it out a lil, finding someone else and getting what i have coming, then bouncing out the door! i dunno yet!

I'm so sorry Sweetie. What a jerk. How could he do that to you? That is awful. :hugs

thats SO unbelievely messed up. i'd walk away right now.. just leave him behind.. im so sorry

i am getting some of my girls together in a couple days and we are packing up everything! damn near everything is mine, so he is gonna come back to milk crates as living room furniture, a handful of towels, not even one washcloth, a few random dishes, and his tv & video games! hope he is happy!!! hope she was worth it!!!!!!!!1

i am getting some of my girls together in a couple days and we are packing up everything! damn near everything is mine, so he is gonna come back to milk crates as living room furniture, a handful of towels, not even one washcloth, a few random dishes, and his tv & video games! hope he is happy!!! hope she was worth it!!!!!!!!1

Your friends rock for coming over to help you out!! Buy cheap pink champagne, y'all will want it.
:hugehug

this is one of those times you wish you could see his face when he walks through the door, take that dick head!!!

Wow that really sucks. I'm sorry you had to find out in such a horrible way how much of a dirtbag this guy is. But, I'm glad you found out now before it was "too late"!

:hugs :goodvibes

Your friends rock for coming over to help you out!! Buy cheap pink champagne, y'all will want it.
:hugehug

I agree, drink it and play angry girl music!:P

Girlie the SAME thing happened to me with my ex db. I caught him via email too. Him and his "best friend" were all on each other screwing every other night and I was just the girlfriend that was dumb enough not to know and stay around. Its bitches like this that make me wanna beat every woman that looks at my man. I have been cheated on by EVERY SINGLE ONE of my boyfriends besides my current DB. Know that I am here for you and Girl I know EXACTLY what you are going through. I think you should slowly with draw yourself from him while he is gone and train yourself to not wanna be with him. Its going to be hard but if you start now it will be a lot harsher for him *which he deserves* and it will be easier for you. Now as for the Brittany chick. I've gotta Amanda chick over here that the two of them will be best of friends. :club

but seriously PM me if you need ANYTHING. I have been in your shoes girlie.

im sorry i can understand the cheating ..my ex did it a ton of times..i think u are smart for living him while he is at basic..i would print those emails out and leave him a note and wouldnt answer any call from him.and change your mail to your new address.i agree with distancing yourself from him slowly.

Holy cow. I'm speechless. I hope the move out goes/went well. I was rather fond of your "personalized wallpaper" idea though. I mean, just in case he didn't realize.

Is it a rental house or do you own it? Own it jointly or in one persons name? You're taking the dog, right? A man like that seriously can not be trusted to care for a dog.

So my boyfriend who is scheduled to come home in less than 2 weeks from basic is in for a very rude awakening, just how rude is what i am trying to figure out. Anyways we have been together almost 3yrs, we have a house now, a dog, we are all domestic and shit. SInce he has been gone, i have drained my savings to support both of us and recently he said he wants to marry me and when he is home to pick out a ring and all this sweet blah blah bullshit!!! So why did i go into his email to check the status of some bill i paid and i notice an email from this girl Brittney that i can't stand? She has a huge thing for Dan and it just creeps me out. So of course, i open the email, which led to 20 pages of other emails dating all the way back to June!!! They have been dating and sleeping together the whole time and she knows all about me!!!!!!!! what a disrespectful slut-both of them! here are some interesting points:
FROM HER- what the hell am i supposed to think? i mean how is it even humanly possible to not get emotionally involved when you talk to someone every singel day about anythng any everything, see them, hang out, have fun, get along and are physical with? and im sorry i hate val, but you arent doing her any favors with this either, if you want you two to work, you cant have me to pick up the slack! i cant fill voids in your life...you have said you want me somewhere down the line, so why would you waste time now? im not trying to convince you to want me, i just want a chance, and honest, no sneaking around, time with you when i want, normal dating chance, cause this that we have now, is nothing, not friendship, not dating, not just sex, not a chance, nothing

HIS RESPONSE-Sorry hard to have a talk when Val is sitting right next to me...damn. I don't know what direction to give you, I barely know what direction I'm moving in. No you are more than just pussy to me, although I have no idea how to classify it. I like having you around, I told you before you're like my best friend. I know it's shitty, you told me before but right now it's all we have. This started as a no strings attatched deal and has taken a turn I hoped we could avoid. I just don't know what to do.

That's all pretty F-ing awesome huh? So what is a girl to do? I want to make him feel as horrible as I do now...


im so sorry guys are so stupid :smackup

thats crazy. how long did he think he was going to do it and you not find out? hes a loser and so is she!

Ok, so this is a little messed up... but you could print out all the emails you have of them talking back and forth, and make a little scrap-book full of them (dont invest much time on the inside, just get a "pretty" cover) And on the inside page, write "what caused you to lose the best thing you've ever had". Give it to him, I bet the look on his face would be priceless.

pfft.
dont waste your energy getting revenge... that would mean you would have to THINK about him.

just tell him it is over when he gets home, tell him you know about the other chick if he asks why, and walk away when he tries to beg for forgivness

thats all that is necessary on this loser

I 100% agree. He's not worth it....don't waste a moment more of your time.

Wow. I am so sorry, but it is good you found out now, before you were married. Cheating sucks, it is not just the fact that they slept with someone else, it is the fact of being lied to, and disrespected, and everything else that goes along with such a betrayal. I wish I could say that I didn't know exactly how you feel, but I do. I am not going to offer any advice what so ever on what to do, other than that the best thing for you would to be to move on and forget about him if that is what you want. Revenge will only lower you down to a level that you don't want to go to. Trust me, I wanted to do all sorts of terrible things to the both of them. Illegal things :) But instead I did what was best for me and the kids and moved back to our home town. I also found out about "her" while he was in basic.....so he was lucky to not be home. Unfortunately she was our freaking neighbor, so I had to see her everyday. Basically when he called, I told him that I knew, and that I had told her husband. A few days later, I let him know that we had moved hehehe. I had to tell him b/c of the kids and all, or I might not have. All in all, we found our own way to deal, and I am TRYING to move forward. I stayed, and for me it was the right thing to do. I hope that you can get past this, and that you end up where you are meant to be, and that you will be happy again soon. Just remember, that they can only hurt you as much as you are willing to let them. The best way to get even is to simply move on. And if that other girl has any sense at all, she will move on as well, and stay the hell away from you....lol

Ugh, like the others, I have also been completely screwed over by an ex. Although luckily for you (if you can call it that) you found out early enough to call him out on it... I found out three months after we broke up and I started seeing someone else. I also echo the wallpaper idea, that's priceless. Good luck. You and everyone else in similar situations deserves better!

um you could let him walk in to you and some guy in bed making out? lol

wow hun, I am so sorry!! I cant believe that guys are like this.

I'd wait it out. See if he comes clean about the whole situation. Then if he doesn't, just leave anyway.

What a tangled web we weave, when we weave a web to deceive.

Im sorry hun. I know how if feels to find stuff like that, I found email and IM's that DH had sent some girls right after he got back from Iraq(when he was still DF) I forgave him and we are married now with a son and a baby on the way. I know its hard to forgive I battle it everyday so I think you are being very strong leaving him. Good luck!

so whats happening with this situation..has he made it home yet?

I'm curious, too!

thanks all~i'm feeling a lil better about the situation, yeah it hurts, but in the end, i will be the winner and he will have lost everything. This has been going on since June that i have a record of! But she has sent recent emails, like the last two weeks that beg him not to write her from basic or to call her when he gets home and shit. I'm thinking he probably told her it was over and that he was planning on doing right by me! HA! I busted him, he just doesn't know. My original plot was to pack shit lil by lil and get a lot of it moved out in the next week or so, because his family comes over every other day or so and if they see too much of a drastic change, they will tell him. Anyways, then right before he comes home on the 15th, move out the rest, get him from the airport and drop him off to an empty house, newly renovated with a great personalized wallpaper-so 35 or so pages of emails between those two and a bunch of him and other girls just flirting and talking all deirty and shit! What an ass!!! Or I could wait a minute, cuz he will only be home 2 weeks (and i cancelled all the days i took off, so i will be working) and he wants to get me a ring-sweet, i'd love to accept, and he is supposed to get some bonus cash coming up pretty quick, in which he has already said some goes to me, and i need it after everything i have been through in the last couple months. So i'm thinking of just waiting it out a lil, finding someone else and getting what i have coming, then bouncing out the door! i dunno yet!


That sounds like the perfect revenge. What did you end up doing? What men don't realize is . . . we always find out. Maybe not right away, but we always find out.

What has happened? I think the 'new wall paper' idea is genius.
I don't think you should pick him up from the air port at all. Tell him you have a surprise waiting at home, and have him walk in with you standing in the living room with your bags and that shit all over the walls. Slap him across his face and LEAVE!
(easier said than done, I know.)

HOLY FREAKING SHIT!!! what an ASSHOLE!!! I don't even know what to tell you. I don't have as much will power as you. I'd probably want to beat the everliving shit out of both of them. That is SOOOO awful. I think I have to agree with treeoflife3 he's not worth your energy, neither is she. If she's stupid enough to want to be with someone that cheats then good for her. And as for him, just tell him its over, absolutely no chance that he'll get you back, and make sure all of his friends know what an ass he is.
ITA!!! With every word! Hes not an asshole, hes the BIGGEST asshole of them all! :eek He really needs a foot up his ass! :wow

And, just thought I would throw some lyrics to a totally awesome song out there...

Picture to Burn:
To state the obvious
I didn’t get my perfect fantasy
I realize you love yourself more than you could ever love me
So go and tell your friends that I'm obsessive and crazy
That’s fine I'll tell mine you’re gay
And by the way

Chorus:
I hate that stupid old pick up truck you never let me drive
You're a redneck heartbreaker
Who’s really bad at lying
So watch me strike a match on all my wasted time
As far as I'm concerned you're just another picture to burn.

There's no time for tears
I'm just sitting here planning my revenge
There's nothing stopping me
From going out with all of your best friends.
And if you come around
Saying sorry to me
My daddy’s gonna show you how sorry you'll be
'Cause
Chorus

And if you're missing me
You better keep it to yourself
Cuz coming back around here
Would be bad for your health
'Cause

I hate that stupid old pick up truck you never let me drive
You're a redneck heartbreaker
Who’s really bad at lying
So watch me strike a match on all my wasted time
In case you haven’t heard
I really really hate that stupid old pick up truck you never let me drive
You're a redneck heartbreaker
Who’s really bad at lying
So watch me strike a match on all my wasted time
As far as I'm concerned you're just another picture to burn

Burn burn burn baby burn
Just another picture to burn
Baby burn





:hugehug Im so sorry, I KNOW how bad it hurts! :bigsadhug

OMG I have so much I want to say and I have no idea where to begin. My sister was cheated on and she had a kid with the guy, he then married and had a kid with the woman he cheated with on my sister. I think the best way to get him back is to start with his bank account, take as much money as possible from him, hide anything of value, sell it, hide it who gives a shit just take it.

Now, to make you feel great and make him look like an ASSHOLE. The day you end things with him, you take all of those e-mails between him and that WHORE and you make copies of it. For everyone in his family and friends, almost like a book. The day you end it, you send all of those to them with a note saying, THIS IS WHY I ENDED IT.

You are worth more than that fucking asshole has shown you. Be pissed off BUT GET THE HELL EVEN FIRST. Destory him and listen to me, I have done a lot to make others look like crap and to make sure they get theres. Let me know of anything you need or want to talk about, send me a pm or get my on myspace. Keep me updated.

pfft.
dont waste your energy getting revenge... that would mean you would have to THINK about him.

just tell him it is over when he gets home, tell him you know about the other chick if he asks why, and walk away when he tries to beg for forgivness

thats all that is necessary on this loser

I totaly agree..don't waste your enerdy and time on his sorry butt!!!!

Hit him where it'll hurt him the most...his wallet. Let him drop money on a ring and propose. Once it's in your hands he can't have it back unless you give it to him. Let him spend all sorts of money on you and then tell him you know about the other chick and that you hope she was worth it and walk the fuck out. Good luck and I hope he gets exactly what he deserves!!!

Two wrongs don't make a right. If he fucked up let him know and walk away from him. Don't let him drag you down.

Two wrongs don't make a right. If he fucked up let him know and walk away from him. Don't let him drag you down.


This thread is old

what ever happened tho?

wow!! I am so sorry!! :hugehug

i'm so sorry :hugs

i like the empty house idea personally...


he wouldnt even know what to do.


fuck i hate liars. bust his shit out.

freaking bitch man !!!!! i am a christian, but the moment i read that-- the love of Jesus escaped me.. make them hurt.. BAD !!!! REVENGE IS SWEET !!!! I dont have any ideas, but i'm sure you just leaving him is going to kill him!! and then some!!!

you deserve SO MUCH BETTER !!! keep me posted!


<3 Kathy

yaaaa!!! empty house idea is GOOD !!!!

I hope you packed all of his shit for him so that when he gots home it's was ready to go... and rubbed some Bengay in his undies before you threw them in.

I am so so sorry this happened to you. I know how much it sucks to find out the person you are with is a big fat fucking lying cheater. I beat up an ex once, full on kicked his ass. It didn't make me feel better and I am VERY lucky I didn't get arrested for it. Revenge is not really the way to go, unless it involves Bengay of course. :P I am just glad you know and don't have to live a lie anymore. Good luck to you, you are better than him! I hope you got away and are happy without him now.

This is an old thread.

& according to her MySpace it looks like they're still together. Yes I'm nosey. :P

Thats too bad if she stayed with that cheater and liar!

OMG IM SHOCKED WOW DONT KNOW WHAT TO SAY IM SORRY WOW