Ok, so it's finals week, and DF's birthday, and Christmas coming up...

So I haven't sent a package in over a week, and I feel like a bad fiance. I also didn't really get him anything special for Christmas or birthday because I don't have the money and I feel like I send him stuff all the time! I seriously have sent at least one if not two or three packages a week since he has gone over there and I'm sure I've spent over a thousand dollars on stuff...not just food, but I send video games, dvds, books, magazines, games, etc.

I've been trying to figure out something to send that would be more special, but I just don't have the time, money, energy, etc to do it.

Last night DF asks what I sent him for his birthday and I said nothing and he was like, I know you did...BUT I DIDN'T!!! He thinks I'm lying to surprise him, so now I feel really bad... :no

Send him FOOD!!!! Send him cookies, fudge, something good!!!!!! Guys always miss the homemade goodies!!!

if you're a bad fiance, i am a HORRIBLE one!! :lmao

honestly, my DF doesn't want much regarding care packages, he says it's not worth the money and he's brutally honest. This is also our fourth deployment though and everyone is different!

I did send him a little Christmas/new years box but it was because i needed to send him some holiday cheer!! I've sent him magazines and cards etc as well. I try to take the creative route to save $$.

As for his birthday, maybe you can do something a little less materialistic. Maybe make him a scrapbook of pictures of you guys, or maybe "a day in my life without you". I don't know how long you've been together but you could write memories about his past birthdays together etc. I would do something silly like that, but thats just me. It's thoughtful and doesn't cost a lot.

For christmas i went to the dollar store and the dollar section of target. I got a little tree, stocking and little stocking goodies, i did a lot of little cheap things, that way he can throw them away and no worry about lugging them home but it also brought him some christmas cheer.

I know it's tough with the end of the semester (i'm right there with you and i am also graduating!) but take a day to yourself to relax!

You are not a bad fiance. Explain you haven't had the time.

Forgot to say you're not a bad fiance at all. :D

Your not a bad finance, sometimes life just happens. :)

if you're a bad fiance, i am a HORRIBLE one!! :lmao

honestly, my DF doesn't want much regarding care packages, he says it's not worth the money and he's brutally honest. This is also our fourth deployment though and everyone is different!

I did send him a little Christmas/new years box but it was because i needed to send him some holiday cheer!! I've sent him magazines and cards etc as well. I try to take the creative route to save $$.

As for his birthday, maybe you can do something a little less materialistic. Maybe make him a scrapbook of pictures of you guys, or maybe "a day in my life without you". I don't know how long you've been together but you could write memories about his past birthdays together etc. I would do something silly like that, but thats just me. It's thoughtful and doesn't cost a lot.

For christmas i went to the dollar store and the dollar section of target. I got a little tree, stocking and little stocking goodies, i did a lot of little cheap things, that way he can throw them away and no worry about lugging them home but it also brought him some christmas cheer.

I know it's tough with the end of the semester (i'm right there with you and i am also graduating!) but take a day to yourself to relax!

congrats on surviving your 4th deployment!!! we have only been together a short time, so we're missing all of our firsts together...both our birthdays, thanksgiving, christmas, new years, etc...boo to that...

i like the "day in my life" idea! :) oh, and i love target dollar spot to get small stuff to send him! :)

I sent a mini movie of me just doing normal stuff then hanging with friends and everyone said something. There is a song by Rodger Clyne that we both like and in it he is talking about his love and he paid full price for her name on agrain of rice. so I ordered one with his name on it and are sending it to him for Vday with a small photobook of us. He doesn't really want stuff so mostly games and movies for general. A new fluffy towl, nice running socks.

good luck

Your not a bad fiance!! I love the idea about personal "stuff" I know that my DBs favorite gift I ever gave him didn;t cost me very much just time. When he was going to training I bought journal like notebook and stickers. I wrote one message for everyother day of his training. It was a sweet, funny. sexy kind of message. I wrote it on the "inside pages" so that when I used a sticker to put two pages together he couldn't read the message. He opened one every other day. I put in some fun little inexpensive things. A pair of panties and a coupon for a lap dance (he still has them even in Iraq), an Itune's gift card with a list of songs that I wanted him to download that reminded me of him, a starbucks card (he was here in the states), a few photographs...then for our one year "anniversary" I made a pillow case with images of everything we would do when he gets home (iron on paper I got at Michael's just make sure you print it as a mirror image so it irons on forward)

Just a couple ideas....I got DB a GIANT FLUFFY beth sheet its sooooooo HUGE for christmas along with a memory foam matress topper not too exciting but stuff that will hopefully add some comfort to his life in "the box"

you're nt bad at all! you set a very high precedent for yourself, a couple packages every week :wowsers. i must be terrible, i've only sent like 2 big ones and cards/letters in between.

You are definately not a bad fiance.I would never send that many packages as you have and I even have the money to.So dont feel bad that you are taking a break.I only send my boyfriend a package every 3 months and he is fine with that.He doesnt even want me sending those.Definately send him something that you have made or something that isnt costly if you really want to send him something.

You're not a bad fiance at all. If I were you I would be honest. Tell him that you wanted to get him something special, but didn't have the time and couldn't afford anything special enough for him, let him know the thought, hope and wish was still there. Make sure he KNOWS there are not alternative reasons for you not sending him anything...

I don't even want to think about all the money I've spent on carepackage! 15 months worth! ugh But make him some cookies, that was my DF's favorite thing to get....maybe some "special pictures" Santa outfit anyone?! lol

i don't think you are anywhere close to bad. Mu hubby and i just got married when he left and in the almost 3 months he has been away i'm feelin ya on spending a lot of $. But then i found out he packed up his games and dvd player cause he never had time. Now i send him like 6 page letters every other day and a package of food. The only true complaint he has given is the lack of variety in the menu. Cambells soup man! and then of course cookies and chips.