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swrlygrl
12-12-2007, 08:01 PM
ok so I finally heard from him and of course I feel sorta like an ass. I get a text message about 3:45pm my time and it says "Hey Baby how ru? I'm not in XXXX nemore baby. Not in XXXX either. Im safe and everything is ok. Will not be able to talk much. Up all night going sleep. Love U. Tlk soon."

ok now here comes the part where I become a bitch. Ok I never asked if he was ok I sent him a text that told him about the interview this morning. The fucker didn't even mention it. I am normally not the "all about me" type of person but seriously come on ya think that would fly if it were the other way around? And yes I know they have allot going on but he could have said something.

so I responded right away since, my freaking phone is attached to my hip(as all of us do) saying "I am glad your ok and will i be able to talk to you soon" and he doesn't even say anything. no one falls asleep that fast.

so what if he calls i need to be available, like does he sit around waiting to talk to me like I do for him? who knows... ok yes I know he loves me and lives and breathes for me and our future and all that but seriously this is so fucking hard and it is such a huge mental adjustment that sometimes it just hurts and other times (like now) it really just fucking pisses me off.

ok I am done being a tyrant. I will not bring up any of this to him since I know he is already dealing with so much, but I had to get it out and I thank you all for your patience while I ranted :neener

mandyb
12-12-2007, 08:09 PM
:bigsadhug I know what you mean.... they can aknowledge our feelings as we do for them.. I spent all day waiting to get on and chat with him for him to just blow my topic off and go on with his... they just dont think sometimes. It will get better. atleast I keep telling myself that:teehee

=Mrs.AiNokeA=
12-12-2007, 08:13 PM
I'm sorry sweetie maybe he just forgot to bring it up at the time. I know sometimes I get an email from my DH and when I go to write back I forget to say something about some of the things he told me about. :dunno Also sometimes they make them stay up for long ass hours and he very well could have fallen asleep that fast. I know sometimes my DH is so tired he lays his head down and he is out. :giggle I can understand you being upset though. :hugs Maybe just bring it up to him again. ;)

TallBlondie82
12-12-2007, 08:42 PM
i think i kinda know how you feel...i had a VERY important meeting the other day that I was talking to db about for awhile...he forgot to ask and honestly im not mad or anything...but you are right...i think when they are there they have to think about so much stuff thats going on there...that they tend to forget whats going on here with us

I am sorry that he didn't ask, and i would be pissed off too...but when stuff like that happens to me...i try to put myself in their position...sometimes it helps sometimes it makes things worse...but i know that they are very busy...

sorry this post is all over the damn place...and i hope you feel better:hugehug

swrlygrl
12-12-2007, 09:15 PM
I do feel better and heading to the gym to pound it out. I am not going to bring it up because in all honesty I know I am being a silly girl and this is really so minor that it isn't even worth saying something to him about. It well it just irked me and I had to get it out and you guys are the best place for it lol.

tazthis
12-13-2007, 09:40 AM
I hear ya...I think we all feel this once in awhile!!

RunAwayLove
12-13-2007, 09:41 AM
:hugs

Katie
12-13-2007, 12:07 PM
I can understand, DF was unable to call on my first day of classes this semester AND my first at my internship! I was crushed and it's REALLY hard to understand that he would have called if he could have....But I know he's going to make it up to me 100x over once he's home!

tinsygrl
12-13-2007, 03:54 PM
I do feel better and heading to the gym to pound it out. I am not going to bring it up because in all honesty I know I am being a silly girl and this is really so minor that it isn't even worth saying something to him about. It well it just irked me and I had to get it out and you guys are the best place for it lol.

Good idea .... do some extra crunches for me LOL :D I hate them! But seriously it will be a great stress outlet for you!

USNIwife
12-13-2007, 04:09 PM
i think i kinda know how you feel...i had a VERY important meeting the other day that I was talking to db about for awhile...he forgot to ask and honestly im not mad or anything...but you are right...i think when they are there they have to think about so much stuff thats going on there...that they tend to forget whats going on here with us

I am sorry that he didn't ask, and i would be pissed off too...but when stuff like that happens to me...i try to put myself in their position...sometimes it helps sometimes it makes things worse...but i know that they are very busy...

sorry this post is all over the damn place...and i hope you feel better:hugehug
It's happened to me too. Your not alone. Soooo how'd it go is the answer?? :bouquet

swrlygrl
12-13-2007, 06:16 PM
The interview, I kicked Ass. At the gym, I kicked Ass....I am one ass kicker. He and I spoke last night finally and man o man was it hard to bite my tongue but I did and it's all gravey LOL.

I have decided that whenever I am feeling hmm how shall I say this "wacky" I think I will write it here first so I don't send something to him that I will regret later.

Thank you for asking though. They aren't making any decisions for 2 WEEKS! but to be honest I am not sure I am interested, but we shall see....