My boyfriend has been working in my area in NY for Nuclear Engineer and just got qualified. He was told for months that they would pick him up as staff and he would then stay in this area for another two years. Well his order’s came in and he is moving to San Diego for four years, on and off a ship for 6 months at a time. He is to report Feb 13.

We are going to try and make it work, because we mean so much to each other that we have every reason in the world to try and make it work. But it’s like four years, that’s a long time. I can’t even consider moving out there for over a year because I have school and a job, and I can’t just get up and leave.

I have done long distance relationships before, and I know it only works if both parties try to make it work. But I have my concerns, my worries that it may not work, and I have expressed my doubts to him but I do not want to tell him anymore of my concerns because he has enough on his plate right now.

My friends and family are all supportive and say it will work, but it’s like there is no one else I know that can understand the mixed emotions I am going through. So hopefully someone here reads this and can maybe offer advice or let me know I am not alone!

Your not alone (-8 Welcome. I am Kyley...Proud wife to Kc (USMC) Currently deployed to Iraq. You will find alot of girls on here in the same situation

Hi there,

My boyfriend right now is stationed on USS Ronald Reagan in San Diego and I live in Reno, Nevada so I dont get to see him a lot. Same here, i can't just move there because I go to school here and we probably can't afford to live in SD. That place is so expensive. Anyway, I know that they have a big deployment coming up in May for at least 6 months. This will be his first deployment so it will be my first time too that he will be away for this long. Well, you are not alone. I am in it as well...i know that you guys will make it. So hope this makes you feel better!

when my husband first got stationed in san diego we did a long distance relationship for almost 2 years! its tough but you guys can do it!

My boyfriend is stationed on the USS Decatur in San Diego. It is a beautiful city with a lot to offer.

If you want this to work, you can make it. I am currently in Orono, ME (the completely opposite side of the country!) for university, and we are making it work!

Definitely possible to do it. My DB is in San Diego, and I'm in WA for school, so there's a lot of us going through this. We're one year down, about a year and a half to go until I become mobile.

If you wanna make it work, hang in there. And, visit when you can - San Diego is fabulous!!

How do you do it? Not having him there for the day to day life you had him before?

I am in the exact same situation...my DB is going to San Diego this spring...and I can't consider going for over a year just like you....because of my job contract...but we are going to make it work...and I believe that we can...and like you said if you both want it to work it will...plan times that you can see each other and it will make time go faster because it will be chunking the next year or so into smaller parts.

I believe in Travis and I that we can make it work. It's not the best situation but, if you love someone, you do whatever you can to make it work. Love is hard to find and just because you don't have things going your way, doesn't mean you should just give it up. I really love the support that everyone on this website has given me.

My boyfriend will be across the country for 6 months and then could be posted to one of four locations, none of which are near me... don't know what we'll do.

My boyfriend used to be stationed in Port Hueneme, and now is stationed in San Diego where he deploys with the Nimitz. I'm based in Las Vegas, Nevada and can't leave on account of my child custody court orders (they need their dad; dad needs to see them).

With a lot of faith and patience, driving and flying, we are making it work. Love is deepening on a daily basis, even if we do not share in day to day togetherness.

I wish with all my heart things could be different, but they cannot. Not yet, and not now anyways. Perhaps one day, change will come. But there are so many hurdles to leap over first. So, of course, I can relate to you.

Just hang in there. If he's worth it, you just don't count the cost or sacrifices involved. It'll get better. Really. ((HUGS))

good luck!

Welcome first of all!!! And hello I'm Corenn!! My hubby is in the Navy attached to the USS Ronald Reagan..but we're stationed in Lemoore..I've gone through 2 deployments and am preparing for yet another. It's hard but i'm sure you guys can do it!!! If you ever want to talk i'm here for ya!! As well as everyone else i'm sure!!