Its been 2 weeks since he didn't call me after our last conversation...:eek:sigh I wonder every day what happened that his whole attitude just changed! On Thanksgiving day he called me, said that he really missed me and loved me. 2 days later he texted me from his friend's phone, saying basically the same thing. I was soooo happy. Then few days after thanksgiving it changed, he said that he is not sure we should say I LOVE YOU since we didn't know each other that well before he left.:bringit:bringit

Why is he telling me that almost 5 months into this deployment??:grumpy:suspect

I said, ok fine. I said that as long as he feels the same way about me like he did in the beginning it was fine. He said he did. So, I really thought that we were fine...BUT!!

He didn't call me since than!! 2 FUCK*NG WEEKS!!!:vent:vent:vent:vent

He always called at least once a week.

He was on myspace 3 x, talked to his sister and some guy friends, but not me!!:depressed:wowsers

He ALWAYS called or written me first...

It looks like he is ignoring me...:tears:irked:irked

I HAVE NO IDEA, WHAT IS HAPPENING...

When we talked last he said that he got orders that they will deploy again later on, but could that change his behavior sooo much??

WTF?? Right now I don't know what to do...:vent:twisted:grumpy

When we talked on the phone the last I let him know that I'm here for him but I can't do it like this....being ignored or whatever..I'm giving him few more days....and then I don't know...:tears:tears

boys are so retarded sometimes. GAHH!!! I hate situations like this cause I know how it is making you feel!! I've been there with my ex and NO ONE deserves to be treated like that. I really hope he calls girlie and that you get all of this straightened out cause you do not deserve to be hanging in limbo. He needs to tell you whats up ASAP or you need to bounce and get back on the man hunt!! :hugehug I hope things work out for the best girlie! PM me if you wanna talk :hugs

boys are so retarded sometimes. GAHH!!! I hate situations like this cause I know how it is making you feel!! I've been there with my ex and NO ONE deserves to be treated like that. I really hope he calls girlie and that you get all of this straightened out cause you do not deserve to be hanging in limbo. He needs to tell you whats up ASAP or you need to bounce and get back on the man hunt!! :hugehug I hope things work out for the best girlie! PM me if you wanna talk :hugs

:agree I will keep you in my thoughts. :hugehug Stupid boys can be so confusing :duh

Please remember that he is going through things over there that you can not even begin to imagine. He doesn't know how he feels about anything from one day to the next. While I am sure that he loves you - something may have happened that really shook him up and he needs some space to deal with it.

I won't go into the graphic details of the things that my husband told me when he returned from his first tour. I can so totally understand why he has nightmares at night and I certainly don't know if I would still be sane if some of those things had happened to me. And I know that he didn't tell me the worst of it.

Give him time. Give him space. Send him a nice letter about the boring doings of daily life. Sign it with love. Let him know that you are here when he is ready.

I hope things get better for you, Im keeping you in my thoughts!!

I hope he calls soon

Am I missing something or is this post like dejavue? I am sure I read this before just in a different format.

I think it may be time to say Bye Bye

:hugs

:grumpy F*in men sometimes... well, if he wont call, then i'd say you have to use your only other option, email/myspae message (since hes checkd those). Just write a short one saying "you know, this isnt okay and you need to tell me whats going on, you cannot just leave me hanging."

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sometimes behavior during deployment defies logic. You could always email him one last time and if he doesn't respond then maybe it is time to throw in the towel. You can only do so much.

Please remember that he is going through things over there that you can not even begin to imagine. He doesn't know how he feels about anything from one day to the next. While I am sure that he loves you - something may have happened that really shook him up and he needs some space to deal with it.

I won't go into the graphic details of the things that my husband told me when he returned from his first tour. I can so totally understand why he has nightmares at night and I certainly don't know if I would still be sane if some of those things had happened to me. And I know that he didn't tell me the worst of it.

Give him time. Give him space. Send him a nice letter about the boring doings of daily life. Sign it with love. Let him know that you are here when he is ready.


:agree and I will keep it in my prayers that everything works out, my Dh of 11 years now did this same crap to me when he was in boot camp, only I did not get phone call, I got it in a letter.... and come to find out he went thru some pretty bad shit there and saw some pretty awful stuff.:bigsadhug

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sometimes behavior during deployment defies logic. You could always email him one last time and if he doesn't respond then maybe it is time to throw in the towel. You can only do so much.

Yep, I agree. I hope it all works out though.:hugehug