Today I was just sitting in school at my desk and I got hit with this WAVE of anxiety about the future...like when db gets home and everything...I have a LONG time to think about it...I guess im just worried that things won't work out or something, I have NO reason to think that, we have a great relationship...so i don't get it...

anyone else get a case of anxiety during this deployment...I know im not the only one!

I went through the same thing. It's hard dealing with so much uncertainty that you start to question the things that are certain(your love for one another or whatever). I get nasty anxiety attacks everyone once in awhile. It can be overwhelming. I'm sure things will work out the way you planned.

I got hit with the anxiety once we got engaged and then found out he's being deployed this year.
I get those sinking feelings now and again and of course we are in an awesome relationship so there is nothing to worry about.
But anxiety does happen...and it hit me hard cause i've never had anxiety and sooo much was goin' on.
I almost dread when he actually deploys....he just left today for one his trainings

I am going through anxiety right now. The DB is leaving again sometime in late Aug early sept for the sand box and I am beside myself. He leaves for his post in April so everything is starting to get to crunch time and I dont know what to do. He has talked about wanting to spend the rest of his life with me...But i have a fear he might leave me before he goes in April.

I'm petrified about the future while my bf and I are separated. I feel like he's going to forget me and wht good times we've had and I'll end up alone. Tis scary, and I kinda know how you feel. Not fully, cos he's not been deployed since Guamama, so... Yeah.

just wanted to give you a hug girly :hugehug I think everyone has doubts at some point and it is perfectly normal.

I went through the same thing. It's hard dealing with so much uncertainty that you start to question the things that are certain(your love for one another or whatever). I get nasty anxiety attacks everyone once in awhile. It can be overwhelming. I'm sure things will work out the way you planned.

I like this...and anxiety such a shitty thing because we are sitting here worrying about things that we don't even know will happen...its like a waste of a thought...I hate it...but anyway...yea i think things will work...thanks

I got hit with the anxiety once we got engaged and then found out he's being deployed this year.
I get those sinking feelings now and again and of course we are in an awesome relationship so there is nothing to worry about.
But anxiety does happen...and it hit me hard cause i've never had anxiety and sooo much was goin' on.
I almost dread when he actually deploys....he just left today for one his trainings

Everything will work out..I promise...Im psychic...haha, im a pro at anxiety (dealing with it) if you ever need anything let me know

I am going through anxiety right now. The DB is leaving again sometime in late Aug early sept for the sand box and I am beside myself. He leaves for his post in April so everything is starting to get to crunch time and I dont know what to do. He has talked about wanting to spend the rest of his life with me...But i have a fear he might leave me before he goes in April.


don't think that!!! Think that everything will be fine and it will! He needs you just as much as you need him!
I'm petrified about the future while my bf and I are separated. I feel like he's going to forget me and wht good times we've had and I'll end up alone. Tis scary, and I kinda know how you feel. Not fully, cos he's not been deployed since Guamama, so... Yeah.

I thought that db was going to forget about me when he first left...its been 3 months...he hasn't forgotten me yet!! so no worries

just wanted to give you a hug girly :hugehug I think everyone has doubts at some point and it is perfectly normal.

aww thank you!!!!!!! im doing good

I've been going through the EXACT same thing! It's like it comes out of NOWHERE! And it's just not fun to be in a public place (ie. work) and get these intense feelings and have to try super super super hard not to melt into a ball of tears right then and there!!!! I'm anticipating that this won't subside for me until about October! :sadeyes But I'm right there with ya chica. Feel free to PM to chat! And we need to try to get together soon since we are both without our SO's and we live pretty close!!

Aw i'm here with you girl... i've been having nasty little moments of anxiety/nervousness about the future... he gets home in April, i graduate grad school in May and NEED to have a job lined up when i graduate so i can start paying back loans, and he wants me to move out to Cali to be near him which i am so happy about, but im so nervous things wont work out or something and ill be stuck in Cali :no I dont have any reason to worry either, so i get what you mean..its like it sneaks up and you cant stop the thoughts sometimes

I've been going through the EXACT same thing! It's like it comes out of NOWHERE! And it's just not fun to be in a public place (ie. work) and get these intense feelings and have to try super super super hard not to melt into a ball of tears right then and there!!!! I'm anticipating that this won't subside for me until about October! :sadeyes But I'm right there with ya chica. Feel free to PM to chat! And we need to try to get together soon since we are both without our SO's and we live pretty close!!

Yea anxiety is a BITCH, it does just pop out of nowhere...but yea we need a get together you are SO close! and I want to get together before you move to San Diego....which im 100% jealous of by the way

Aw i'm here with you girl... i've been having nasty little moments of anxiety/nervousness about the future... he gets home in April, i graduate grad school in May and NEED to have a job lined up when i graduate so i can start paying back loans, and he wants me to move out to Cali to be near him which i am so happy about, but im so nervous things wont work out or something and ill be stuck in Cali :no I dont have any reason to worry either, so i get what you mean..its like it sneaks up and you cant stop the thoughts sometimes

I think you should just follow your heart about Cali...I think you should go, it will be like an adventure...and you might regret it if you don't...and you'll get a job...what are you going for?? good luck! and you will figure everything out

Hey girl - I think it's totally normal and something we all experience from time to time. Hang in there - it'll pass!!!! :hugs

Hey girl - I think it's totally normal and something we all experience from time to time. Hang in there - it'll pass!!!! :hugs

thanks...it always does, and i am beyond proud of myself with the way I've been handling this deployment so far...i just had to give myself a little pat on the back there haha

i'm a really anxious person anyway but yes i've definetly felt that way. DH is in tech school right now and we have no idea of where we'll be stationed, what aircraft he'll even be on, anything. It is all up in the air. And then i have to think about me getting a job and holding one even though we'll be moving all over. and what about trying to have a family!? the military is king of making me anxious. you just have to sort through things one at a time and dont' worry about things you can't change. if you aren't going to find things out for another year...than wait the year. don't spend it fretting. it doesn't get you anywhere. that's what i'm trying to learn to do now. it does get easier. but good luck. one step at a time!

i'm a really anxious person anyway but yes i've definetly felt that way. DH is in tech school right now and we have no idea of where we'll be stationed, what aircraft he'll even be on, anything. It is all up in the air. And then i have to think about me getting a job and holding one even though we'll be moving all over. and what about trying to have a family!? the military is king of making me anxious. you just have to sort through things one at a time and dont' worry about things you can't change. if you aren't going to find things out for another year...than wait the year. don't spend it fretting. it doesn't get you anywhere. that's what i'm trying to learn to do now. it does get easier. but good luck. one step at a time!

yup you are right! no sense worrying when you don't even know how anything will turn out!

Well there's plenty of time to hang out before I head to SD... because I'm not going until about Dec/Jan. :sadeyes

ohh I have bad cases of it, because db is applying for green to gold and if he gets it then he will be home in August and if he doesnt he is there another year.. i freak out about it... there are soo many what ifs in my life and I hate it.. uggg.. see way to bring on the anxiety.. :(

All the time and it looks like the fallout of our argument and my behavior 2 weeks ago is pretty bad. He's having second thought about moving in together when he gets home. I'm miserable. I'm putting on a happy face for him and telling him everything will be OK no matter what but its killing me inside!!

hey girl...well i think right now its DB having a huge case of anxiety!!! everything will end up alright in the end tho! even if it doesnt go how we planned!

All the time and it looks like the fallout of our argument and my behavior 2 weeks ago is pretty bad. He's having second thought about moving in together when he gets home. I'm miserable. I'm putting on a happy face for him and telling him everything will be OK no matter what but its killing me inside!!

it will be ok darlin! keep your chin up and smile, it releases endorphins!

Yeh, I get them. Originally me and DH thought we'd wait til he got home from deployment to get married because we thought itd be good to wait at least a year of dating (not counting deployments) to get married.. Well, I am VERY GLAD we decided to go ahead and get married before deployment. It's hard as it is, but I constantly remind myself that its ok, and that we are married now and have our lives to live together when he gets back. Its just a few months out of our, hopefully, long happy lives together.

Marriage just changed things. I think i'd be taking it really hard if we werent married, as Id be stranded in a strange place with no access to even the base...(Ive made friends attending the FRG of our squadron..and meetings are on base).. Its also put less stress on me as far as the finances go since we get family separation + extra money for being married.

I am just grateful.. But I still do get anxiety sometimes about future deployments and how things are going to be when he gets back. Its normal I think

I know what it feels like to be anxious....the 15 months we have to wait on them is a long time. Even if they are around us over that kinds of time feelings MUST change....however, in your case I am pretty sure they are going to change for the better. When he gets back you two are going to be stronger than ever. I find that deployements do that...either make you stronger or further apart. You are on the up and up girl! Never doubt yourself....you are a beautiful person (inside and out)!

Well there's plenty of time to hang out before I head to SD... because I'm not going until about Dec/Jan. :sadeyes

ok then!!!! it must must happen!! We only live about 30 min away from each other!!!

ohh I have bad cases of it, because db is applying for green to gold and if he gets it then he will be home in August and if he doesnt he is there another year.. i freak out about it... there are soo many what ifs in my life and I hate it.. uggg.. see way to bring on the anxiety.. :(

im sorry hunny...in your case i think it would be best to turn off the what if feelings completely...i know way easier said then done...but you can change or see the future so there is no sense worrying about it.

All the time and it looks like the fallout of our argument and my behavior 2 weeks ago is pretty bad. He's having second thought about moving in together when he gets home. I'm miserable. I'm putting on a happy face for him and telling him everything will be OK no matter what but its killing me inside!!

I really think as soon as you see him for r and r that he is going to go goo goo gaa gaa over you and all those feelings he has are going to go away...i mean the bad ones...he has to forgive you...im sure it wasn't that terrible...I mean you are waiting for him for God's sake!!! I think that deserves a little credit!!..if you need to talk please pm me!

hey girl...well i think right now its DB having a huge case of anxiety!!! everything will end up alright in the end tho! even if it doesnt go how we planned!



it will be ok darlin! keep your chin up and smile, it releases endorphins!

everything will work out the way its supposed to...I hate that saying but it is so true haha

Yeh, I get them. Originally me and DH thought we'd wait til he got home from deployment to get married because we thought itd be good to wait at least a year of dating (not counting deployments) to get married.. Well, I am VERY GLAD we decided to go ahead and get married before deployment. It's hard as it is, but I constantly remind myself that its ok, and that we are married now and have our lives to live together when he gets back. Its just a few months out of our, hopefully, long happy lives together.

Marriage just changed things. I think i'd be taking it really hard if we werent married, as Id be stranded in a strange place with no access to even the base...(Ive made friends attending the FRG of our squadron..and meetings are on base).. Its also put less stress on me as far as the finances go since we get family separation + extra money for being married.

I am just grateful.. But I still do get anxiety sometimes about future deployments and how things are going to be when he gets back. Its normal I think

Yea i think its very normal, and i wish that because its so normal that it would be easier but its not and that SUCKS! glad you are happy that you got married tho, sometimes I wish we had, but then on the other hand im kinda glad im waiting

I know what it feels like to be anxious....the 15 months we have to wait on them is a long time. Even if they are around us over that kinds of time feelings MUST change....however, in your case I am pretty sure they are going to change for the better. When he gets back you two are going to be stronger than ever. I find that deployements do that...either make you stronger or further apart. You are on the up and up girl! Never doubt yourself....you are a beautiful person (inside and out)!


and you are fantastic...thank you..Im hoping you are right...so far him and i have been doing great...no fights no arguments, just lovey dovey crap, and I hope it stays that way...I think this deployment is making us stronger, and it looks that way for you and your dh too...thank you thank you thank you!

Today I was just sitting in school at my desk and I got hit with this WAVE of anxiety about the future...like when db gets home and everything...I have a LONG time to think about it...I guess im just worried that things won't work out or something, I have NO reason to think that, we have a great relationship...so i don't get it...

anyone else get a case of anxiety during this deployment...I know im not the only one!

Hell yeah! I have had one those OH MY GOD whats going to happpen next moments around the 3rd month he was gone too. But I always do, every time. I think it is just a reaction you have cause you realize you are kind of putting your life on hold while you wait for him to come home, to move forward to the next step in your relationship. :dunno That is what brings mine on anyways.

Breathe through it and all will be right again, like you said you and he have a good relationship... you will make it through this!

Ash

Hell yeah! I have had one those OH MY GOD whats going to happpen next moments around the 3rd month he was gone too. But I always do, every time. I think it is just a reaction you have cause you realize you are kind of putting your life on hold while you wait for him to come home, to move forward to the next step in your relationship. :dunno That is what brings mine on anyways.

Breathe through it and all will be right again, like you said you and he have a good relationship... you will make it through this!

Ash

thank you...and i think you are right...it has a lot to do with putting my life on hold for him, and waiting for him and all that...its like OMG what if it doesn't work !!! then I wasted a year!!!!:wowsers...but I can't think like that...I have to stay positive...positive patty positive patty hahahahaha

I have to stay positive...positive patty positive patty hahahahaha

EXACTLY! :giggle

holy CRAZY anxiety today! HOLY HOLY

:wow:wow:wow:wow:wow:wowsers:wowsers:wowsers:wowsers:oogle

Oh boy I'm the same. When he doesn't call or anything for a few days, i freak out. Before he left I'd cry to him all the time scared he won't love me when he gets home because 13 months is a long time apart. And even now, I know I'm in love with him. I want to marry him and have babies and grow old together.. and he told me for weeks leading up to his deployment and even during the phone calls that he wants the same.. but because I have anxiety problems and I'm a mess, I still freak out. So I definately understand. but if he you know he loves you, just stay strong and be his support system. and i bet everything will work out fine =] us girls need to relax! they wouldn't make us wait all this time if they didn't want to spend their lives with us!

All the time and it looks like the fallout of our argument and my behavior 2 weeks ago is pretty bad. He's having second thought about moving in together when he gets home. I'm miserable. I'm putting on a happy face for him and telling him everything will be OK no matter what but its killing me inside!!

First off, Retrinfool, your post broke my heart! I'm crossing my fingers for your joyful reunion with him, and one without second thoughts on either side.

TallBlondie, Yes, Yes, Yes...I get anxious and usually over nothing. In an e-mail I just received this morning, my BD described me as his "earthbound angel" - and "understanding, supportive", etc. So, you'd figure me to be secure, right? Nope. I fear the big and little things all the time. I'm working on releasing the anxiety through writing and running, and talking to friends but it creeps up on me more often than I care to admit.

First off, Retrinfool, your post broke my heart! I'm crossing my fingers for your joyful reunion with him, and one without second thoughts on either side.

TallBlondie, Yes, Yes, Yes...I get anxious and usually over nothing. In an e-mail I just received this morning, my BD described me as his "earthbound angel" - and "understanding, supportive", etc. So, you'd figure me to be secure, right? Nope. I fear the big and little things all the time. I'm working on releasing the anxiety through writing and running, and talking to friends but it creeps up on me more often than I care to admit.

Running and writing are the BEST things to do for anxiety...like the ultimate best!! I do the same things...and I fear all the big and little things all the time too, even when I really have no reason to fear them