well i'm fairly new to the site, so i will lay out the story and hopefully get some advice along the way!!
My DH and i said our "I do's" 3 weeks before he left for Iraq. We were planning on waiting until he returned, but found out we were going to have a baby. so it put a rush delivery on a wedding (which was kinda cute in itself) but no white dress and walking down the isle. We got BAH set up and a good plan while he was gone.
I am having my first baby and that sucks with the stretching and nausea. But these added hormones to already missing him and spending not only the holidays, but our 4 year anniversary apart makes the whole world crash down! Well my DH surprised me by reading one of those pregnancy books while over there :smitten and i send belly shots and pictures of the baby room.
I'm 5 months now and we are so relieved and happy about having a boy! But there are times i just break down for no reason other than seeing a couple holding hands on the mall while looking at each other oblivious of the world around them. I stay positive for the most part, but here is my fear. Who will come home first... my husband or the baby?
I am hoping the red cross will help me get him home, since he should be back sometime between April and May i hope i might have a good shot at it. I'm due April 28th... Anyone have experience in this? Because lets say he can come home...will he have to go back for like a week if his unit is still there? he has a lot of leave days built up if it helps...

I just asked my husband about your concerns and this is what he told me. It is up to his command really if they will let him go home but since it is almost the end of his deployment he will more than likely be in debriefing which he said happens around one or two weeks before he is to come home. I hope this helps. It also depends on what his unit is doing at the time. :dunno

I was pregnant while my husband was gone (I found out 3 days after he left). If you ever need to talk, I'm here (and I'm not that far away from you either, my husband is at Cherry Point). I'm not sure about the leave thing, but he should definitely talk to his command about it.

I just asked my husband about your concerns and this is what he told me. It is up to his command really if they will let him go home but since it is almost the end of his deployment he will more than likely be in debriefing which he said happens around one or two weeks before he is to come home. I hope this helps. It also depends on what his unit is doing at the time. :dunno


that little bit helps. the red cross just said i can take action 45 days before our due date...i'm just keeping my fingers crossed!!

I am in a similar situation as you. I am due the day after you, also our first and a boy, and my husband isn't due home until June 1st.

I already pretty much know there is no hope of him coming home, since he is in the Navy and on a ship. He MAY be able to get home about 10-14 days earlier as they send some back to prepare for the arrival of the rest of the squadron, but it is a long shot and I highly doubt the baby will be THAT late. I honestly didn't even know that the Red Cross could get involved in pregnancies. I just thought it wasn't possible. I hope with your particular situation, with him already home around the same time, it works out for you! Fingers crossed for you!

I feel ya' too on the horomones. I am usually not emotional at all, but I sure am this deployment.

I am in a similar situation as you. I am due the day after you, also our first and a boy, and my husband isn't due home until June 1st.

I already pretty much know there is no hope of him coming home, since he is in the Navy and on a ship. He MAY be able to get home about 10-14 days earlier as they send some back to prepare for the arrival of the rest of the squadron, but it is a long shot and I highly doubt the baby will be THAT late. I honestly didn't even know that the Red Cross could get involved in pregnancies. I just thought it wasn't possible. I hope with your particular situation, with him already home around the same time, it works out for you! Fingers crossed for you!

I feel ya' too on the horomones. I am usually not emotional at all, but I sure am this deployment.


well congrats on your pregnancy. lol it's funny because my birthday is April 30...yah looks like i will spend it in a hospital this year. But there are so many possibilities in the very near future, so many different things that could happen. It's the small hope i have for the perfect possibility that keeps a smile on my face. Even though my motto is "expect the worst so only the best can happen, even if it doesn't atleast you were prepared for it". It's helped some, but with this i want it so bad, and that man over there screws up my thinking so bad with his charm and love that things are a little unpredictable with him!!