so me and tom had our first deployment preparation talk. it was soo wierd. he told me for sure that he's leaving yesterday because they're already making railroad plans to ship out their stuff by the end of january. it was so wierd, it was like i knew it was going to happen sooner or later but when he told me for sure over the phone, it hit me like a brick. i wanted to break down but i was at work so i had to keep my composure. i then started thinking about God forbid if anything happens, and i told him.. and he was like "well, you just live your life regularly" i mean isn't that wierd to hear that? i immediately hung up with him and rushed to the bathroom. only 2-3 more months, i know it's going to fly by fast.. but i guess.. the faster he goes, the sooner he'll be back

:sigh

only 2-3 more months, i know it's going to fly by fast.. but i guess.. the faster he goes, the sooner he'll be back

:sigh


just enjoy the time you have left before he leaves.

i remember feeling so anxious during the last week before my db left that i wanted him to leave already :depressed ...like you, i figure, the sooner he's gone, the sooner he'll come back

:hugs

just enjoy the time you have left before he leaves.

i remember feeling so anxious during the last week before my db left that i wanted him to leave already :depressed ...like you, i figure, the sooner he's gone, the sooner he'll come back


yep me too...now that he is gone i feel a little less stressed...but its taken over by the fact that he is deployed now

the waiting part is the worst...you just have so many questions about will he be ok? what will he be doing? what will the communication part be like? but once he leaves and after the first week hes gone...it gets SO much better

I remember when db left, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders...now i know that sounds horrible, but it wasn't that I was hapy he left, i was just glad that the waiting part was over...now i can concentrate on him being there and the countdown to begin...

you will get through it tho, keep trucking a long...if you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask!

the waiting part is the worst...you just have so many questions about will he be ok? what will he be doing? what will the communication part be like? but once he leaves and after the first week hes gone...it gets SO much better

I remember when db left, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders...now i know that sounds horrible, but it wasn't that I was hapy he left, i was just glad that the waiting part was over...now i can concentrate on him being there and the countdown to begin...


first of all:hugehug: at first the waiting part was like what tallblondie said...this was me:gaah:

now that hes actually over there I feel like I can breath a little easier but theres still some waiting:taptap:
Im just trying not to get like this :insomnia:

Ive already got the countdown going tho! :cp

Waiting for him to leave is the worst part. Once he is gone.... it will get easier!!
We are here for you!!

The ladies are right. The worst part is just waiting around for them to leave. But try to enjoy these months with him. Try not to focus too much on how much time you have left before he leaves.
We are here for you!

Make every moment count (and don't wash all his laundry before he ships out - you'll understand later). I turned super clingy once he got his orders. I could tell I annoyed him at times but I just didn't care. The suspense wasn't necessarily worse than the actual deployment, but that part blows 2.

you ladies are the best i swear (L)

Well, you know the military's motto-hurry up and wait. The prep is the worst part because you know what's comming, but it does actually get a bit easier because then you can start thinking about when he gets home and that'll give you something to concentrate on while he's gone. IT still sucks, but it does get easier as you go along. Just try to keep your head up and stay strong about it-I know DH told me that he would be so much more stressed over there if I was hysterical and freaking out the whole time. He said it makes it easier for him to do his job by knowing that I'm here and I miss him and I can still function. Good luck though and IM if you need anything!

I agree with the ladies....waiting is the bad part as well as the first month in, but believe me the time will fly. I recall the time my DB at the time (now DH) was giving me the "deployment talk" and I was thinking that it was so far away and that it would take soooo long. Well that was over 7 months ago and we are almost at 4 months into this deployement. By the time your man gets going I will be half way through my waiting and others will be welcoming their men home. It's a continual cycle....and as long as you know you two have a strong bond then time is just an obstacle. Knock those days down one at a time....and know that everyday you two can go through together is one day that makes you stronger as individuals as well as a couple. :yes :hugehug

so me and tom had our first deployment preparation talk. it was soo wierd. he told me for sure that he's leaving yesterday because they're already making railroad plans to ship out their stuff by the end of january. it was so wierd, it was like i knew it was going to happen sooner or later but when he told me for sure over the phone, it hit me like a brick. i wanted to break down but i was at work so i had to keep my composure. i then started thinking about God forbid if anything happens, and i told him.. and he was like "well, you just live your life regularly" i mean isn't that wierd to hear that? i immediately hung up with him and rushed to the bathroom. only 2-3 more months, i know it's going to fly by fast.. but i guess.. the faster he goes, the sooner he'll be back

:sigh

i remember this talk....and i still didnt want to believe it! he told me about how he had to pack up everything because they were sending out their stuff by train also...he was in georgia, i was in ohio we made efforts to see eachother and the 2-3 months before he left we saw eachother almost every weekend...but make the time you have with him the best of it! and you're right the sooner he goes, the sooner he gets back..thats what DB always told me!

good luck!!