Ladies, I don't know where else to go...but I need you ladies!

My husband is in predeployment training for his second tour to iraq but today he went to a psych. evaluation and they diagnosed him with depression, anxiety, and PTSD. I recently learned that he's been having "problems" for awhile and it got worse when he started gearing up to go again. THey're sending him to either Fort Knox or Fort Riley for help....I'M TERRIFIED!!! I can't believe this is happening to me...I'm soo scared for him. :tears:tears:tears:tears

He's going to be up there all alone and going through counseling. I don't know what to think or do at this point....I was stupid early and yelled at him about all of this. :vent:vent:duh:duh:duh I know that was the worst thing I could do but HELP!

aww :goodvibes i hope you the best of luck, be as supportive as you can! Maybe make him something to cheer him up. :hugehug

It's great that they diagnosed him now and he's getting help!

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I don't really know what else to say other than the counseling should help a lot and I'm sure he'll forgive you for yelling at him. This is a good thing for him and it's okay to be scared for him.

this is a positive step! It's also a scary one.
You will be JUST FINE. and it's GREAT that he's getting help!

maybe a good thing for you is on my army life too, the battle mind program is a training program for so's who have soldiers with PTSD.
also, there's a thread in here somewhere where i posted resources.

good luck and we're here for oyu.

kate

:bigsadhug

it can only get better

:hugs

Don't beat yourself up! You were taken by surprise and frustrated. I'm sure he's not mad at you for yelling.
He'll be alright. :hugs

Thank god they diagnosed him. That really is a blessing in disguise. I'm sure you feel incredibly overhwhelmed but try your hardest to be as supportive and understanding as you can be. I wish you nothing but the best!

I have been though two deployments myself and I have been diagnosed with all of the same things. Deployments change you and some people are able to push their feelings aside and move on. Maybe that's what your husband did and once he was back in training it reminded him of whatever he experienced. I have seen and been through things that I don't like to discuss. The only people I confided in was a counselor and psychologist. And it helped to talk, along with medications. I hope this works for your husband, but everyone is different. The best thing for me was having my loved ones understand that I'm not the same person I was before my deployments. My advice to you is just be supportive and let him know that you are there if he wants to talk, but don't pry it will make things worst. Don't worry too much. And be strong for him. There are a lot of veterans with these same problems. If you have any other questions or need to talk I'm here. :consoling

I first met my husband after his first deployment. I thought that some of the thinngs he did was just his way. Things changed over time and some of the habbits he had (like how he slept at night, the nightmares the jumpieness) seemed to go away. Well about a month before he deployed some of those old habbits came back. I believe it was his way of getting ready to go back there.I don't care what anyones says anyone who has been deployed has some type of PTSD you just have to be supportive and get educated about it. Good luck.

It is a very good thing that they diagnosed him now. The best thing that you can do is make sure that you are there for him and be as supportive as you can be.

I think, "Soldier at Home" had the best post. He hit the nail on the head and it was great to get an opinion from a guy who happens to be a soldier.

Hugs

I think, "Soldier at Home" had the best post. He hit the nail on the head and it was great to get an opinion from a guy who happens to be a soldier.

Hugs

Soldier@home is a female soldier. I'm not mad, just wanted to clear that up.

Stands for get the f........ jk. Wow, sorry for the error. Went by the pix. Still think it's a good post.

L.

I'm wondering why you can't go with him when he goes for counseling? Has the army told you you can't go? or are their other circumstances? I agree with what a lot of other people have posted, that it's a positive thing that there has been a diagnosis and the Army is taking steps to help him.

I want to thank everyone for their kind words and thoughts. Everything actually didn't turn out the way it was suppose too.....they Army actually sent him back home to seek treatment on his own!! Therefore, he is seeking treatment at our local VA but he still has to go and see the fit-for-duty board sometime soon and we'll go from there.....
So far, I can't see any difference in him except that his meds make him extremely drowsy but I don't know how much more we can take of this....

if he has trouble at the VA or feels uneasy he can also go to www.thesoldiersproject.org
Congratulations on a happy beginning! <3

not sure what to say? first a :hug, PM me if you need to chat. I would think if they diagnosed him, they are sending him for the proper treatment(s)? Just try to help him through it. Sorry to hear all this :sadeyes, :bouquet (L) Amanda