so seeing as how the db is in iraq i know i shouldnt do anything irrational etc which means im not. but honestly i don't know if it's the distance and all the time apart or jsut that i've had time to finally think for myself but im over it. i don't feel lovey dovey toward him i don't look foward to talking to him. when and if he calls i sometimes just don't pick up. i honestly think im just different and ready to be on my own for real. but it sucks cuz i can't break up with him while he is over seas. that just seems so heartless. but i also don't want to be in this under false pretenses and just nail it with him when he gets back. i dunno what to do. it's not like there is even anyone else. i just think im fallen out of love. and don't know what to do about it.

When my DH was gone, there was a time when I felt like that. I felt I was falling out of love with him. . . But I wasn't. I think it was just the distance getting to me. I hope you do the right thing and do what makes YOU happy in the end.

I went through this...After DH left I stopped writting him [the only thing i could do, as he was in training] and just stopped thinking about him & all....But then when he came home for Xmas i felt m ore in love w/ him then ever! So i think 4 me it was just not having that contact...Like relationships have [face 2 face, talking everyday, all the time, doing things] & the distance...Also the hurt in thinking about the love of my life being gone-- so i think i just tried to block him outta my thoughts so I WOULD feel better, kwim? I hope you do whats right 4 YOU!

I think I fell more in love with dh when all we could do was write letters. I think we communicate better through writing so we could actually express things better than if we were together. However, I did have a long distance boyfriend once where that happened. It was long distance the whole time, but he went even further to Africa for a couple months and we could only e-mail. I started being very vague in my emails, and when he started calling again I would "accidentally" miss the call A LOT. I waited until we were face to face to break up with him because I didn't think it was very nice to dump someone over the phone or in an e-mail. He later told me that he would have rather had me do it on the phone or something than pretending that whole time. When is the last time you REALLY talked to him? Maybe you should write him a letter or an e-mail and just kinda explain that you feel like things aren't the same between you and you don't really know what to do. Good luck. :)

first do you actually want to be with him or are you ready to move on without him? I think if you no longer want to be with him then be honest with him. There are going to be times where he calls wanting to talk to his GF and you will either don't pick up or if you do talk to him it will not feel right to you. kwim. deployments sucks, and I think you should do what's best for you and him. :hugs to you.

Wow girl, I'm sorry to hear this. I know deployments are hard. Do you really think you've fallen out of love for him or are you just missing all the closeness and communication? If it's definitely over I really don't think you should "pretend" for the rest of his deployment. I would definitely break it to him gently, preferably over phone with maybe a follow up email with explanations. It's so hard but good luck to you hun. Lots of hugs!!!

Wow girl, I'm sorry to hear this. I know deployments are hard. Do you really think you've fallen out of love for him or are you just missing all the closeness and communication? If it's definitely over I really don't think you should "pretend" for the rest of his deployment. I would definitely break it to him gently, preferably over phone with maybe a follow up email with explanations. It's so hard but good luck to you hun. Lots of hugs!!!


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maybe give it a bit of time and see if it's just the distance wearing you down..?

I went through this when my db left for ranger school. The time apart didn't bother me. I wasn't upset and when he did call I was completely indifferent. Are you sure that you have actually fallen out of love with him or is this a coping mechanism. Do what is best for you. You only have one life to live and you shouldn't waste it!

so seeing as how the db is in iraq i know i shouldnt do anything irrational etc which means im not. but honestly i don't know if it's the distance and all the time apart or jsut that i've had time to finally think for myself but im over it. i don't feel lovey dovey toward him i don't look foward to talking to him. when and if he calls i sometimes just don't pick up. i honestly think im just different and ready to be on my own for real. but it sucks cuz i can't break up with him while he is over seas. that just seems so heartless. but i also don't want to be in this under false pretenses and just nail it with him when he gets back. i dunno what to do. it's not like there is even anyone else. i just think im fallen out of love. and don't know what to do about it.

The first time Matt was gone I felt like that. I was just over it over him. But I wasn't sure if it was the distance or the what. I stuck it out till he got home after about a week I was right back where I was before he left. I think you're mind just tries to protect you. :hugs if you need to talk Pm me.

if you have truely fallen out of love with him, and are 100% sure you no longer want the relationship, i wouldn't wait until he gets home. i just dont think it would be right to "pretend" to be his gf. i think its tacky breaking up over the phone, but given the situation i think talking to him or emailing him with how you feel would be the best thing.

i know a lot of people who dont like the distance b/c they aren't getting to be held, or getting kissed or loved on. maybe its just that? mb you just miss him being around, and getting rid of him would be easier? just a thought.