mainly for all you ladies who get flowers, candy, gifts, etc. from your deployed men.... How the heck did you get them to do that?!?!?

its so sweet when you all post pix of what you receive, and it even puts a smile on MY face reading about it!

but DB is so clueless sometimes with that stuff. :mumble I feel like he would NEVER think to do that for me :(

I love to send him everything - letters, emails, packages - but i guess it would just be really nice to have it be reciprocated :shrug

HA! I was lucky if he gave me an email or a call when he was gone lol BUT the days I heard nothing I got $20 b/c he was stupid enough to make that deal... if I didnt hear from him for 24hrs I got $20. Lets just say the last patrol I bought 2 Coach purses lol

how did you ever get him to agree to that deal?;)

i know right?!? db sent me a little backpack from kuwait that says operation iraqi freedom on it and has a US and iraqi flag on it, its really cute! and know it costed him more to send it than what it cost him, but flowers and candy sounds nice, and probably isnt too too expensive, depending on what they order! but im sure hes been busy and hasnt really thought much about sending things to me!

ive been soo busy lately and i forgot that my bday is 2 weeks from today...christmas eve...yea it sucks! but db hasnt said anything about christmas or my bday so im hoping he will send something nice then!?!?

hmmm :dunno i dont think i "did" anything to get him to do it. But i guess maybe i made a big deal about it when he sent me flowers a few months before he left, just for no reason. I gushed abot how much i loved it and how great hewas for that... i think (now this might be the counselor in me talking) it reinforced him to do that more often, cause he got all that "praise". hahah sounds silly... but thats the whole basis of cognitive behavioral therapy, that people dont do ANYTHING without it having some kind of reinforcement for them. But to get hm to do it the 1st time, maybe you could just be like "ohh this lady at my work got flowers delivered, everyone was saying they were jealous!" :P

hmmm :dunno i dont think i "did" anything to get him to do it. But i guess maybe i made a big deal about it when he sent me flowers a few months before he left, just for no reason. I gushed abot how much i loved it and how great hewas for that... i think (now this might be the counselor in me talking) it reinforced him to do that more often, cause he got all that "praise". hahah sounds silly... but thats the whole basis of cognitive behavioral therapy, that people dont do ANYTHING without it having some kind of reinforcement for them. But to get hm to do it the 1st time, maybe you could just be like "ohh this lady at my work got flowers delivered, everyone was saying they were jealous!" :P

well thats ANOTHER reason i was a little sad about it..because TWO woman from my office got roses today!! One for a birthday, but the other for no reason. Her BF wrote a really sweet note.

But i love reading all the posts about the gorgeous flowers, cute gifts, balloons, whatever... its really cute that they still think to send little presents while they are stuck on a ship or in the sandbox

uh.....I had to BEG him to send me 1 letter.....as my christmas present! He's at like the worst camp ever, he can't use his debit or credit cards and he doesn't have internet. so....i can pretty much not expect to get flowers or anything like that. so i begged for a letter. he actually said to me "why do you want a letter so bad? I call you like once or more a week". :gaah he's kinda clueless sometimes.

i know right?!? db sent me a little backpack from kuwait that says operation iraqi freedom on it and has a US and iraqi flag on it, its really cute! and know it costed him more to send it than what it cost him, but flowers and candy sounds nice, and probably isnt too too expensive, depending on what they order! but im sure hes been busy and hasnt really thought much about sending things to me!

ive been soo busy lately and i forgot that my bday is 2 weeks from today...christmas eve...yea it sucks! but db hasnt said anything about christmas or my bday so im hoping he will send something nice then!?!?


i'm sure he'll send you something!!! if not , :club send him my way!!!

hmmm :dunno i dont think i "did" anything to get him to do it. But i guess maybe i made a big deal about it when he sent me flowers a few months before he left, just for no reason. I gushed abot how much i loved it and how great hewas for that... i think (now this might be the counselor in me talking) it reinforced him to do that more often, cause he got all that "praise". hahah sounds silly... but thats the whole basis of cognitive behavioral therapy, that people dont do ANYTHING without it having some kind of reinforcement for them. But to get hm to do it the 1st time, maybe you could just be like "ohh this lady at my work got flowers delivered, everyone was saying they were jealous!" :P
:truesign

how did you ever get him to agree to that deal?;)

HE thought it up! I guess he also thought that he'd email me every day (he was the highest ranking IT on the boat) and wouldnt have to give me the money lol I (L) my Coach purses!

ummm im patiently waiting for something too...anything!!!! hes making me go on a scavenger hunt next weekend in nyc for my christmas present...so thats nice and im excited for that...but yea sometimes it would be nice if things could be recipricated...

I want to ask the same question too. How do you make your man send you something romantic? :dunno I don't care if it is flower or candy or something only cost a few dollers, but the thought of doing it counts, right?

My guy called me on my birthday and told me the sweetest thing, but I was a little bit disappointed that I didn't get flower or card. :sigh After sending him packages and letters, I expected a little bit more than a phone call:depressed

I told him that I want a christmas card for christmas, so hopefully he is sending me one soon. :pray

mainly for all you ladies who get flowers, candy, gifts, etc. from your deployed men.... How the heck did you get them to do that?!?!?

its so sweet when you all post pix of what you receive, and it even puts a smile on MY face reading about it!

but DB is so clueless sometimes with that stuff. :mumble I feel like he would NEVER think to do that for me :(

I love to send him everything - letters, emails, packages - but i guess it would just be really nice to have it be reciprocated :shrug


girl, my DH is so clueless too......

this is the ring that db gave me a few weeks before he left....i dont know why the picture came out so orangish, but you get the idea! and now that i look i did a pretty good job doing my nails! :hehe
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ok i just had to put one more up of my dog in her winter apparel. im done now i promise!:giggle


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ummm im patiently waiting for something too...anything!!!! hes making me go on a scavenger hunt next weekend in nyc for my christmas present...so thats nice and im excited for that...but yea sometimes it would be nice if things could be recipricated...

aww thats a cute idea!! did he think of that???
and hold the phone...NYC?!?!?!? hellooooooooo we should meet up!!!! :jump4joy

I never thought my husband had it in him..seriously...he is the sweetest man I know but I never thought he would think to do it. I honestly give the mad props to his MSTR SRGNT I know that they talk alot and he goes to him for advice and such. He is married with kids and what not...but hey maybe I am wrong maybe he just thought of it himself...maybe be like Awww this girl got pretty flowers on SOS thats so cool
Kinda drop a hint lol

aww thats a cute idea!! did he think of that???
and hold the phone...NYC?!?!?!? hellooooooooo we should meet up!!!! :jump4joy

yea im going there next saturday night!!!!! and well during the day too....my sister lives in astoria!!!!! let me kow what you are doing next weekend!! oh and ps she used to live in brooklyn

girl, my DH is so clueless too......

DB too :no

DH is a very giving guy just naturally...i was kinda wow-ed when I first met him, but he says that he thinks that every girl should get spoiled and thats just how he is:) Sooo i guess i got lucky, When he's in the states he usually gets flowers and stuff, but when he's in Iraq he'll send flowers like for SPECIAL stuff, and letters and videos pretty often...

but don't give me credit for anything, because DH just does it on his own:)

I got flowers today and felt really special. I was really surprised and happy. :D I couldn't believe he did that from Iraq and I didn't even have to drop a hint. Then I got home and found out why :arg

I got to thank him and ask him WHY all in the same message.

HA! I was lucky if he gave me an email or a call when he was gone lol BUT the days I heard nothing I got $20 b/c he was stupid enough to make that deal... if I didnt hear from him for 24hrs I got $20. Lets just say the last patrol I bought 2 Coach purses lol

ohhh ur giving me ideas!

DF will fall for it...

my future new possessions thank u.

Everytime they ported John would buy Breanna and I stuff and send it. Other than that though he didn't send anything.

he can't read your mind... try to be more forward about it.

or look at www.savemyass.com :giggle

I got to thank him and ask him WHY all in the same message.

what was the reason?

mainly for all you ladies who get flowers, candy, gifts, etc. from your deployed men.... How the heck did you get them to do that?!?!?

its so sweet when you all post pix of what you receive, and it even puts a smile on MY face reading about it!

but DB is so clueless sometimes with that stuff. :mumble I feel like he would NEVER think to do that for me :(

I love to send him everything - letters, emails, packages - but i guess it would just be really nice to have it be reciprocated :shrug

Good question....

mine is so clueless too. it isn't that he WOULDN'T do it, just that it never crosses his mind to do it in the first place.

:sigh

mainly for all you ladies who get flowers, candy, gifts, etc. from your deployed men.... How the heck did you get them to do that?!?!?

its so sweet when you all post pix of what you receive, and it even puts a smile on MY face reading about it!

but DB is so clueless sometimes with that stuff. :mumble I feel like he would NEVER think to do that for me :(

I love to send him everything - letters, emails, packages - but i guess it would just be really nice to have it be reciprocated :shrug


:depressed yeah I have yet to receive a letter or anything in the mail....but yet his friends(my friends too) have sent me letters already.....MULTIPLE ones.

randomly getting a letter in the mail would make my day and I've told him that....





SO WHERE'S MY LETTER! It's not like he doesn't have time g'z

what was the reason?

You'd have to read my post in general. I was so mad at him. Turns out I was getting buttered up before I was going to get mad. It has to do with myspace and his mother. I hate myspace sometimes. I'm sure he meant the flowers to be sweet but he thought of it because he knew he was going to be in trouble I think. Now I'm over it and just enjoying the flowers. Hopefully next time they come for no reason except I Love You!!!

mainly for all you ladies who get flowers, candy, gifts, etc. from your deployed men.... How the heck did you get them to do that?!?!?

its so sweet when you all post pix of what you receive, and it even puts a smile on MY face reading about it!

but DB is so clueless sometimes with that stuff. :mumble I feel like he would NEVER think to do that for me :(

I love to send him everything - letters, emails, packages - but i guess it would just be really nice to have it be reciprocated :shrug

My sweetie isn't the most demonstrative person in the world- in 4 years together he has given me exactly 2 cards. It took almost a year after he first said it for him to get used to telling me he loved me. (He is Japanese and there is a cultural thing here- we got over it). BUT... Before he left he odered a small silver dogtag for me from the jewler down the street. He had PB&J engraved on it. Why is this special??:confuzzle
Because when we had been dating for about a month I gave him a card that said that we belong together like peanut butter and jelly- "you're sweet and I'm stuck on you". Over the years he has called me peanut butter a few times and I have called him jelly a few times- not every day and not during the last year or so. When I got the call to go pick up this jewelry a few days after he had left on deployment and I read it my heart just ached...I will always treasure this little tag with PB&J engraved on it... even more than diamonds.:tears(L)

uh.....I had to BEG him to send me 1 letter.....as my christmas present! He's at like the worst camp ever, he can't use his debit or credit cards and he doesn't have internet. so....i can pretty much not expect to get flowers or anything like that. so i begged for a letter. he actually said to me "why do you want a letter so bad? I call you like once or more a week". :gaah he's kinda clueless sometimes.

meeee too. I sent DB self addressed stamped envelopes (even though I know they get stamps for free I knew he wouldn't take the time to do that) and he told me that he'll send them home empty if I really want mail that bad. :(

I thought DB would never do it but then one day I got flowers randomly and I made such a big deal out of it...but in all honestly I made up a little story about someone getting flowers like 2 weeks before and I think that may have dropped some hints :teehee

he sent me flowers for valentines.
sent me a camera for my b-day.
sent me a gift card to go to the spa for sweetest day.
he's sent a few letters... but mostly because i kept telling him i wanted to feel an army wife in the old days, haha!
oh and one time he sent me pizza because i kept crying about how bad i wanted some. :love him:


most of the time i just straight up tell him i want something though. he doesn't always come through... but he knows what i would like somewhere in the back of that head.

he sent me flowers for valentines.
sent me a camera for my b-day.
sent me a gift card to go to the spa for sweetest day.
he's sent a few letters... but mostly because i kept telling him i wanted to feel an army wife in the old days, haha!
oh and one time he sent me pizza because i kept crying about how bad i wanted some. :love him:


most of the time i just straight up tell him i want something though. he doesn't always come through... but he knows what i would like somewhere in the back of that head.


damn! i wouldn't mind if DB was like that while he's over there ;)

My DH does always get me something to do with dolphins every deployment, but I usually have to wait untill homecoming to get those things. I really iwsh he would send me flowers. I got really hurt and upset on my anniversary(started a thread) because of it .. I know he is just so clueless but I have dropped all the hints ect, but I think after my nasty email he hopefuly got the messsge. maybe I will get something soon. I came out and told him that I have sent him like 6 packages already and it wouold be nice to feel that important to him like he is to us.????
we will see!!


that is of course if the USPS would get busy.... actually the joint military mail commands need to get on the ball.

well I think the whole point is that if we put aside a few men...the rest are all alike and we are not alone lol

Well over the weekend this subject came up at the house and i asked my dh why he doesnt buy me flowers anymore only when hes deployed.. and one of the other guys said " we only do the mushy stuff when we are deployed to make sure nobodys movin in while we're gone" LMFAO. thats about right isnt it! My dh stood there with a half ass smirk...

i dont know what i id to make him send me anything, but he seems to know when i am having a bad day....
I have recieved roses at my work from him, and he had a pizza delivered to my house saturday..... The poor pizza guys was clueless to why i started to cry.....

During both deployments overseas I got roses on my bday and any other special day.. Since he can't be with me, he's great about sending flowers and a mushy message with them.


He came that way, I don't know what to tell you about how to get your man to do the same... sorry..

I have rec'd one D thing, not even a handwritten note.

i dont know what i id to make him send me anything, but he seems to know when i am having a bad day....
I have recieved roses at my work from him, and he had a pizza delivered to my house saturday..... The poor pizza guys was clueless to why i started to cry.....

omg that is fricken cute!!!!:yahoo

Well over the weekend this subject came up at the house and i asked my dh why he doesnt buy me flowers anymore only when hes deployed.. and one of the other guys said " we only do the mushy stuff when we are deployed to make sure nobodys movin in while we're gone" LMFAO. thats about right isnt it! My dh stood there with a half ass smirk...


well maybe that means my DH is secure that I am not going anywhere and nobody is moving in.. I know he loves me and I guess that is all that matters in the end. RIGHT?
after all we have been together since '91 and married since '96....
but this reply was super funny, atleast I laughed today.

My DH is on subs so if they send or do anything like this they have to do it before they leave. It can be hard sometimes. From our first patrol together he has always sent me a Hallmark gushy lovie card once a week. He gets them all together and writes mushy stuff in them, seals them up and sends them to my mom to send me once a week (he puts to be sent dates on them too for her.) It's has a double purpose too. We can't say over the phone when they go on patrol so when my mom gets the cards, she knows too.
It seems to work for us.

Now, how to get one to do this? Mine has always just done it. If he hadn't, I think I would have a sit down with him and let him know how important these things are to me. Marriage is hard enough, then throw deployments in there.....how the heck could it get harder? Marriage or being a SO is a give and take. A SO or DH or DW that doesn't do these types of things may just not realize how much they might mean to you. You need to talk to him/her. Let them know that when they are away these little things mean the world.

i didn't "do" anything. He sends me flowers about every two weeks and he was sending chocolate covered strawberries but for the sake of my thighs I asked him not to. He has his laptop so he just orders it online. To be honest I would be really stoked if he sent me a card hand written from him but that just aint gonna happen. I think his Exwife was a nut so she would ride him if he didn't send her stuff.

Some men just don't think like that. You can always say something like a friend of yours got flowers delivered to her at work and they were so pretty, you know just plant the seed and hopefully he will get a clue LOL but don't be disappointed if he doesn't, he is a man afterall

i didn't "do" anything. He sends me flowers about every two weeks and he was sending chocolate covered strawberries but for the sake of my thighs I asked him not to. He has his laptop so he just orders it online. To be honest I would be really stoked if he sent me a card hand written from him but that just aint gonna happen. I think his Exwife was a nut so she would ride him if he didn't send her stuff.

Some men just don't think like that. You can always say something like a friend of yours got flowers delivered to her at work and they were so pretty, you know just plant the seed and hopefully he will get a clue LOL but don't be disappointed if he doesn't, he is a man afterall

:giggle so true!

ugh i just hate these damn emotions running my life...

My db has always just done stuff like that. I've never had to "train" him :giggle