Well he called last night to tell me congrats on being done with my last final paper and i could tell he sounded a little "blah". He normally is somewhat up beat and excited sounding to talk to me and gushing he misses me and whatnot. Hs goes on to say that "We had a mishap a few nights ago, a crew cheif in one of our birds fell out when it landed somehow and was hooked under the helo and dragged for like 20 feet. He was life flighted to Germany and i guess in stable condition, but it really tore him up bad." :wowsers I just was like "wow oh my gosh that is terrible, i really hope he's alright" and he was like "yea, its a dangerous business...even if we arent being shot at its dangerous, i had 2 friends die in flight training from an accident too... its just alway dangerous...but no more talking about that" :depressed
I dont want to be all "are you alright?" since its clear he doesnt really want to talk about it anymore. Do i just not mention it again and let him "deal" with it on his own? I mean i'm assuming that woudl be the only reason he was acting that way on the phone... :dunno

Hang in there. He is going to go through hard times out there. Be strong for him. He needs it right now. :hug

Ahhh wow hun )-8 As far as talking to him I say just let him deal. They will probably talk to each other about it since they all can relate and Ya know just ask him the usual of how he is and I think that if he wants to respond to talking about it he will. Maybe send him a little something special to put an extra smile on his face

i would just be like normal and if he wants to talk to you about I know my DB just brings it up, but normally it seems they turn to one another and unfortunately it is a reality of what they do my DB lost a man last deployment and another one this one within the first month. He will usually just tell me briefly and I tell him if he wants or needs to talk about it I am here for him, but he usually never brings it up again unless its with the DET and we are toasting.

Im so sorry he had to go through that!!! My DH watched his best friend fall off a jet and land on his head and now hes paralyzed. It took him almost a year to get over it. He would have nightmares about it too! The only thing I could do was be there for him when he needed me! Just let him know you love him and be strong for him. The emotions hes going to go through are going to be hard for him!!! :hugs

:hugs to both of you.

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i wouldn't pry, but i would still ask how he's doing - let him elaborate if he wants.

Stay open & supportive :hugs

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