that hes gone
:tears:tears:tearsi sent him a message saying i need to know if whatever we had is gone or if you need time:tears:tears:tearsand i got nothing back:tears:tears:sadeyes:sadeyes:giveup
i assuming its over i hate that its ending:pout
if he calls sometime maybe ill be able to figure something out but as of now i dont know i jsut cant imagine not talking for three weeks and not getting any response and him still thinking everything is fine:sadwave:gloomy


When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The waking up is the hardest part
You roll outta bed and down on your knees
And for the moment you can hardly breathe
Wondering was she really here?
Is she standing in my room?
No she's not, 'cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....

When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The giving up is the hardest part
She takes you in with her crying eyes
Then all at once you have to say goodbye
Wondering could you stay my love?
Will you wake up by my side?
No she can't, 'cause she's gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....

Oooooooooohhhhhhhhh

Now do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands?
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my hands?
Do i have to fall asleep with roses in my , roses in my hands?

Would you get them if i did?
No you won't, 'cause you're gone, gone, gone, gone, gone....

When you're dreaming with a broken heart
The waking up is the hardest part

:hugs Kerstin I'm so sorry hun.

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry! You do deserve better though and if he couldn't take the time to realize what a good thing he had with you then that is his loss! Hopefully he'll come to his senses before it's to late but if not, prince charming is out there somewhere waiting for you ;) :hugs

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry! You do deserve better though and if he couldn't take the time to realize what a good thing he had with you then that is his loss! Hopefully he'll come to his senses before it's to late but if not, prince charming is out there somewhere waiting for you ;) :hugs

I agree.

thanks guys i just dont know what else to think how can you read my emails and my texts and just not give a damn i guess thats the answer he must not care maybe things will work once im down there if not i know theres plenty of fish in the sea:P we werent together that long but he was the one i could tell anything to and he would listen to me and make me feel better we were friends for months before we dated so i kind of lsot a friend too i dont get it the weekend i was there last was amazing it was so perfect and now this i just dont know what else to think if he calls in a week or probably even in a month and says he wants to work it out im pretty sure ill say ok but i jsut dont know

im not blaming myself but jsut curious you think theres anything else i could have done...?

I think if you gave it your best effort and you know that you did...then you did all you could. You can't make someone feel for you the way you want them to feel. I'm not saying he doesn't care, but at some point, they have to be responsible for their own actions. Men are funny creatures, and we give them a lot of slack...after a while, they need to meet us half way, or it's just wasted energy. I feel for you girl, but everything will work out the way it's supposed to. Keep your head up...=)

You deserve 1000x better then how he is treating you. :hugehug it's his loss and one day he will wake up and realize it, but you will be long gone with some who truly deserves you!!!

Awww :hugs I'm so sorry sweetie.

No, I don't think there's anything else you could've done. He sounds like my exdb. He probably just has his own shit going on and is too selfish to think about anyone but himself. Men... :gaah I swear.

If you need anything let me know, I'm always here

:hugs

I think if you gave it your best effort and you know that you did...then you did all you could. You can't make someone feel for you the way you want them to feel. I'm not saying he doesn't care, but at some point, they have to be responsible for their own actions. Men are funny creatures, and we give them a lot of slack...after a while, they need to meet us half way, or it's just wasted energy. I feel for you girl, but everything will work out the way it's supposed to. Keep your head up...=)


thanks your right i did do what i can i feel horrible because i know what hes going through and i KNOW he constantly tells me the only thing that makes him feel better is talking to me so why did he stop i dont know but i did what i could now its up to him if he wants to salvage it i cant just sit around moping and trying anymore:S as bad as that sounds

You deserve 1000x better then how he is treating you. :hugehug it's his loss and one day he will wake up and realize it, but you will be long gone with some who truly deserves you!!!



aww you made me tear up lol but in a good way:) thanks rosebud i hope your right:)

Awww :hugs I'm so sorry sweetie.

No, I don't think there's anything else you could've done. He sounds like my exdb. He probably just has his own shit going on and is too selfish to think about anyone but himself. Men... :gaah I swear.

If you need anything let me know, I'm always here

:hugs


thanks Heidi:) i appreciate it i hate beign stupid and crying at work but at least im in a corner with my headphones on and pretending to get some work done:S stupid boys

aww hun, I am so sorry. The good thing is you saw it coming so you had time (not that it makes it easier) to prepare yourself. You know what makes things better?? Cinni buns orrrrr the classic chocolate.

:bigsadhug

aww hun, I am so sorry. The good thing is you saw it coming so you had time (not that it makes it easier) to prepare yourself. You know what makes things better?? Cinni buns orrrrr the classic chocolate.


lol your right actually it woudl have been worse if it was an all of a sudden kind of thing its just crap my exdb and i stopped talking for two weeks and then he text msged me to tell me he coudlnt do it anymore...yah cool :S gah i wish i could have chocolate! whos idea was it for chocolate to have caffeine in it:(

:bigsadhug

thanks Tina

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry :hugs It's his loss not your's. I'm so sorry he has acted like such a prick

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry :hugs It's his loss not your's. I'm so sorry he has acted like such a prick

pricks a good word thanks Berkeley:P
i cant help but think something is really wrong its just not like him you know? i mean a couple days is fine but he would respond to my emails its getting closer and clsoer to the day where he tells him if hes discharged or not its still a few months away but its definately looming...i just dont know im lost on what to do and what to think

You need someone better. You need to be treated like a princess. Remember to love yourself and put yourself first.

lol your right actually it woudl have been worse if it was an all of a sudden kind of thing its just crap my exdb and i stopped talking for two weeks and then he text msged me to tell me he coudlnt do it anymore...yah cool :S gah i wish i could have chocolate! whos idea was it for chocolate to have caffeine in it:(

someone who wasnt to bright aparently. They need to take chocolate back to the drawing board and take the caffeine out for you.

You need someone better. You need to be treated like a princess. Remember to love yourself and put yourself first.


lol he always called me a princess...maybe that was the problem:P
just kidding
but thanks i would LOVE to be in a relationship where i feel like its two sided for more then two months:( i was 2 dbs back and i constantly think maybe that was it :S gr i dont know im just being down

someone who wasnt to bright aparently. They need to take chocolate back to the drawing board and take the caffeine out for you.


lol decaf chocolate:P

lol decaf chocolate:P

its most certainly a thought. Hey we should try to make some. It could be our big venture. Make millions on decaf chocolate:P

im up for making millions:P

also boys suck:( i have to tell my best friend in a minute i saw a pic of her boyfriend kissing some chick on myspace :S dumb ass

turns out it was a joke...well at least thats one good thing for today

what the hell is up with all these boners dicking girls over? Seriously, it is so lame.

:hugs
i dont know much about you or your situation save for the bits and pieces ive gotten here reading about you... but you seem much too nice to put up with someone not willing to give you everything you give them.


... and decaf chocolate sounds like a dream... make sure you guys make dark AND milk decaf chocolate... i'll be your first dark choco buyer.
give me a tiny percentage of your makings and i'll help sell the stuff to everyone!! ;)

:hugs I'm sorry chickie!!!! I've got to work today, but when I get home we can chat ok!!! :hugs

:bigsadhug:bigsadhug Im so sorry hun. hopefully he will come to his senses and see how important you are to him. We are here for you!

eff him! you deserve far better. :hugs

what the hell is up with all these boners dicking girls over? Seriously, it is so lame.

lol agreed

:hugs
i dont know much about you or your situation save for the bits and pieces ive gotten here reading about you... but you seem much too nice to put up with someone not willing to give you everything you give them.


... and decaf chocolate sounds like a dream... make sure you guys make dark AND milk decaf chocolate... i'll be your first dark choco buyer.
give me a tiny percentage of your makings and i'll help sell the stuff to everyone!! ;)

lol thank you very much
i actually found out there is such thing as decaf choco but its really hard to find...so if we mass produce we can be the decaf hersheys lol

:hugs I'm sorry chickie!!!! I've got to work today, but when I get home we can chat ok!!! :hugs


Sounds good steph thank you:)

You know, it's his loss.

I have been in a relationship that was toxic to me. I knew it was toxic, but I hung in there hoping that the jackass would change. It never happened. I hung in because the guy was all I knew and I was afraid to be alone. This may or may not apply to you but in the long run, you have to do what is right by you. I think that he is a chickenpoop for not telling you what's up. He has the means to call you but he doesn't :dunno Real manly of him :sarcasm.

Please don't put up with the crap. Life really is too short to be living in limbo. :hugs You are a sweet person and crappy people will take advantage of that.

I am not trying to be mean to you.

:bigsadhug:bigsadhug Im so sorry hun. hopefully he will come to his senses and see how important you are to him. We are here for you!


i hope so...i doubt it thats what ive been giving him the last three weeks for so well see i guess but for now im just fed up

eff him! you deserve far better. :hugs


thanks luv:)

You know, it's his loss.

I have been in a relationship that was toxic to me. I knew it was toxic, but I hung in there hoping that the jackass would change. It never happened. I hung in because the guy was all I knew and I was afraid to be alone. This may or may not apply to you but in the long run, you have to do what is right by you. I think that he is a chickenpoop for not telling you what's up. He has the means to call you but he doesn't :dunno Real manly of him :sarcasm.

Please don't put up with the crap. Life really is too short to be living in limbo. :hugs You are a sweet person and crappy people will take advantage of that.

I am not trying to be mean to you.

lol how is any of that mean? ive been in crappy relationships too and in fact my last one was alot like this one unfortunately:S but they just start off good:P i agree im tired of limbo me and limbo have been hanging out for 3 weeks and hes annoying me big time :S i actually feel better about it for some reason now this morning i was a mess though:S

:( :(

Kirsten..... :hugs

You will make it through this. Get through it, not over it.
Enough of advice from me.

Heres a hug: *Wraps arms around you and gives you huge hug until you can't breathe anymore* :)

:( :(

Kirsten..... :hugs

You will make it through this. Get through it, not over it.
Enough of advice from me.

Heres a hug: *Wraps arms around you and gives you huge hug until you can't breathe anymore* :)

lol thank you i appreciate it i know ill get through it just like everything else it helps to have support from everyone too:)

lol thank you very much
i actually found out there is such thing as decaf choco but its really hard to find...so if we mass produce we can be the decaf hersheys lol

now THERE is an idea!
i had thought i might have heard of it too... but it just isnt big enough.

what you should do to sell it is... focus on parents of young children.
we all know chocolate can be healthy... but who wants their kids on caffeine from chocolate?! ... well now there is an alternative!! give your kids a treat WITH PEACE OF MIND!

:giggle

lol thank you i appreciate it i know ill get through it just like everything else it helps to have support from everyone too:)

Mhm...very true. That is why we are here!

now THERE is an idea!
i had thought i might have heard of it too... but it just isnt big enough.

what you should do to sell it is... focus on parents of young children.
we all know chocolate can be healthy... but who wants their kids on caffeine from chocolate?! ... well now there is an alternative!! give your kids a treat WITH PEACE OF MIND!

:giggle



hmmm you can be the advertising guru:P lol sounds like a good idea....

Mhm...very true. That is why we are here!

you have no idea how much sos helps me on a daily basis lol its probably the reason ive stayed sane over the past 6 monthsish:) its nice to know theres somewhere where people actually care, give you advice, and help pick you up when your down or smack ya across the face when your being stupid hehe

you have no idea how much sos helps me on a daily basis lol its probably the reason ive stayed sane over the past 6 monthsish:) its nice to know theres somewhere where people actually care, give you advice, and help pick you up when your down or smack ya across the face when your being stupid hehe

I totally agree. I seriously have gotten through so much being on here for such a short amount of time.
It has helped me realize I am not alone.
I hope you will stick here with us though, even though you wont be with your DB anymore.

im not blaming myself but jsut curious you think theres anything else i could have done...?

The only thing you could have done was to forget about him quite a while ago. JMO....if you have to put THAT much effort into a partnership then it's NOT a partnership. Hard to realize in this moment, but you don't want a guy like the one you have been talking about these past few weeks. Why bother? Don't give him the time of day once you get to SD. Find someone who deserves your effort and he ISN'T it!!

I totally agree. I seriously have gotten through so much being on here for such a short amount of time.
It has helped me realize I am not alone.
I hope you will stick here with us though, even though you wont be with your DB anymore.


i will:) too many good people to not leave after my last ex i chose to stick around and then ended up with another military guy! i woudl miss yall too much and i prolly go insane:P

The only thing you could have done was to forget about him quite a while ago. JMO....if you have to put THAT much effort into a partnership then it's NOT a partnership. Hard to realize in this moment, but you don't want a guy like the one you have been talking about these past few weeks. Why bother? Don't give him the time of day once you get to SD. Find someone who deserves your effort and he ISN'T it!!

thank you:) the past few weeks have been crap theres lingering feelings but i dont know one minute im golden the next im tearing up bleh i honestly just want someone who want to be with me and i dont want to fight for it anymore unless he is fighting with me ya know what i mean?

i heart you guys thank you

hmmm you can be the advertising guru:P lol sounds like a good idea....

yes! i think i can handle that!

and i (L) you too

lol yay
thanks again for cheering me up:)

you definitely deserve better!!!! I dont like that he is toying with you like he is. You deserve to have a man that treats you like a Queen!!!

you definitely deserve better!!!! I dont like that he is toying with you like he is. You deserve to have a man that treats you like a Queen!!!



aww thank you luv:)