My boyfriend has just joined the Army and is about to go to MEPS for whatnot around the first of January... He is going to bootcamp the end of Feb. I dont know much about bootcamp... Can someone explain to me somewhat about it... Does he actually get letters that I send... can we talk on the phone??? Im having such a hard time... My brother was killed In Iraq in 04 and I promised myself that I wouldnt date a military man because of how hurt I was with my brother... but when the love of my life told me he wanted to go there was nothing to do but support him. Im so worried... He is going to be an MP... its always been his dream to be a cop... so this will help I know.. Im just so worried... I really need some girls who can talk to me and be a friend for the next little while. We are getting engaged before he goes... thats one thing we promised each other. Help!!!
Keri

Oh girl, I am so sorry. You must be so scared but I applaud you for supporting him and his dreams despite your fear. Just keep hopeful that he will always be safe. I'm here if you ever need to chat. I lost my sister and niece a few months ago so we have that in common, unfortunately. Anyway take care!

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My DH enlisted in May 2006 and spent a lovely 6 months in Missouri. He's an MP. Yes, he'll actually get your letters. If you can, write him one every day (I started the day he left and by the time I got his address, there were almost 4 weeks worth:hehe). DH said most enlistees started out strong with receiving letters, but they trickled off for most of them. He will get chances to call you also. At some point, he may even get his cell phone, but don't hope for it. PM me if you need someone to talk to. We're facing our first deployment very shortly.

well, my DH left for Basic Nov 19th....
He started writing me as soon as he got to reception but i didnt get a return address 4 him for lik 2wks...My hubbi says calling all depends on their drill Sargent. He said if the drill Sargent's kool they should be able to call once a week after the 1st lik 2-3wks...they dont get their cell phones til AIT...And if they get in trouble itll get took away...

hey! My husband just finished boot the very end of November. I can tell you a little bit about what it was like from my perspective. Yes, he will get your letters and he will be able to write but not much. Some places are different than others for some things, like phone priveleges. My husband was only allowed ten minutes to call home every Sunday morning, unless his platoon was in trouble. However, I have heard that it really just depends on your drill sgt.'s mood...lol. I can remember the first three weeks that my husband was gone I kept missing his phone calls. You need to figure out the timing right away if you want to prevent that from ever happening. Another thing that just killed me was hearing his tone of voice. I'm sure that everyone is different but the first couple of times I heard him over the phone, he sounded AWEFUL! It made me very sad but I pulled through. And one more thing that I'm going to say...No matter how sad or depressed you get don't ever let him know it. Always make him believe that you are strong and that you can handle it. I allowed myself to cry on the phone one time and my husband told me that the worse thing was not being able to comfort me. If you keep your head up and if you have to bite your lip the whole time then do it because the best way to encourage him is to make him believe that you are going to make it through. I'm sorry I couldn't help too much but I hope that this little bit of info helped you out a little.

These ladies have given you some great advice. I just wanted to say dont stress over his job because even though they told him he will be an MP doesnt mean he will be. good Luck

Thanks ladies!!! This means so much to me. Me and Darren just picked out my engagement ring and we are setting a date for marriage when he gets back from all of his boot camp and training stuff... I cant wait. I know we will make it through. But thanks it means a lot to have people I can talk to!!!!

oh my goodness...I am sorry for your loss!! I think it is very noble of you to support your DB and his decision!!! I don't know anything about army my DB is Navy!! Good luck! and you have definitly come to the right place for support!

My boyfriend has just joined the Army and is about to go to MEPS for whatnot around the first of January... He is going to bootcamp the end of Feb. I dont know much about bootcamp... Can someone explain to me somewhat about it... Does he actually get letters that I send... can we talk on the phone??? Im having such a hard time... My brother was killed In Iraq in 04 and I promised myself that I wouldnt date a military man because of how hurt I was with my brother... but when the love of my life told me he wanted to go there was nothing to do but support him. Im so worried... He is going to be an MP... its always been his dream to be a cop... so this will help I know.. Im just so worried... I really need some girls who can talk to me and be a friend for the next little while. We are getting engaged before he goes... thats one thing we promised each other. Help!!!
Keri

1) For the first 2-3 weeks you will not hear from him. He wont be able to write due to the fact they will be busy for almost 24/7 doing random stuff.

2) He does get letters that you send him. BUT and here is the HUGE but. But if your SO has the same kind of guys my DB had they will with hold letters from hom and you so that it makes your SO stronger. My DB went about 2 weeks without letters because the guys that were training him decided they didn't want to do mail call!

3) You will get to talk on the phone but roughly only about 2 - 5 times while hes at Bootcamp. Due to the fact that they really dont get usage of the phones unless they are good and ect.

Also from what DB told me MEPS is hell on wheels.. but worse. The guys sign ten billion papers, go through a physical, have your records scanned, and wait for 11 hours, and start your military records.

Also when he writes you he may write alot about whats going on, how he feels, how he misses his family, misses you. It won't be all butterflies and roses but as long as you are strong and he is strong then you two will be fine.

Just stay strong, keep your chin up and be understanding. If you need to talk my PM box is always open :)

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i feel your fear. My fiance and i were planning a wedding and now were planning military. It came out of no where he was just tired of his job and feels stagnant career wise so im trying my best to support him but im afraid for me and him. im not sure he understands what war is or what he will feel like after he shoots somebody. he has such a kind, tender heart. i completely understand your fear its probobly worse for you because of your brother? i was never prepared to be as strong as this is going to require me to be but i love him so much and worry and fear arent helping me there just making my tummy hurt.:sigh i guess we will just have to dig deep and find faith or strength that we didnt know we have. i know its hard to talk to friends our friends dont agree and look at me thinking i should somehow change his mind. so if you ever need someone to talk to......

So.. I have new news.... Darren has swore in and is leaving for bootcamp in Missouri on April 16th. He is in the reserves though because his mp spot was filled due to him not being able to get his medical records in order soon enough. But yea Im excited for him!!

Good Old Fort Leonard Wood Basic....

PM me when he gets closer to leaving and I"ll pass along some links. There's soem videos of what they'll be doing and such and most of the BCT companies have webpages, some of them update photos a couple times each cycle and you might get to see him.

Mail to FLW is a little bit slow, but he will get them. Mine's gotten every one, sometimes out of order, sometimes a few days late, but he always gets them. Be glad he's not going until April, he'll get to miss the winter weather

Mine left mid november for boot, he is OSUT, so boot and AIT together....little phone time, maybe 2 min on sunday....write everyday, he will love to hear what is going on with you and be positive, cause if you dont, they will have a very hard time with it...be very supportive, if he asks how you really feel, dont tell him, it will make him crazy and it is harder to back track...keep it to yourself until its over... he will write, but it is important you keep writing to him...little goals, keep busy, it will go by...i am half way thru and thinking about graduation and what to wear....working on weight loss goals right now...

He and I will be in the same boat. I'm going to bootcamp (Navy) then off to school for ma.