Seriously...it hasn't been that long of a separation compared to other wives, but this is our first deployment and i HATE it. I know he is over there fighting with the rest of the great guys, but is it wrong for me to feel like we should shove this "war" up their asses and bring our men home? I know the men feel pride in serving their country, they wouldn't have been inspired to sign up in the first place, but i just want my hubby home!!! We got married the month he left and i found out we were pregnant! Yah now it's a race to see who gets here first. I just wish that the rest of the world could take care of itself and our men come home, is it wrong for me to think this?

No. It isn't wrong to feel like that.

It isn't wrong for you to think that at all. You just have to realize that even though you feel that way you still have to be supportive. You never have to support war, you just have to support soldiers who are simply doing their job. I am very anti-war and this deployment has not helped in the least but DB is happy, he enjoys what he does, it is his job. No one ever said it would be easy :hugs

I'm in the same boat. I am anti-war, but I wouldn't dream of disowning the troops. My father and mother are retired Navy, and DB and my brother are Army. Sometimes it feels like I want to scream at the Joint Chiefs and tell them to go to Hell, but I know our guys are needing us.

I think your feelings are normal...:hugs

I think your feelings are normal...:hugs

ITA!!! I feel the same way sometimes!

No. It isn't wrong to feel like that.

I agree, you are entitle to have whatever kind of feelings you want. And I completely understand why you would feel that way.

I couldn't agree more. I hope for DH to come home everyday. I keep thinking I will just come home from work and *surprise* there he will be. I think thoughts that I should probably go to hell for in wanting DH home so bad.

these are normal feelings. its weird because DF feels the same way too, always has. but we all do it because we love our men, and our friends.

I get where you are coming from and we all want our SO home, I do not think it is wrong of you but I personally can not call myself anti-war after 9-11. That day changed our country. I believe in what we are all fighting for and I beleive in peace and would love to see it happen but I know it never will. I miss my DH so badly but he knew and told me when we were still in HS, (over 10 years ago) that he wanted to join the military to make a difference and that means alot to me, even if it does mean a war, that is what he prepared himself for.
However, I understand why we still need men over there I just do not understand why so many and why the hell the rotations are so long. I hope that your DH makes it back before the baby comes. I found out I was preg 9/10/01 and DH left right away on 9/11
and made it home just in time. then turned around and went back out a year later. it happens.. you will be ok, and you will see that it makes us all stronger, we are all here for you, the first is never easy and most of the ones after are not either.:bigsadhug

Not wrong at all....I am right there with you. I hate this stupid war but I will always support our military.

Personally, I HATE the military SO lifestyle and hope to God mine is getting out soon b/c this just sucks!!!!!!!!!!

Those are normal feelings :hugs But it would do you good to try to think more positive. Being angry and all that business is very draining, and won't do you, your hubby, or the little bun you have in the oven much good. We're here whenever you need to vent though! :hugehug :hang

You are totally normally op!!! I promise!! I personally am not against the war. But there are days where I am just like F this bring them home! I think it's a natural and normal reaction :)
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You are not alone by any means. I hate this war & him being away from us, but when I see the pics of our guys w/ the local kids & think what it would be like for my children to live in an area like that, I understand the positive that can come out of us being there. I have to find something positive to explain this craziness. Hugs to you & him & the baby too.

No, you are not wrong to feel that way. I feel the same way.... why do I have to give up? What about my needs? I don't want to go though 9 months of pregnancy by myself. I don't want to raise my child by myself. I want my BF/husband to be there for me whenever I need him. How much do we have to give up for this country?

NO! It is not wrong to feel that way. You are perfectly normal. I struggled with the same thing while Adam was in. Nothing could make me feel good about the war, especially when it became clear that it had nothing to do with 9/11 or WMD's. It was VERY hard for me to accept it all. But, that's what I had a support network of friends for. Even if we disagreed on the war, we all agreed that deployments sucked ass and tried to keep each other busy.

Good luck to you. :hugs

Seriously...it hasn't been that long of a separation compared to other wives, but this is our first deployment and i HATE it. I know he is over there fighting with the rest of the great guys, but is it wrong for me to feel like we should shove this "war" up their asses and bring our men home? I know the men feel pride in serving their country, they wouldn't have been inspired to sign up in the first place, but i just want my hubby home!!! We got married the month he left and i found out we were pregnant! Yah now it's a race to see who gets here first. I just wish that the rest of the world could take care of itself and our men come home, is it wrong for me to think this?

i agree with you, hun. :hugs

No, I don't think that you are wrong for feeling this. I have often said the same thing. There are alot of issues going on here on the homefront that I think are seriously being overlooked, due to Bush's hidden agenda or fantasy crusade. I just wish the higher-ups could get their shit together, bring our guys home and deal with whats going on here. Hope I didn't offend anyone...

thanks for the comforting words. I've been hounded by some people i work with after making a somewhat similar comment. It's like they don't get it though. Atleast everyone here can relate! :smitten

I dont think its wrong of you to feel that way...actually, its pretty stinkin' normal.

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I think your feelings are quite normal. Of course you want your husband home. We all do. Just try and seek support from other who are going through it or have gone through it.
Hang in there and know you have people who care.