right now...

as some may have read...he blocked me two nights ago...this made the third night he got on and refused to message, email, respond...until he wrote me a message saying that he cant love me until he loves himself and i was just filling a void and he needs to be happy with himself and i help to an extent but he cant figure out what he wants out of life and who he wants to be and he can be what he needs to be for me until after he figures that out...thanked me again for everything ive done adn for caring for him...

hes said those things before but this time there was a calmness in his wording (yea still no phone call) and it made me believe him...so i just wrote back..."ok i believe u this time...stay safe...i love you"

and i guess thats it...we'll have to see what happens next...but i dont know how long i can go without actually talking to him and knowing he gets online every night and just ignores me...

dammit...im cursed for vday....the last serious guy i was with dumped me right before vday too...and then db was gone last year for army...and now i wont have him again...and im all alone here with out my close friends

:hugs :hugehug I'm sorry, I really hope everything works out!

Oh and I could be your Valentine :D

I'm sorry hun..I've been cursed the past few valentine's days too so it's not fun. hopefully this year i'll have better luck

:hugs I'm sorry sweetie!

I'm sorry. Hope things go the way you want them to in the end. HUGS!!!!

:hugs I'm so sorry you are going through this. It sounds like this is a habit of his. Is this something you want to work out or will you two just push through like you have done in the past?

awww im sorry! <3
i hope everything works out good for you.
I dont have anyone for valentine's day either...DB said no to being my valentine.."hes not the vday type" wtf?

well hang in there..we're all here for you <3


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i think he needs some time to himself...im not going anywhere persay...but i think he needs to at least feel like hes taking time to figure just him self out and not worry about me...

He sounds confused at the moment and I bet he is hurting aswell.
It does sound like he needs time to sort himself out. You can tell him you will be there as a friend.(listening ear ) if you love him and thats what you want to do.
I`m so sorry this has happened to you .
We`ll be thinking of you on Valentines day. :hugehug

how long has he been over there for?

I too, think he is confused, ever hear that saying can't love somebody until you love yourself...maybe thats what is going on here...maybe he is just SO concerned about making you happy and loving you that it is giving him anxiety about the future and the kind of guy he needs to be for you...

I think you should continue doing what you are doing, be nonchalant with him...don't talk to him unless he talks to you sorta thing...he will come to his senses and he will start missing you, believe me guys come back 99.9% of the time....let me know if you need to talk ok?

how long has he been over there for?

I too, think he is confused, ever hear that saying can't love somebody until you love yourself...maybe thats what is going on here...maybe he is just SO concerned about making you happy and loving you that it is giving him anxiety about the future and the kind of guy he needs to be for you...

I think you should continue doing what you are doing, be nonchalant with him...don't talk to him unless he talks to you sorta thing...he will come to his senses and he will start missing you, believe me guys come back 99.9% of the time....let me know if you need to talk ok?

you hit the nail on the head....hes been over there for about two months now...im going to just wait awhile before writing...and stop sending things...he said that sometimes it helped him and other times it made him feel bad...and im not going to email him or im him until he makes the effort...he is having anxiety about the future...like i responded to ur post earlier...he said he needs to sort out what kind of a person he wants to be and what he wants for his future...and he doesnt think now is the right time for him to be worrying about that, hed rather concentrate on his job over there...which I support. its just blows.

:hugehug just give him some time, try and support him no matter what. Stay strong!

So sorry to here that honey. :hugehug

I've been going through the exact same thing. :( You are definitely doing thr right thing by backing off and giving him space. Let him figure out what he needs to and just have faith that if it's meant to be, it will all work out. Hugs to you!

i'm so sorry :bigsadhug

i finally got to talk to him tonight...he even got on webcam with me...it kinda sucked cuz i didnt want to be crying at all...but things were sorta ok while we were talking...i stood up for myself and told him that I too could probably use a break realistically because i had started to let him walk all over me because of his situation...he also brought up that it will probably take awhile...a long while....for him to be at the point where he has things figured out....im not sure exactly how long that means...but i knew this time it was going to be a long time apart...i was able to get some sleep, sick as i am, and not cry myself to sleep....well see how today goes...

:hugs I really don't know what to say except keep strong

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Im sorry you have to gor thru this! ((HUGS))

I'm so sorry!! If ya need someone to talk to PM me...

i hope he comes around. hang in there and use this time to do some deep soul searching.

im convinced vday is cursed for me too :hugs sorry hun

i soooooo sorry

:hugs I'm sorry sweetie he's just confused right now, I think it would be best for the both of you if he took the time to find himself, give him some time

im sorry