i get that you miss daddy little boy i really do. but if your attitude doesn't shape up or i hear the word stinkin' out of your mouth one more time i might cut out your tongue!! urgh sorry my 10 year old is pushing my buttons and when i go to tell him what i expect i hear well Dad would say this or that! well dad isn't here right now so you gotta suck it up and deal with me!:banghead:banghead:banghead:banghead:banghead

OH my goodness...I can see why you are rather frustrated by this...has daddy had a conversation with him about it via phone?

on monday when he called he talked to him about it but he actually rolled his eyes mid lecture! i was like OMG i am selling you on the black market! i was telling my friend he was SUCH a great baby and toddler and child now he is a preteen 10 years of goodness really can't last forever we knew it would bad at some point LMAO i know he is pushing my buttons and he does it for a reaction and lately 9 times out of 10 he is getting it i will not ignore bad behavior. his grades have dropped drastically since Daddy left, Daddy can't call often but e mails ethan weekly sometimes more than once a week and calls every chance he gets and every time he calls he gets to talk to them even if its just a few minutes. OH boarding schools now i know why they were created! my kids know the rules don't change cause Dad is gone, sure are allowed to off days, i know i am why can't they i don't expect them to be perfect but i expect and demand respect from them dad home or not!

Good For You (-8 A Strong woman you are to keep things the same even though you are both mom and dad in a physical aspect at the moment.

we had a nice talk tonight, me and the boy, he said some days he doesn't feel like he knows where mom is i said well somedays i don't know where Ethan is how about we both work on finding each other. it was really sweet, but getting that boy to sit still and do his homework makes me want to poke burning hot needles in my eyes. we will get through this deployment its just going to be a matter of who if he is in a body cast or i am in a straight jacket by the end of it! he is so smart he is in the gifted program at school and he used to love it but the work is getting harder as he is getting older and he is getting lazy and wants to skip through parts. i still check it and he has learned to lie. urgh now i knew it would happen i just wasn't prepared for it so soon.. but he has an amazing teacher who i communicate with to stay on top of him so he doesn't get lost in the deployment shuffle and i refuse to be one of those parents that says well dad is gone.. not an excuse for you not to be reading a book or doing your homework. that is just me though lol

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Thats so sweet that ou two could sit down and communicate. Communication is always key to any relationship and I am sure he appreciates having a mom who cares enough to pay attention to it. I see alot of moms who become to wrapped up in their own emotions that they forget about thier children and then they fall off the deep end

i try there are days OH he has his days i am by far not the best mom int he world and i know i could be better and working on ways to improve my parenting skills. but no joke if i hear stinkin' one more time i am getting a scapel and the tongue is mine. everything is stinkin' thats stinkin' stupid or that stinkin' game i know it could be way worse and he could be talking way worse but find a new damn word!! its overkill buddy overkill!!

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i get that you miss daddy little boy i really do. but if your attitude doesn't shape up or i hear the word stinkin' out of your mouth one more time i might cut out your tongue!! urgh sorry my 10 year old is pushing my buttons and when i go to tell him what i expect i hear well Dad would say this or that! well dad isn't here right now so you gotta suck it up and deal with me!:banghead:banghead:banghead:banghead:banghead

Mine 10 year old is a girl...same thing! I feel for you. :hugs

Our son will be turning 10 soon after DH deploys. This age is so emotional, major practice for the teenage years I'm afraid!
I feel for you!

i am not one to say OH its because Daddy is gone. i really think this recent change in behavior is a combination of the age pure and simple i am grateful he hasn't been lippy until now, maybe some bad influence of some other kids he hangs out with at school and in the neighborhood, there are only 3 other boys in his class so his choice of friends there is really limited, and daddy being gone lets see what i can get away with or do. OR possibly the boy has a plot to drive me into a straight jacket! Monday and Thursday were bad nights getting him to do his homework. he needs a snack and this and that, and his bladder must shrink when its 4 pm and homework time cause he has to pee more than a 70 year old! and i don't think i have a bad routine with them. they get off the bus between 2:45-3pm they have an hour to get a snack and play outside or watch a cartoon if its yucky out, then its homework. next week he is going to learn that you best have your snack before its time to start homework!

i try there are days OH he has his days i am by far not the best mom int he world and i know i could be better and working on ways to improve my parenting skills. but no joke if i hear stinkin' one more time i am getting a scapel and the tongue is mine. everything is stinkin' thats stinkin' stupid or that stinkin' game i know it could be way worse and he could be talking way worse but find a new damn word!! its overkill buddy overkill!!


you are right, it could be alot worse, I get those words plus others like today, he told me a was a f'in mom, he did not say the whole word it was )f-in) but I smaked his mouth for that one, he said he was going to take me to jail.. good luck you dont talk to me that way.... he is only 8. dad rarly ever gets to call, I have him in therapy still and they suggested he start a group therapy with boys that were only 8 and need to learn how to channel their anger so he had that first meeting last night and of course he will not talk to me about it, to him, this is all my fault, I am the reason daddy is gone in his mind. I try so hard to be patient but I will not tolerate him disrespreting me the way he has been sinc dad left. Daddy emailed him today about it and half way thru reading it, he turned it off & said he would finish it later, so I opened it back up and read it aloud to him and that made him angrier with me, oh well we will all make it thru this I just need a drink or night out with girls soon.... before I become bald and my eyes stick in a ugly direction :)

you are right, it could be alot worse, I get those words plus others like today, he told me a was a f'in mom, he did not say the whole word it was )f-in) but I smaked his mouth for that one, he said he was going to take me to jail.. good luck you dont talk to me that way.... he is only 8. dad rarly ever gets to call, I have him in therapy still and they suggested he start a group therapy with boys that were only 8 and need to learn how to channel their anger so he had that first meeting last night and of course he will not talk to me about it, to him, this is all my fault, I am the reason daddy is gone in his mind. I try so hard to be patient but I will not tolerate him disrespreting me the way he has been sinc dad left. Daddy emailed him today about it and half way thru reading it, he turned it off & said he would finish it later, so I opened it back up and read it aloud to him and that made him angrier with me, oh well we will all make it thru this I just need a drink or night out with girls soon.... before I become bald and my eyes stick in a ugly direction :)

AH hugs girl i don't know what i would do i would love to have words of wisdom for ya but i don't. i hope he straightens out soon. i don't know if i could deal with it. this week has been much much better for us but last week was rough. maybe just the tension around the ship. my Dh some stuff stressing him out so i am worried for him and that creates a circle. i hope your son gets better for ya.. HUGS kids can be so stressful sometimes and its so hard with little boys that really need their daddys around at certain ages and when hes not they lash out at whoever.